Worried about TJ .. *m
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| Thu, 07-31-2003 - 6:26am |
(sigh) THe thing is, he is large ..5"11 and 271 lbs. He's on the school football team. Last week, he has his physical. The team doctor noted he needed to be about 50 lbs less. The doctor also stated he is "Obese". I always reasoned he would outgrow it. T works out everyday, and (when I am around) eats the "right" stuff. I told him not to eat at night. However, the evidence is there in the sink when I get up in the morning.
He has to have a blood pressure check everyday before a practice. I always tell him to be careful when he goes out on the field. (Water, listen to his body, etc.) and he looks up in the sky like he doesn't know where he got me from, and says he does.
He has two examples .. me and Terry. Terry (the spouse) is the UCP (Ultimate Couch Potato) and junk food lover. I am the antsy fitness love and try to eat healthfully. He, of course, follows his dad's lead. He's going to the Y, and he is solid (good muscle), but you can see the layer on top of his muscle. TJ, like his father, thinks the Firm is fluff.
I am so worried from the stories about any player getting overwinded and falling our of cardiac arrest. I would just DIE!!
I know he has to make his choices, but I can't quite squelch this worry. I've been working out for 12 of his 17 years. Somehow, inspite of my best intentions, I can't reach him. I feel like I failed him.
Thanks for letting me talk. (Small smile) I love my sons, so! THe bums!!
Cee

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Phyllis
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Phyllis
more than you think.I understand your worry.I'll keep you both in my thoughts.Hang in there Cee!!!
Miss P
Thinking about you and praying for you and TJ (and your couch tater DH!).
Sassy
I don't blame you for being concerned and would keep setting that good example. You may even get him to join in some exercises or walking with you eventually.
Good luck!
Rhonda
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You are doing a fantastic job setting a good example for your guys. I'm guessing that TJ hears more than you think he does. He might not want you to, but keep at it. While he's rolling his eyes, his brain is working. YOU talk with his doctor and tell him your concerns. See what the doc has to say about TJ's heart and his overall health. I'm betting that if the doc thought he was in danger, he'd nix the football in a hurry. Freak medical problems do happen...they can happen to anyone at anytime totally unexpected. I know it's hard, but try not to worry, if that's possible.
Lori
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About your guy TJ, he is young and he still has some growing to to but since he is playing a physical sport for the school maybe its time the coach stepped in more, with your blessings of coarse. Just a thought. Have you voiced your concerns and agreement with his coach in private? Has the coach explained to TJ he might get cut from the team because on being unhealthy? If so, is there a chance the coach can have a serious pow-wow with TJ, telling him if he wants to continue to play for the team he needs to try and knock some of the extra weight off. Maybe if it comes from the coach. Might the coach give him some additional ideas to do in the exercise dept. Might the coach help organize some kind of fitness program in school. I am sure TJ is not alone. I am not saying have the boys do a Richard Simmons tape or go to Jazzercise but we know there are things he can do and be happy. This low carb thing, like Atkins is very popular with me because they love protien. Talk to his doc in my detail too. I would not let the ball drop. I think you and your hubby need to present your worries, concerns, and love together. I know this is hard and please keep us posted. I wish you luck and if there is anything else I can do please let me know.
Deb
PS: I hope my thoughts were alright and I did not get you or anyone else upset with them.
Debbie
Who's in charge of grocery shopping in your house? If it's you, you can start being more agressive about what snacks are in your house - and enlist your DH's help for his son's sake. If DH wants to stuff up on junk food, he'll have to do it at work or when his son is not around. 50# for a teenager is a lot, and if he doesn't pursue football in college or beyond, he could easily have a bigger problems, not only in excess weight, but serious health concerns at too young an age.
As for the other things (picking on his siblings, not cleaning up, rolling his eyes)... sounds like a normal, know-it-all teenage boy. Hugs on that, too ;^).
Cussette
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You are certainly setting a wonderful example for your son and your UCP! I think they find it very difficult to admit that maybe Mom and the female gender could perhaps be right! Hopefully his coach and the dr. will get through to him! I also have a 17 year old DS and although at 6'and probably a mere 120 lbs I worry about his eating habits-it's full of lots of junk food and fast food with lots of midnight runs to Taco Bell. Either way you love them lots but they can drive you crazy!
Thinking of you!
Susan
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