Hey...Eric reminded me it's our anniver.

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:22am
Today is the anniversary of our 2nd wedding--the wedding I call the "one that made Eric's Mom happy because he married a scandalous divorcee who then converted to Catholicism to please Eric's Mom."

Yes---they don't "divorce" in Eric's family--no kidding, I can't name one divorce. I can, however, name a lot of aunts/uncles and cousins that never ever got married! Enter Deb...perky and 32, married 12 years previously and separated when I met his family---to the picture.

My mom was ****mad*** that I was converting, his family was super happy, even more so that we were having a "real" wedding. We eloped the first time because it was such a dam* hassle trying to please everyone. AND I still felt super guilty about leaving hubby #1. Hubby #1 is a great guy and felt no guilt having a big fancy wedding to wife #2 LOL!

Anyway---as I struggle with hoping to fit well into my dress this weekend, Eric wants to go out to dinner to celebrate. I figured with three hours of fitness today that's ok. I won't piggy wiggy out. OR, I'll simply pick up sushi to celebrate.

So...we were married in the church August 5, 1995, and we eloped at home without anyone but best friends around us January 1, 1994.

So---did you have a big wedding????? When were you married? CURIOUS poll from

--->SCANDALOUS DEB

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:46am
DH and I went down to the courthouse and got married by Judge Foster. A couple close friends and his boys were there. Nothing fancy. No church wedding for us heathens. Lightening would probably strike!

Lori

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:20am
Great story Deb !

I was an 18 1/2 yr old co-ed at a local University and dh was a 19 yr old student at the University of California, Berkeley. We had been dating for about a year and 1/2, we just drove up to Reno the day after Christmas and eloped. Needless to say my parents almost had heart attacks, not a pretty scene ! We struggled financilly for many years, but at least we both finished college and waited 6 years to have a child. My parents forgave us and 27 years later we are still together. I have told my boys, please never do that to me!

P.S- I did not tell my parents we were married for a month, my cousin read it in the vital statistics in the paper and called them up and said " I heard that Sharon got married", what a shock ! Young and stupid is all I can say about that time.

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:24am
We had a traditional wedding 20 years ago on March 19. We were married in the chapel of the college Joe graduated from with friends, family (some of whom I hardly knew), the white dress, tuxes....the whole works. It was fun but I'll never do it again. I hope that if/when Amanda marries, I will NOT give her a hard time about religion, the type of ceremony they want, etc. I still remember all to well that our parents had certain expectations of our wedding, but it all worked out. BTW, you are NOT scandalous, Deb. Happy Anniversary!!!!

~Jody~

~Jody~
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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:27am
Let's see now....the first time round was a JP at the courthouse with my mom, brother and best friend present.

Second time round....We had been dating for about a year and a half before he introduced me to his parents as his girlfriend. I had been over to his house a few times with other people, so I'd met them before. He wasn't sure how they would react to the fact that I wasn't Chinese!!:) Ray's mom was in hospital dying of cancer and we went in to visit together. I couldn't understand what they were saying (in Cantonese) and didn't ask, but I guess Ray told her I was the one, because a day or two later we went back and they had a chinese tea ceremony (their version of marriage), where his mom presented me with a beautiful jade ring and and a jade and sterling silver bracelet! A couple of days later she passed away, but not before asking me to take care of her son (Ray was her favourite).

Dh's cousin thinks she knew about me and was just hanging on until he brought me in to meet her.

Of course the doo-doo hit the fan when his dad found out that I was divorced and had kids. LOL We lived together for five years and finally decided to tie the knot in '96. The ceremony was quiet with a JP in our living room, dh's cousin and her hubby stood up for us. My kids were there, dh's cousins stepchildren and dh's business partner and wife (good friends of ours). A month later we had a very large Chinese wedding ceremony at one of the restaurants downtown with an 10 course dinner. Dh is a longtime member of a highly respected kung fu club here and there was a lion dance in our honour and we had another tea ceremony. After dinner, we went to one of the hottest clubs in town and danced the night away. I still have my Jessica McClintock wedding gown and my red cheong sam.

FIL's issues were that he thought I was just after dh's money and was going to divorce him! LOL Yeah right! Hmm...he went bankrupt a couple of years ago and I'm still here. He also thought I wouldn't be having anymore children...now he has two more grandsons! :) We get along just fine now!

Our 7th wedding anniversary is August 17th.

Shar

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:42am
Deb, you devil, you!!! LOL..Happy Anniversary!

DH and I had a traditional wedding - married mid-morning, by a priest at a Catholic church in the (North End) Italian section of Boston (but not a full Mass - DH is Protestant and there were some small concerns in his family about the symbolism of him marrying in the church, so we didn't have the full Mass and Communion). Only 2 attendants for me and 4 for him. Sit-down dinner for about 100 people.

Funny thing is that the church we were married in (St. Stephen's) at one time was a Protestant church and is a historic place. It is a very simple, beautiful place, not at all like the ornate Catholic churches in the North End; the Boston Archidiocese purchased the property many years ago.

Deb, when you had the full ceremony after your elopement, who "gave you away", or did you walk down the aisle with Eric or by yourself? My mom gave me away; that caused so much controversy between her and my uncle, who happens to be my godfather and just assumed he'd be doing the honors, that he's still hurt and resentful. It's not like it was her idea - I wouldn't have had it any other way and I tried to explain to him how strongly I felt that she do it. His role in my life was big, but not "fatherly", for lack of a better explanation. Twenty+ years later, he's still stewing.

Donna

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 12:58pm
Happy Anniversary Deb. Tiny wedding here. Just one of those chapel places they run you in and out of.

Phyllis

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 2:04pm
Deb,

We had a small wedding in the church with two attendants each and 80 guests 27 years ago. We honeymooned at Yellowstone. I liked to sew in those days so I had made a bunch of new clothes to wear on our trip. My suitcase was put (by mistake) in a car that went to Minnesota! I ended up going home and packing all my old clothes to wear. No matter...the honeymoon was great! Evidently, clothes don't make a honeymoon!

Have a great anniversary!

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 2:12pm
Hey Scandalous Deb!!You are too funny!!!

What interesting posts to read.Love these stories.Nothing very exciting here.First date Dec. 26, married on March 26.Married in church parsonage by the same minister who married my parents in the same place.Just family and friends.Small town and so much talk by some because we were getting married so soon.People were sure I was pregnant.LOL But no baby for almost 3 yrs.

Miss P




 

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 3:31pm
Well, my first wedding was *very* low profile... We walked over with our two roommates to a minister friend of ours, and he married us. Our roommates were witnesses.

Dan and I never married - he had been married 2x and swore never to do it again. I was okay with that; it certainly made things easier when we broke up.

Alex and I are now engaged. We're talking about spring 2004. Not sure where yet - somewhere in the US so my friends and family can be there...

Anna

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 3:33pm
Patty - DH proposed to me 3 months after our first date, which was Mar 9, 1981. Proposal June 9, and marriage October 9 the following year. No rumors - or babies.

Donna

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