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| Tue, 06-26-2007 - 2:15pm |
ok, so a couple people have asked for the the real story about being PG. So, I can't get into details because there are some things I'm not super proud of. In a nutshell, remember the wonderful man from the past that we did that whole romantic getaway? Well, we continued seeing each other. And about a week after I broke it off with him, I found out I was PG. So, we'll see what happens. He isn't divorced yet, and I am completely and utterly ashamed of that. But I am trying to make lemons out of lemonade. I am trying to NOT gain weight during this pregnancy and I need to stay active and healthy.\
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Thank you for sharing the story.
I don't think you have anything to be ashamed of. I'm sorry it didn't work out between you, you sounded so happy about meeting him before you left. Congrats on the baby. Do you want a girl or another little boy?
Dani, It doesn't matter how it came about.....I was curious, I had forgotten about the guy, but hey, like Staci said this baby was apparently meant to be so be happy!!
I am even more curious how much weight you had lost before you got pg?? You say you don't want to gain, but at the rate you were losing I would think you would have to.....LOL However if you slowed your weight loss down and you are still a good few lbs overweight then there is no reason why you can't gain very little weight during this pg and still you & baby be of the utmost health. I wish you the most luck!!
Angela
Dani,
I beleive that everything in life happens for a reason - and although we have to accept the consequences of our actions, we don't have to feel badly about them. I asked for details because I hoped you had some whirlwind wonderful love affair to tell us about - and maybe you do...the story might not be played out yet.
We all encouraged you to enjoy this guy, and hey, its the 21st century - few of us are in any kind of relationship and stay celibate...and one of life's big ironies I think is that there are people trying like the dickens to get pregnant, and others trying like the dickens to not, and somehow,we just don't always get what we think we want!
I know that you will be a wonderful mother to this baby, and to me, any child that is loved and wanted and cared for is a blessing on this earth. And so are the ones who aren't...but what I'm trying to say is that if the path your life was supposed to take was to have this man's child at this time, then that's what's going to happen - and the whys and the details don't much matter, only the love the baby will bring to you and your son, and vice versa.
Be good to yourself!
SJ
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Thanks for you sympathy on the loss of the relationship. We were very deeply in love. I just felt he needed to get his divorce situation handled before we could go any further. It was very hearbreaking and this pregnancy intensifies that. Oh well.
Boy or girl? Well, I do want a girl, but I would be happy to have a boy too.
I have lost about 100. I had been maintaining now for a few months. I think I can do this with gaining very little weight. I got my hands on a food pyramid for pregnant women. I'm making sure I get in what they recommend and NO more.
This mornig I had: 1/2 cup of Ezekial brand cereal, which is VERY high in fiber, low in fat and sugar etc. I had 1 cup of milk with it and 1/2 banana and a slice of toast with a dab of natural peanut butter.
For lunch i am having a Chicken sandwich made with Spelt bread with lettuce and tomatoe of course and some carot sticks with a peach for desert.
Snack I will have a Brown Cow Lite yogurt.
I'm drinking alot of water. I'm very sick though. Very sick. Throwing up and the whole 9 yards. I hope that passes soon.
Thanks Angela, for your support and not being judgemental on me. I think I'm pleanty judgemental on myself to go around for everyone. Of course, the fact that he isn't divorced is very hard for me to cope with. I've always been that woman that says, "Leave him alone til the divorce in case they can work things out" which, is exactly what I did prior to finding out that I was pregnant. So. I'm just overwhelmed with guilt and shame. I am sure I'll find a way to forgive myself.
Dani,
Thanks for sharing your story.
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Dani, I was the same way to a point. My Dh wasn't divorced when we got together althought he honestly thought he was as he had signed and everything but the judge delayed signing the papers til we had been together for a year, living together for months and had a baby on the way so I do understand but like SJ says everything happens for a reason.
As for the weight issue, my dr told me I could safely lose while pg as long as I ate a nutrition packed diet and at least 2200 calories. I lost the whole 1st and 2nd trimester with Blade and only gained 10 lbs in the 3rd and that was all him!! LOL So yea you can do this with very little weight gain if you still have 60-70 lbs to go as I think I read in another post. When I got pg with Blade all I needed to lose was that and she told me to continue losing. Don't know bout anyone else but wanting a baby was the only motivation that EVER had me succeed in weight loss. LMAO!! I lost 20 lbs in the year before I got pg with him because I couldn't get pg again after losing the baby before him. So that motivated me....too bad I don't have that motivation now!! LMAO!!!
You will be just fine!! Forgive yourself and move on. He may have been a mistake but I gurantee you that you will never feel this baby is!! Not the way I hear you talk about your son and the baby you lost!! And ANYONE who says otherwise is just crazy and don't know what the true miracle of a child is.
Angela
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