Let's Discard Negative Labels!

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 9:29am

We all do it even if we don't say it outloud!

Annie

"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living.  We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  &nbsp

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Registered: 04-09-2007
Mon, 04-23-2007 - 9:37am

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I got out my summer clothes this weekend and none of the things that fit last summer are baggy in the least--confirmation that not only have I not lost pounds, I've not lost inches either.

Annie

"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living.  We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  &nbsp

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 9:43am

I'm thrilled about this post, but for a different reason. I had to think really hard to come up with anything negative I say about myself. This makes me smile :) I think I'm either

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 12:02pm

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 4:42pm
Funny I was just thinking of that....Lately I have been calling myself fat and realized I need to stop that. I have also noticed I say it in front of my nieces and nephews and I don't think that is a very good example. I mostly noticed calling myself names outloud when we were at the amuesment park and I barely fit on some of the rides.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 5:00pm

Your telepathy must be working overtime, Annie.

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Mon, 04-23-2007 - 10:34pm

Annie,
This is a great question! I am very hard on myself sometimes - thinking that I am just not good enough - not nice enough, not smart enough, not patient enough...

I know that I would never be as critical of someone else as I am of myself (although since I am 'not nice enough', I can be pretty hard on other people too.)

This journey has helped me with this - for one thing, the trainer I work with is liberal with praise - in the beginning I described the training as 'this gorgeous guy runs around getting me weights, getting me water, and saying 'Good job SJ', what could be better?' I realized that his praise meant so much to me that it made me want to praise the people who work for and with me so that they would feel good too. And I made some changes and people commented on it.

And coming here and seeing how everyone is so supportive and being able to offer support to others has been really helpful to me too. It changes how I see myself a little.

So I will try to lose these negative thoughts and see myself as a kinder, gentler SJ!

And by the way - I'm pretty sure when you reach Judgement day, the fact that your clothes from last year aren't loose isn't going to outweigh the fact that you are making a home and family for two children and your DH...fat or thin might be WHAT we are, but they are not WHO we are!

SJ
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