Just can't seem to stick to a plan
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Just can't seem to stick to a plan
| Sun, 05-27-2007 - 5:30pm |
I have never really been able to stick to a plan and it's really frustrating to me. DH and I decided to do the slim-fast plan and for about a day we followed it but since then, things have gone down hill. We both have been drinking a lot of water which is good but we also aren't getting enough exercise. I deal with depression issues too so I don't know if this is because of my depression or not. Well it also seems that I don't have enough energy. I know my mom once told me that in order to get energy, I have to start doing something, which I find is true. My friend told me that I have to make time for things that are important to me. Which I do agree with. Sometimes I just feel like I don't have the zest for life like I used to before I was diagnosed with depression. It's hard for me to appreciate myself. I know this whole post is depressing but I don't know what to do. Anyone, have any advice? I would appreciate it. TIA. -Susan

Depression is very hard to get through. You need to do something that makes you happy. Something that every time you do it, you will be happy. For me, looking at my rock collection because i love rocks, or making sure my apartment is clean, even shorting my laundry, not washing, just shorting. I personally think diet plans suck. THey never work for me because I'm such a picky eater and I don't have time to sit there and measure every little thing or make special meals. Just get outside. DOn't go for a walk and plan to go a certain distance because it will burn so many calories. Just go for a walk to look around the neighborhood. Ultimately the goal is to loose weight. It' a hard and long road. It's not about quick changes and fast treatments. It's about working with what's out there that will work best for you. Ok like me there are some things i just can't have in the house like ice cream. ugh i loooooove ice cream. i have those freezer pop things they come in a box of like 100 for 2 bucks.. or something like that. it's still cold and it's still in the frozen goodness section and it won't kill my calorie count. Or bagels... they're yummy but dangerous. I just watch what i eat and make compromises for the things i can't have. but do reward yourself once in awhile. maybe once in a blue moon go out and get a small cone from dairy queen or go to noodles and company and get their small buttered noodle with grilled chicken breast (my favorite!!). Do not punish yourself if one day doesn't go as planned. just know that day happened and move on. every day can't be perfect. it takes a long time to get into the groove of change. but you can do it, i know you can!!
Audrey
Hello I felt the need to reply to your post. Better late than never I suppose!! Perhaps w you are looking at this whole thing the wrong way. I find that by saying "I'm on a diet" It makes it a whole lot harder than it needs to be. I know consider what I am doing a lifestyle change. Because after some of this weight falls off of me I will need to keep up the changes I had made and stick to that lifestyle in order to keep it off. The slimfast plan may not have worked for you but that doesn't mean that commiting to changing one thing at a time in ur current lifestyle wont work for you. Perhaps drinking one more bottle of water a day for a week. Walking for 5 minutes..........anything that can make you say I did it!!!!!Jump up and down I did it!!!!!! Just remember you are not alone in this crazy journey and that we are all here to help you as much as we can!!! If you find it hard to walk outside go to the local mall and walk in the air conditioned building. I know you can do this......What ever you do when you have a slip up don't beat urself up about it...Acknowledge what you have done say ate a candy bar then say slip ups are normal and I am human........Tomorrow will be a better day. I find the more I downgrade myself when i slip up the harder it is for me not to do it again
Hope this helps!!!!!!!!
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I agree with angie....it is hard to limit myself as well. Saying I am on a diet sets me up to fail. Slimfast, I have to say I don't see how anyone can follow, but some do with success. I just could NEVER do that.
This is the reason I don't deny myself anything, instead I tell myself I need to make better choices, do I do this every single day. No. Do I ever eat bad for you food, You bet cha. BUT I am still losing inches, and finally losing lbs to go with those inches. The thing is if you want to do this in 6 months, yea you are going to have to restrict yourself big time. But if you want to do this in a way you can sustain for the rest of your life, then it may (may being the operative word here as a few have done very well and lost a lot of weight in 6 months) take you a yr or more. Or as SJ is always saying, she is on yr 4 of her 3 yr plan. Well that is the way you have to look at this. I am doing this for my life, not just to look good.
I don't seem able to stick to plans either, hence the reason ihave worked around it. You can to. We have faith in you.
Let us know how you are doing!!
Angela
Hi Susan,
I just read your post and feeling as you are feeling it's no wonder you feel depressed. It is understandable to feel this way with the frustrations of a weight challenge but that which does not keep us down will make us raise up. Remember that saying--I am sick and tired and I am NOT going to take this any longer? You have some of that in you it's just lost at the moment. You know when down thinking keep us in low energy and events, thoughts, beliefs, emotions, and perceptions hold us back from success we feel defeated. Time to kick butt girl even if it is just a small part of the butt LOL. All it takes is just one baby step at a time and you WILL do it one day at a time--sometimes one moment at a time. What are you willing to do for yourself today? One small thing that you CAN handle. Figure out what it is and do it. Also please if you eat things you are not happy about don't beat yourself up--this will get you no where but it will keep you in the low energy. Our thoughts keep us trapped in low energy so try not to say anything negative about yourself and if you do reframe it with something positive, even if you don't feel like saying the positive say it anyway, it will make a difference on the inside of you.
Let me know how you are doing ok
Annie