I have bad news

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Registered: 07-31-2006
I have bad news
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 3:52pm

K girls. I'm checking in. So far I am 14 weeks pregnant and I have gained about, oh, 15 pounds. NOT GOOD! But, that was early on and I haven't gained any for a few weeks now. I'm still realllly trying to watch what I eat and I'm trying to do my walks twice a day.

I have bad news though. I had planned to go back on my plan(the low carb with my Dr.), when I was done being pregnant to get all of my baby weight back off and get that last 60 pounds off once and for all. Well, bad news is, I can't do that anymore. And the even worse news is the reason. Let me preface this by saying I have never done drugs in my life. I've always been in monogomous relationships, well at least IIIII was monogomous. Who knows about the men. Anyway, I was diagnosed as having Hepatitis B.

So, as all of you know, I was already having a very trying time with being a single mom, being pregnant, the father and all of HIS situations right now, blah blah blah. So this news has hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't know how I'm going to be a single mother of two kids, raising them and supporting them on my own and now to be faced with serious, life threatening health issues.

So, I'm really freaked out about how I am ever going to get this weight off when this pregnancy is over if I can't go on my plan. Not to mention being freaked out anyway. I guess that puts the nail in the coffin of me ever being able to date again. Please pray for me.

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Registered: 01-25-2006
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 3:45pm

WOW!! Dani, you really have been thinking non stop. I am in shock that your ex (anyone's ex) would agree to this scenario but I am very glad to hear that he has. You mentioned an immune disorder that you have in addition to the Hep B. Do you mind my asking what that is? I don't recall if you have mentioned it before but I do not have the best memory so.......If you do mind, then I completely understand. I like that you are looking at this baby as a godsend to you. I am glad you are thinking ahead for your children. I do hope that you are able to treat this agressively as soon as the baby is born, and that you live a long life and see your kids grow up. As far as being alone for the rest of your life, PLEASE dont feel this way. If Mr. Right comes along he may not care, he may love you so much that he is willing to get vaccinated and then be happy with you for who you are.

 

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 5:13pm

Hi Dani,


Sorry to be so late adding my two cents here...and I think everyone else has said it all.

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Thu, 08-23-2007 - 7:18pm

Thanks Angela! I just want to focus on the good things. Like, not gaining too much weight during my pregnancy. Teehee! And, my wonderful son who I adore and this baby that I already am in love with. And, of course my wonderful family, friends and ex-husband. And everyone on this board who is always so supportive, caring, honest etc.

I usually have such a can-do attitude and I know will with this too. I will have to check in my med records to find out the name of my immune deficiency. It has to do with the first time I had Rheumatic fever. It's not super bad, I don't have to have treatments for it, however, every time I get sick, no matter what it is, to the Dr. I go. And, before I get my teeth cleaned, before any procedure etc, I have to take antibiotics. If I get so much as a paper cut I have treat it and it often gets infected and requires further care. I get very sick, very easily and very quickly. So, I try to take good care of myself. That's that.

I know I can do this. I am going to just do everything I can to stay healthy while pregnant and when I am done I'm going to start my treatments ASAP and do everything I can to live a nice long life. :) And even though i can't go back on my plan(this realllly upsets me), I am GOING TO LOSE THIS WEIGHT! :)

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Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 08-23-2007 - 9:13pm

Dani,
I am sorry to have added to your pain. I am sometimes militantly single and anti-men, and I shouldn't have inflicted that on you.

What I was trying to convey is that I know that you will get through this and come out OK becuase you are a wonderful person. I'll just leave it at that.

SJ
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Fri, 08-24-2007 - 11:19am

Oh, you didn't add to my pain. I add to it all on my own. lol
I knew you didn't mean harm by it and I certainly didn't mean to snap at ya. I was just trying to convey that I'm not the kinda gal that "needs to have a man" to be happy. Never have been, never will be. But, I kinda would like to have someone to share my life with. Hey, at least I'll have my kids to share it with.

My family always gets onto me for taking such long breaks between relationships. When they do that I always say, "I am a 100% complete woman without a man in my life, but thanks." And I think you would agree with that statement. I truly do feel that way. But, it doesn't stop me from wanting to have someone to share my life with. I miss being married. I loved being a wife and mother. And I still love being a mother, but I miss the married part too. I don't know why, I just do. I took alot of pride in the kind of wife I was and mother I was.

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