THIS is why I never do it

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Registered: 02-26-2007
THIS is why I never do it
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 11:41am

Well, I've been pretty much NOT doing my diet for one month now. I was so successful and I just decided, hey, what the heck, I'll stop doing the work and eating what I want, I have done a really good job so far!

Here I am weighing in at 309.8 LBS today, still 19 LBS down, but angry at myself!

Why do I do this to myself every time! I want to succeed! I want to do it, I just have horrible willpower. This time, I feel like I keep turning my back on my program. What the heck can I do to get back on track?

I'm seriously at that point when you say, Oh, it's okay. I guess I'm fine the way I am and I don't want to be this person anymore.

HELP!

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Wed, 05-30-2007 - 11:49am
Sending hugs to you......don't give up. I know that is easier said than done, as I have felt the same way you say you are feeling now. I sympathize

 

Angela

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 1:28pm
Do't give up .......pick yourself up and take it a step at a time ....we all feel this way sometimes ,and it's ok .....just start again ..I know it's easier said than done .....I've polished off at least 15 half gallons of blueberry ice cream sense Dec ,but i know with the help we get from here we can do it ..Barb

Barb             

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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:02pm
THANKS so much. I appreciate it. I've been good today and I've been doing a lot of soul searching. This is something I can do, it's just a matter of sticking with it. I will stick to it and do it.
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Wed, 05-30-2007 - 9:04pm

Lyssa,
Sorry, I don't believe you....you do want to change...you know how to change...you deserve to make the changes. May I suggest that you go back and read your posts from a couple months ago and remember how GREAT you felt when you were on track? Why would you give up that feeling?

I know that you can do this, and I think you know that you can do this...

(edited to say-I was replying to your first post-I TOTALLY believe your second post!)
Best wishes
SJ
225-167-135




Edited 5/30/2007 9:05 pm ET by happysj56
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Thu, 05-31-2007 - 9:56pm

It's just so hard. I hit this point where I step on the scale and see 310 Lbs and think, I have close to 150 lbs to lose. I can't do it. I really can't. I'm lying to myself if I think I can and I get really angry with myself and backslide. It's frustrating and I just can't seem to get under 300 LBS. Ya know what? I am going to get up and go for a walk right now!

329/309/160

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 05-31-2007 - 10:10pm

Lyssa,
It is hard - this is about the hardest thing I've ever done, and although I am closer to my goal than you are, I've been doing this for four years-I knew it would be hard and I planned to lose 100 pounds in three years-and when I wasn't done after three, I thought-well, one more year, and I'll be at goal...and now I am still not done...and I am saying one more year...

The thing is, we aren't making a temporary change that we can stop when we get where we are going-it isn't like finishing high school or getting a degree or even having a baby where after a set period of time, you are 'finished'. We are in this forever-learning to eat healthy, incorporate exercise in our lives, take good care of ourselves.

Maybe it is too much to think of losing 150 pounds. You will feel better at each ten pound drop-under 300, at 289...etc. I fight for every pound, but if I never make goal, I still look and feel better at 167 than I did at 225...I was thrilled the day I went under 200...maybe you need to reframe your thoughts and just fight the battle ten pounds at a time, and think about what you are doing as building healthy habits for the rest of your life?

(and tonight, this pep talk is aimed as much if not more at me than at you)

I hope you had a lovely walk and that you treat yourself well tomorrow!

SJ
225-167-135

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Fri, 06-01-2007 - 9:42am
I think the most important thing here is to keep on starting over til you get the hang of it. You are so right it is HARD, very hard, and some days we are going to cave, but if we keep starting over, then eventually (I hope) those cave ins will be fewer and far between!! YOU CAN DO THIS!! Start slow, Make changes you can stick to, move more, drink more water, whatever you can do for 1 day, then another day, until it becomes a habit then create another habit. Like SJ I have been on this rollercoaster ride for a while, only I haven't had her success. I realized I have been trying for 3 year. What was my problem, it would take me MONTHS to start over when I got discouraged. Not until I started starting over quicker and quicker did I start moving in a direction. I have only lost 6 lbs or so but I have lost over 12 in since Jan 1st. We can do this and we will do this. GOOD LUCK starting over

 

Angela

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