Yea Mary, I think some of it applies. As for solutions, well I think we all are already working on the solutions. We have admitted a problem, and we are trying to work through the triggers. Like I finally realized I eat when I am angry, not upset, but angry.
Mary, I think this is true, but I think it applies to a lot of things besides weight too-people who are chronically late, chronically messy, say/do inappropriate things, etc. I think a lot of people self-sabotage, and that sometimes professional help (therapy) can help people recognize and break patterns, and sometimes, you just screw up enough that you search your soul and figure it out yourself.
I also think its a lot easier to see someone else doing this than to see it in yourself. One thing that I get from this board is that I see the things that trigger other people going off plan, and I see that I do similar things...and while I'm thinking 'why did they do that?' I have to recognize that I do the same types of things.
I definitely eat for way more reasons than that I am hungry...and even though in my head, I know food doesn't actually solve any problems, in the moment, it frequently seems like a good answer...It may not be universally true that people who struggle with their weight are also dealing (or not dealing) with other issues, it is true for me. I had to be in a place in my mind where I really cared about myself to do the work to get where I am.
One of the things I'm working on is eliminating the "I can't" from my thinking.
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Yea Mary, I think some of it applies. As for solutions, well I think we all are already working on the solutions. We have admitted a problem, and we are trying to work through the triggers. Like I finally realized I eat when I am angry, not upset, but angry.
Angela
Yes I agree on that.
Maryanne
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Mary,
I think this is true, but I think it applies to a lot of things besides weight too-people who are chronically late, chronically messy, say/do inappropriate things, etc. I think a lot of people self-sabotage, and that sometimes professional help (therapy) can help people recognize and break patterns, and sometimes, you just screw up enough that you search your soul and figure it out yourself.
I also think its a lot easier to see someone else doing this than to see it in yourself. One thing that I get from this board is that I see the things that trigger other people going off plan, and I see that I do similar things...and while I'm thinking 'why did they do that?' I have to recognize that I do the same types of things.
I definitely eat for way more reasons than that I am hungry...and even though in my head, I know food doesn't actually solve any problems, in the moment, it frequently seems like a good answer...It may not be universally true that people who struggle with their weight are also dealing (or not dealing) with other issues, it is true for me. I had to be in a place in my mind where I really cared about myself to do the work to get where I am.
SJ
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