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| Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:52pm |
K girls. I'm checking in. So far I am 14 weeks pregnant and I have gained about, oh, 15 pounds. NOT GOOD! But, that was early on and I haven't gained any for a few weeks now. I'm still realllly trying to watch what I eat and I'm trying to do my walks twice a day.
I have bad news though. I had planned to go back on my plan(the low carb with my Dr.), when I was done being pregnant to get all of my baby weight back off and get that last 60 pounds off once and for all. Well, bad news is, I can't do that anymore. And the even worse news is the reason. Let me preface this by saying I have never done drugs in my life. I've always been in monogomous relationships, well at least IIIII was monogomous. Who knows about the men. Anyway, I was diagnosed as having Hepatitis B.
So, as all of you know, I was already having a very trying time with being a single mom, being pregnant, the father and all of HIS situations right now, blah blah blah. So this news has hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't know how I'm going to be a single mother of two kids, raising them and supporting them on my own and now to be faced with serious, life threatening health issues.
So, I'm really freaked out about how I am ever going to get this weight off when this pregnancy is over if I can't go on my plan. Not to mention being freaked out anyway. I guess that puts the nail in the coffin of me ever being able to date again. Please pray for me.


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(((((Girly))))), that is horrible news, but it's NOT hopeless!
Dani, try not to dispair, Hep B is treatable!! I know you being pg makes it harder to treat but try not to lose hope. You have 2 babies depending on you right now and you are a strong woman, YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!
As for the men, They are jerks if they don't see that.
I didn't know about the dad wife getting pg too and I am sure that makes this all the more difficult but keep in mind what a strong woman you are.
Angela
Dani,
First - (((HUGS))))
Second - I know that things seem overwhelming right now...you are dealing with a lot of different issues. I suggest that you take things just a little at a time. Right now, what matters is having as healthy a pregnancy as you can - listening to your doctor, following a healthy eating plan, being as active as you are allowed to be. You have several months to focus on that.
Once you have the baby, then you can think about getting in even better shape. I know you had a lot of success with the supervised, super-strict low carb weight plan, and you were planning to use it again. But that is not the only way to lose weight - it was fast for you, which I know you felt you needed, but you will be in a different place, your body will have changed, and you will need to try some other things- just because you can't do what you were planning, I know that doens't mean that you're thinking -hey pizza and chocolate, three times a day...if you follow a healthy eating plan while you are pregnant, then a few modifications to that when you are not will take you to a healthy way to eat. And if you are able to stay active, then adding in walking, maybe a little lifting, a few other things in the little time you'll have with a baby will be do-able. The next losses might be slower but you'll get them.
Frankly, I wouldn't be too worried about not dating for a while...I think you'll be kind of busy with two little ones, and meeting a guy might not be what you most need...Please, please don't take this the wrong way...but isn't it those guys who got you in the situation you are in? Maybe some time where you just focus on you and your kids would be really good for you. And if Mr. Wonderful is out there, he will find you and the two of you will find a way to work things out.
But for now, can you just focus on today and tomorrow and how to get through that?
And I remember that prayer is important to you - if that seems like it will help, then I suggest 'letting go and letting God'. I am not that religious, but I do think everything happens for a reason, we just can't usually tell what it is...
Third - more ((HUGS)))
SJ
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((((DANI)))),
The initial blow of this news must have been so upsetting to you!
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Thanks. But, as far as dating, hello, of course I know I'll be busy with two little ones. I took 2 YEARS off dating after my divorce so that I would be able to do so. I had JUST started getting myself back into shape and JUST started dating with the intent of finding someone to share my life with. When you say, "Isn't it these men that got you into these situations..." it makes me feel you think I'm one of those women who can't live without a man. Well, thank you very much but I can handle that just fine. However, I would have liked to be able to find someone to share my life with, which is what most people want. It's what I thought I had when I got married in the first place. Usually people say, "Maybe you just need some time to focus on you..." after they have been relationship jumping. That's not me. I almost ALWAYS take LONG breaks between relationships. I'm talking YEARS and I do it so that I CAN make sure I don't get into an unhealthy pattern.
Anyway, I appreciate your concern, but I was just coming off a 2 year long healing process from the divorce. When I ended things with Rob I planned to take a few months to heal and then accept a date here and there etc. My life has been about nothing but my son since he was born. I was just starting to allow myself my own time, time for me, time to find happiness for me. And frankly, I don't see anything wrong with that. However, I was already hopeless enough that I would live my life as a single parent with noone to share in the joys and sorrows with. But now with this new development, I pretty much KNOW that will be the case. So excuse me for feeling a little sad about the outcome of my life.
Thanks. Yea, I definately have been getting educated. Unfortunately, mine is the active, chronic type. It's like 5% of the people with Hep B have the way I have it. Most people, even if it is communicable, have it where it's dormant and inactive. But, mine is active. I've been drowning myself in my own test results, looking stuff up online, talking to my Dr., finding the liver specialist etc. Although we won't know for sure how I got it, or when I got it, the results all point to me having it for quite some time now. Dr. thinks I got it from my blood transfusion when I had my son 4 1/2 years ago.
My son is fine because he's been vaccinated. Baby will most likely be fine too, baby will be vaccinated at birth.
I will be meeting with a dietician sometime this month to change my diet to a low protien diet to make it easier on my liver. I have to get rid of my dog because of my delicate immune system. They can't do any treatments for me until the after the baby is born.
I will come into a positive state of mind. I'm just still in shock.
Annie
"We do not think ourselves into new ways of living. We live ourselves into new ways of thinking."  
Oh I know and agree: thing can always get FAR worse! That was one thing my Dr. did say was, "This baby may be saving your life". It's not that I think I have it all that bad, there has just been alot to cope with. Have others had it worse? OF COURSE! And I am very thankful for what I do have etc. I just wish everyone could realize that I just got this news like 2 days ago. I am shocked, horrified, scared, sad etc. Anyone in this situation would be. I'm still processing my Dr's words, "You aren't a candidate for a liver transplant so we need to keep yours going as long as we can. With your immume problem that you already have along with this does not make for a good scenario. It will take us a number of months worth of tracking the virus to fully understand what your life expectancy will be........We can't treat you while you are pregnant so we need to monitor you very closely....." It's just been a nightmare. I do appreciate everyone's being a cheer leader. I need it right now. But it is not going to make me instantly snap out of the shocked and overwhelmed state I am in right now.
Last night my ex-husband and I were discussing the fact that if something does happen to me I don't want the kids seperated and so he has agreed to try to get the father of this baby to sign away his rights and allow my ex-husband to adopt. This is the stuff I'm faced with right now. And I'm just scared. But you are right, it could always be worse. I just don't know how to face all of this. I just don't know.
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