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| Thu, 05-24-2007 - 9:15am |
I realized something last night. Apparently not losing anything last week bothered me more than I thought, cuz I haven't done half as well this week as I did last week and it finally hit me last night that in the back of my mind I was thinking well I won't lose anyways so why care. Yea got to get out of that mindset and QUICK!!! It is just

((((Angela)))),
I know how aggravating it can be to feel like you're back pedaling!
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Angela
Angela,
First off - CONGRATULATIONS on the stairs!! Look at that ticker......you are ROCKING your May goal for stairs climbed!!
I completely understand your frustration however. It is so easy to get discouraged when you are doing everything right and the scale just won't move! I think as women we have so many hurdles to deal with - fluid retention, hormones, menstrual cycles, kids, partners. So many of these things are out of our control, but I think we still blame ourselves when the scale won't reflect our efforts.
As I have gone through this journey, I also have gotten obsessed with the, "Where's my freaking pound this week?" :D Everything we read does make it seem like weight loss should be this straight line graph of so much weight loss each week. (It has NEVER worked that way for me!)
After battling with this for years, though, and finally conquering several pounds, I have given up trying to understand how my crazy body works. Seriously, it seems like every month I hit a roadblock and can't lose anything no matter what I eat or how hard I exercise. Then I give up for a few days and like 2 pounds disappear overnight!!
So I admit I still watch the scale like a hawk, but I measure my success by goals I know I have complete control over. If I make a bad choice for a snack or skip a walk because I'm tired, that was a choice I made and I can correct things before they slide out of control. I have no control over what this crazy body is doing in response however or what my hormones are doing, so I just let them do their thing.
Congratulations again though!!! You should be very proud of your hard work this month!!
KD
Oh believe me I am.....LMAO this is the first goal I have actually made that I have set for myself in this battle.....LMAO It hasn't been easy though!!
BUT YEA I DID IT!!!!! and still got 4 days left in the month!!
Angela
Angela,
I have several random thoughts...
1. YAY for you about meeting your stairs goal. I find accomplishing something can sometimes inspire me to try something else-hope the same is true for you.
2. I think I've said this to you before-I think you are someone who will always have hard things to deal with-I don't know why that is true for some people and not others, but I see how many hard things you have already dealt with, and I know you can push on with this very hard journey.
3. Have you ever been tested for food allergies? I have a friend who has a gluten intolerance, and she has some things -asthma, trouble lossing weight, headaches-that seem similar to you. She manages with a very strict diet, and has felt much better since she was diagnosed although her eating is very restricted-I wondered if you've ever been tested...
4. I agree with KD about not letting the scale be the only judge of your goals. I like my goals to be based on what I can truly control - your stair goal is a good example, so is your water goal. Do you have a vision in your head of what it would mean to you to have a totally healthy life style? I am actually going to post a thread asking this question because I think it will be interesting to see what everyone thinks this means, but whatever it is for you, do you think you could commit to living like you already have those habits for a week or a month or some other period and see what it feels like? I don't mean living in a way that feels like you are depriving yourself, but in a way that is how you think you would be if you were totally on plan.
5. I say this very carefully to you-are you sure that your method of calculating calories is giving you an accurate picture? You don't post your food journal, so of course I don't know the whole picture of what you are eating, but I think a 16 oz soda is 200 calories, and a Happy Meal is around 600 (with the drink, of course). I don't count calories myself except in a way where I try to be aware of them-like reading on the small bag of chips that its '200' calories per serving'-then realizing that the crazy person who wrote the label thinks there are three servings in the bag. But I do know that I eat a lot, and that it adds up pretty quickly if I'm not very careful.
6. I am proud of you for the stairs, and I know that exercise is a huge challenge for you physically. But similar to food, are you over-estimaing the calories you are burning? It is pretty discouraging to realize how hard we have to work to burn even a hundred calories, and to not wipe that out with relaxing on the food size because we exercised.
I hope this comes across as supportive-I did say a couple weeks ago that I would hold you accountable, and that is the spirit in which I am writing this. I know that you will succeed at this journey because you are such a determined person...I am just hoping to put some things in your head for you to think about!
Very best wishes
SJ
225-168-135
SJ I posted in your other post about the healthy lifestyle. As for calories, I use sparkpeople and I figure it could be off some. I am reading labels and I do add the food if it isn't in there to try to be as accurate as possible. I even (gasp, can't believe I finally do this) measure my food & weigh my food. LOL
Yes a 16 oz soda is about 200 calories, and I try to stay away from it but when the headaches hit that is about all that helps at times. I don't know why tea doesn't but it doesn't. A lot less calories if it would. No I have never been tested for food allergies even though another friend has suggested it. I don't think I could handle being on a very strict diet. I am the kind of person that IF it is forbiddien it makes me want it all the more. LOL
As for calories burned in exercise again I figure it
Angela
Angela,
I see you have been doing so good for so long now.
Well I can't even get under 300 everytime I look i asm getting bigger.
Look at all the stairs you xclimbed that is great.
I am so proud of you.
I have to start again with my weight loss cause i am at the beginning again
Maryanne
326-326-299
Angela