I can't do this...
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I can't do this...
| Tue, 06-12-2007 - 2:22pm |
I found my wedding dress today. I was searching online, and I found it. It's the perfect cut, colour, and material. Then I envisioned myself in it, and I realised I can't do this. I can't get married while I look like this. I feel it would be a disservice to myself and to the photographers.
I will not book the church, I will not order a dress, I will not even look at rings until I am a size 16 or less. That's 8 sizes to go, or more if I can swing it.
I'm insane, but I'm also deathly determined. I am going to make this happen.
Wish me luck.

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((((HUGS))))
I understand the feeling, but you have to stop beating yourself up!
I just wanted to congratulate you, too and say that if you guys change your mind again I have an excellent preacher and photographer to recommend in Vegas.
awwww that's fabulous!! :)
Stop beating yourself up about it.
Sure your husband to be loves you exactly the way you are. Don't set yourself really difficult targets or you'll give up thinking your never going to meet them.
Also, you don't want to be so thin that noone can you, or that you get stuck between two very narrow pillars or something?
You may frown, but it could happen!
Good Luck! I know you can do it!
Evelyn,
I have never married, so I cannot be nearly as eloquent on this as Staci...but here is my two cents...
I don't know what your situation is - if you are living with your boyfriend, or if you are planning a long engagement, or if the wedding is more a party to celebrate than the start to a new life (I am not being critical of ANYONE's choices-but I am older than most of the people who post here so my perspective may be a little old fashioned)
But it seems to me that what is important is that you have found a man who loves you enough to want to marry you, and spend his life with you. And he has found a woman who loves him and wants to spend her life with him. That to me is what a marriage is. A wedding is a way to start that. I think sometimes the 'wedding' becomes more important than 'the marriage'.
What message does it send to him that you do not think you are 'good enough' to marry him the way you are? Or that how you look walking down the aisle is more important than starting your life together?
I am not suggesting that you shouldn't spend the time to plan a wonderful wedding as a begining to your marriage - and that in that time, you shouldn't work very hard to look your best and be your healthiest.
But life is very short - things happen that we don't anticipate, and sometimes, waiting for things to be perfect isn't really the best choice.
I am sure you will be a beautiful bride whatever your size.
Best wishes
SJ
225-167-135
AMEN to that SJ!!
When it comes to love, all that is important is that you do TRULY love each other. Then everything else just doesn't matter!!
Trust me. I may complain and gripe about dh sometimes, but I know I have it made!! I couldn't have asked for a better man or relationship!! I wish you the same!!
Angela
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Hi
I know you can lose your weight if you really want to. If you are dedicated. I am on a weight loss journey that started on March 10 this year. I have stuck to my plan and have enjoyed fanastic results. I was 392 to start ( I think I was 400 and a bit before I found a scale to weigh me) since then I have lost 94 lbs, I'm under 300 for the first time in I can't remember when. So what ever your goal it can be done safely and easily so you can enjoy your future in health and wellness till way way way way into the future!
Mark Macey
macey11@telus.net
Thanks for all your support guys. I'm still sticking with my resolution, and we're not booking a thing until I'm size 16 or under. I wanted to let all of you know that I'm not doing this for my fiance, nor am I doing this for cosmetic purposes. I'm doing this for me, because I deserve to look good on my wedding day, and on my terms. Now, I'm tall... almost 5'10, so size 16 is pretty good for a short-term goal. If I work as hard as I have been, we may be able to keep our past anticipated date of May 24th 2008, and if not I don't mind.
I also wanted to let you all know that I'm down 2 inches in my waist and 2 in my hips as well. Thank you all so much for your kind words and support, I don't know where I'd be without you girls!!!
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