Just don't have the will power
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Just don't have the will power
| Fri, 04-13-2007 - 1:32am |
It's just be so hard to eat right, to exercise and just basically stick to a plan. To be honest, I haven't stuck to a plan since January. I hate starting over, absolutely hate it. I want to feel refreshed and feel good about myself. I'm so tired of being fat and feeling paranoid about how others look at me. Just feeling like I want to conquer the world and loose this weight. I want to stop buying the junk food and eating chocolate and stop drinking regular pop but I have said it before and I will say it again, it's hard for me. I don't know if it's my depression and how I just stay up late and sleep all day till the evening time, but I don't have the energy to do the right thing. The right thing is to exercise, drink lots of water, and spend my day doing something useful. I'm feeling down about a lot of things that has nothing to do with my weight, just down about my life. A few weeks ago I thought spring was finally here and I was going to take advantage of it and get out and walk a lot with my MP3 player. I atleast want to look half way decent for the end of the summer. Can anyone here help me feel better about myself? Please help, I'm going crazy. TIA Susan

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Susan,
Sorry to hear that you're feeling low.
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
I agree with Annie, I have to change 1 thing at a time cuz I have no willpower either, and like everyone keeps repeating these have to be changes you can stick with for life.
Hugs to you dear cuz I understand not having willpower, hence the reason I have only lost 9 lbs in a year, and I have regained and lost those same 9 lbs several times in that year.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
Angela
I totally agree that making small changes and then adding more small changes along the way is the easiest way to do it. If you try to be perfect as far as eating exercise and drinking water etc... you are setting yourself up for failure.
good luck
Sara
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Susan,
Hang in there!
Susan,
I am making a suggestion for some action you can take. Suppose you committ to yourself for 60 days...that you will give this journey your utmost effort for 60 days?
Go to the store and buy yourself a notebook. Put a date on the top of each page. For each day think of four goals:
- An exercise goal (walk 20 minutes, exercise video, etc)
- A food goal (one can of soda today, two fruit servings today, etc)
- A 'something productive' goal (clean the linen closet, wash the kitchen floor, etc)
- An 'I deserve this' goal (manicure, bubble bath, buy flowers, etc)
You can use the same goals over and over, or different ones every day. If you can only fill in a week's worth, that's OK. Add as you go along. Or if you want to fill it in all the way through, that's OK. And if one goal doesn't work out, you can replace it at any time up until you go to sleep that day...
Soon after you get up, look at yesterday's goals. Write down how you felt when you accomplished each goal, or what caused you to not meet it. Then go back and read what you wrote every prior day. Then read your goals for today and reflect on how you can meet them (what time you'll do something, etc) If the goal won't work, replace it with something else. Then go about your day, and if you have to replace a goal, do it.
I suggest a notebook but of course you could track this in the Journals section here. I am just someone who loves notebooks.
If you want to, on any day you weigh, write down your weight. If you want to, give yourself a compliment every day, or write down something nice someone else said to/about you. However, do NOT write anything negative about yourself.
If after 60 days you don't see any positive changes, then tell me I have no idea what I am talking about and abandon this idea!
Everything you need to succeed is inside you, you just have to believe in yourself and that you can do this! I believe in you.
SJ
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Hi Susan,
First of all you have done the right thing! Seeking help and encouragement really helps and here you have it. Sometimes you don't see it even when it's right there in front of you. I had so many people trying to help and I just didn't get it ! But you have come to the point where you know you want to make changes and I agree they seem unsurmountable at first. I know how hard it is to finally decide and then make changes that may last a few months or just a few days which make it even harder to beleive you can do it again. Making a choice to live, to gain back that spark, the miricale your life is, is likely the most difficult moment in life. You have made the decicion, now how to acheive it, keep a goal and have it attainable. I can suggest a book that helped me, You on a diet, Dr Oz he's been on Oprah many times. Find positive things to read and watch. Make sure you're thoughts are positive most of all keep it simple!
You don't need complicated! Make it repeatable, the most important part is to get the best possible nutrition. So you can curb the cravings till they stop! Without proper nutrition your body will always crave. No matter how much you have it just does't satisfy your bodies nutritional needs. This is why willpower is an issue it's not YOU it's your body! Anyone who gets their weight out of control already is well educated about how to fix it and I shouldnt rant on. All I know is you can do it, if you do what you're doing. Ask for tips, talk to freinds and family , talk to everyone. What you will find then, is only good things.Then you will inspire someone you least expect like us, like your freinds and your family and finally the most important person, You! So Stand tall stand proud you deserve it!
Mark
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Susan, I'm so sorry to hear you're down. First off, whatever you do, stop talking negative to yourself. You don't deserve this. This is not easy for any of us and yes we all feel the lack of willpower once in a while. Heck I've been meaning to "lose serious weight" the past year, but I've been strongly lacking the willpower to do something about it. And even when I'm on track, there are times in the day when my willpower is heavily tested.
Start by only saying positive things to yourself. Don't say "I failed so many times".. instead say: "I never gave up and I'm trying again and again until I make it".. and so on.. each time you want to say something negative to yourself, flip it over and turn it to something positive. And say it to yourself out loud. Somehow when I say things out loud, it registers better. (Funny thing I know, but hey it works for me)
Now sit down and start thinking about the things that you can do to lose weight. Not the things that are hard, or prove a challenge (like trying to walk when it's freezing). But rather the things that you can do right now. Make a list from the easiest to the hardest and choose some of the list (even 1 item) and commit to it for a whole week. Even if it's something so trivial that you don't think it will give you results, never mind results (for now), you just want to get back in the groove of things. When the week is over, give yourself a reward for sticking to your goal for the whole week. Then you add something else, and so on. Once you feel you're starting those steps (even if they're small), you'll feel much better about yourself and soon enough you'll be excited to add more and more things.
HTH, keep positng and keep us updated
(on another note, are you taking something for the depression?)
Thanks so much for the tips. I do want to feel better about myself and so I'm going to set small goals. I bought some flavored water at Wal-Mart and so I'm going to start by drinking at least a bottle a day and see how that goes. Next week, I'm going to start walking for 30 min a day. I'm feeling better about myself already. Thanks so much. -Susan
Thanks so much for the Good Luck! I want to wish you good luck too!
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