Another Newbie

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Wed, 08-25-2010 - 5:42pm
Hi, everyone, Connie here. Here's my quick background: had my girls young and kept my weight in check, then my life changed---got divorced, kids went away to college, relocated to new city.....and let the weight go out of control. Six years later, kids have finished college and gotten married with children. Even I remarried. Now, I look at wedding pictures from my daughters' weddings and wonder, "who is that woman with the triple chin?" Work got very stressful this year. Although not good, it sent me into a tailspin and the result is a new me focused on me. I have lost 47 pounds with 58 to go. My BMI has gone from 38.3 to 30.3. Needless to say, I started exercising again. Nothing like I used to do which was walking/jogging 10+ miles daily. I stopped eating everything my husband offered to me. I started cooking again—healthy cooking. My husband knew me before the weight, married me in the midst of putting on the weight, and now is generally supportive of losing the weight. He is height to weight proportionate. Heart disease and high blood pressure run in my family, so my daughters have begun to worry and nag about my weight. They are thrilled to see it coming off. The last two weeks I hit a plateau. I knew it was coming, but I still hated it when it happened. I kicked up the exercise and the weight is slowly beginning to shed again. My husband suggested that the plateau is Nature’s way of realizing my normal weight. Sometimes, I think he just doesn’t get it. I want to see a waistline again. I want to be able to tuck shirts in. Help!! How do you “nicely” remind your loved ones to not sabotage you?

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 5:10pm

Other than chocolate chip cookies, I don't have much of a sweet tooth either, but I definitely love chips and dip or just large portions of anything healthy. I can take the healthiest of foods and make them unhealthy, when I eat my preferred portion.

Connie

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 4:38pm

Connie, fortunately I don't have much of a sweet tooth, though I can't resist fresh baked chocolate chip cookies when my daughter makes them, so she's only allowed to bake them when I'm at work, and then she has to air the house out so I don't smell them and keep them in a plastic container in her room.

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Sun, 08-29-2010 - 3:56pm

I absolutely agree. On my mother's side of the family, all of the women over 40 are overweight, from slight to significant. My oldest watches her weight especially, since having a baby. My youngest had one baby and quickly became pregnant with her second child. She is going to need some guidance, when number 2 is delivered, this Fall. I, too, want to drop my weight to be an example, once again, for my girls and now my grandchildren.

I agree. I must say, "enough is enough"--when it comes to the fatty (yet yummy) gravy and the 5 extra chocolate chip cookies.

Connie

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 9:53pm

Connie,


I look at the pictures of the wedding - and - well, let me explain this...


My son and his bride both need to lose a lot of weight - they probably both should be on this board as well...


Be that as it may, my son looks to me.

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 8:06pm

Hi, jadashelbie. I have cheated and had things off my plan only to have painful stomach aches and be smacked with the realization that the item didn't even taste as I remembered. Sadly though, I would continue to eat the whole thing.

Connie

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 8:04pm

Hi, Liz. My hubby tries to be helpful and share whatever he is having for himself with me. Good intentions. I was never a coffee drinker. He loves Starbuck's. When we began dating, he would bring me Starbuck's daily; we work for the same company. I never refused and added the high calorie drinks to my daily diet without adjusting anything else. Now, we have cut Starbuck's out of our life and only once a week now does he try to share food with me.

How heavy with love was your heart, when your son got married? With my girls, I though my heart was going to explode.

Let's keep striving for our goals through the ups and the downs.

Connie

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Sat, 08-28-2010 - 5:12pm

Hi Connie and welcome! I don't have advice for family that sabatoge as with all my health problems my family accomodates my new healthier lifestyle. I guess im very lucky in that way. I know my sister once had me make her grilled cheese and tomato soup and I ate that instead of my dinner I had planned and ended up having a gain that week and I felt sick! I no longer do that I just flat out tell her that my life is worth more than feeling sick over that kind of food. I just didn't like the stomach problems and the sluggishness that came with it and it really didn't taste that great like I remembered!


I wish you luck and congrats on how far you have already come!

 


 


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Registered: 05-05-2009
Sat, 08-28-2010 - 4:24pm

Hi Connie, and welcome to our board.


Congrats on the progress you've already made!

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Thu, 08-26-2010 - 11:09am
Thanks, SJ. That is good advice, because I think my husband definitely confuses food and love.

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Wed, 08-25-2010 - 10:20pm

Connie,


Welcome to the board.