Hey...Eric reminded me it's our anniver.

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 10:22am
Today is the anniversary of our 2nd wedding--the wedding I call the "one that made Eric's Mom happy because he married a scandalous divorcee who then converted to Catholicism to please Eric's Mom."

Yes---they don't "divorce" in Eric's family--no kidding, I can't name one divorce. I can, however, name a lot of aunts/uncles and cousins that never ever got married! Enter Deb...perky and 32, married 12 years previously and separated when I met his family---to the picture.

My mom was ****mad*** that I was converting, his family was super happy, even more so that we were having a "real" wedding. We eloped the first time because it was such a dam* hassle trying to please everyone. AND I still felt super guilty about leaving hubby #1. Hubby #1 is a great guy and felt no guilt having a big fancy wedding to wife #2 LOL!

Anyway---as I struggle with hoping to fit well into my dress this weekend, Eric wants to go out to dinner to celebrate. I figured with three hours of fitness today that's ok. I won't piggy wiggy out. OR, I'll simply pick up sushi to celebrate.

So...we were married in the church August 5, 1995, and we eloped at home without anyone but best friends around us January 1, 1994.

So---did you have a big wedding????? When were you married? CURIOUS poll from

--->SCANDALOUS DEB

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 6:38pm
We had a traditional wedding with my mom not wanting to contribute her thoughts to anything until DH and I made a decision and then there was always a problem because it wasn't to her liking. I was the scandalous one though at least in Mom's eyes-mainly because I was marrying a guy from Queens (part of NYC) and not your LI kind of guy, who was Catholic, who's hair was a little longer than she preferred and he rode a Harley. I thought she would keel over the first time he took me for a ride! It's funny because his parents put up no objection that we were married in my church (Baptist) although I'm sure it upset them that their only son was not married in the Catholic Church. In spite of everything we had a beautiful day, Mom was happy with all the arrangements and my Mom and DH actually got along quite well! We were married on September 11, 1976 at 5PM. DH and I were actually left at the reception site because our best man forgot he was supposed to take us to our hotel by Kennedy airport where we were set to take off to Florida the next morning. We did have to resort to a ride to my inlaws house with my dad and DH in the front seat and my mom and I in the back seat and there was a bit of grumbling going on about a trip into Queens-she got over it-but I'm not sure we ever did!

Susan

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 7:28pm
I loved your story Deb. I got married very young. I was almost 19. Dh and I met in May of 1977, were engaged the next month (June), married the following June, and had our first child the June following that. We struggled for many years to follow. Sometimes I think I would have waited if I were to do it all over again and but most times I look at what we have....three wonderful children, and so much love that we chose to make grow and grow and grow. Yeah, I love that man more now then I did then. No, I wouldn't change a thing.

 

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 8:34pm
Happy Anniversary!

I was the ripe old age of 19 when I married my DH in January of 1978. We had known each other forever, and had a big fairy tale wedding in the church where both of our parents had been married years before. (With the reception in the basement following the ceremony). My mom's family is huge, and at that time all were close, so we had all the aunts, uncles and cousins twice removed, as well as his friends from college. I actually didn't really know many of the people there, but they all knew me or him. My parents had moved to Montana, and that is where I had just graduated from HS the previous summer, so we had another reception there, on our way back from the honeymoon, and there was a terrible blizzard, so nobody could come except those people who lived in the tiny town.

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 9:20pm
The wedding was beautiful, but it probably took longer to pay for it than the marriage lasted!!!

Tim said the first time we had lunch he went back and told a co-worker he was going to marry me, but we dated a year-and-a-half. I was in no rush.

Rhonda

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 9:31pm
Tim sounds like my dad - he and my mom met at a wedding, and he went home after it and told his 4 sisters (all older than him by at least 13 years) and his parents that he'd met the girl he was going to marry.

All during the reception, he kept trying to get my mom to go out with him after it was over, but she made all kinds of excuses to put him off - she had to work early the next day, the 4 friends she came with needed rides home after the reception, anything else she could think of. When he offered to drive them all home, she got flirty (for her, anyway) and said she wouldn't go with him unless he had a Cadillac. Guess what he drove?! She and her friends got rides home in grand style and the rest is history. I just wish their history together could have been longer.




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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:31pm
Tried to follow that Deb, maybe you could explain better in email. Slowly...lol! Congrats anyhow. My wedding was normal. Except the day before. The day before the wedding on our way to get our license my car overheated. Hubby not thinking opened the hood and opened the radiator. It exploded in his face. We went to the hospital where they wanted to keep him but because of the situation they let him out. We then ran to Town Hall as they were closing for our license. Other then that it was a beautiful day in May.....the 9th to be exact in 1981. I was just 20 and Bill was 23. Looking back we were babies. Rainbow wedding with 5 bridesmaids, and ushers. Got married in hubby's church, to which he was baptized, as were all our children. Went to Florida on our Honeymoon the next day. Now 22 years later we are still together.

Deb

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Tue, 08-05-2003 - 11:41pm
What a neat story. Thanks for sharing!

Rhonda

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 8:39am
First of all, happy anniversary... and many more!

Small wedding here, 2 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen/ushers - The Cus's dad was best man, 10-15 minute ceremony at the most, no flower girl or ring bearer (it's my belief that a wedding should focus on the man and woman getting married, not somebody's cute kids), nobody singing. That's the way I wanted it, and The Cus simply said "Tell me what time to be there and where to stand." Such a typical male, LOL! It was a beautiful day September 16th, 1989 in the usually swamplike city of Montgomery, Alabama - we'd had a storm move through the night before, and it really cooled things off. Clear blue skies, 79-degrees, balmy, no humidity. There ended up being 89 guests at the wedding, surprisingly. The reception was lots of fun, though no formal reception line. Nothing racy or trying to be funny when we ate our cake (traditional wedding cake for the bride plus a chocolate cake for the groom), or tossed the flowers and garter. We had champagne, which is why we didn't have it at the church. No band, no dancing - instead, we made the rounds and talked to everyone. Unlike other weddings I've been to, the room at the NCO club where we held it, was *full* of laughter and lively conversation, probably because no one was expected to dance, so many people knew one another, no blaring music meant people *could* talk, and we got around to thank our guests for coming.

We'd dated 3-1/2 years before he asked me to marry him, and we were engaged for 6 months. I was about to move out of my one-bedroom apartment into a 2-bedroom and was starting to think our relationship would never progress further. Surprise! He figured I didn't need to move twice in a year. What a romantic, LOL! I like saying I chased him 'til he caught me.

Wedding pic! http://pages.ivillage.com/cussette/LilAl/Mom_Dad/890916Newlyweds.jpg

Cussette

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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 11:16am
Happy Anniversary, Deb!
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Wed, 08-06-2003 - 12:18pm
I'm a little late but I'll add mine anyway. First of all, happy anniversary 'scandalous Deb'. LOL

We met the first week of college. We dated two years, became engaged and a year later married. We knew each other three years before marrying. Both of us were 21. We married August 20, 1972. It was a small church wedding in my home church. We had a reception in the church basement. We went to the Black Hills of South Dakota for our honeymoon and from there went to our new apartment and finished our last year of college. We will have our 31st wedding anniversary this month. WOW!!

No kids for over five years. First born May of 1978, second December of 1980. It has been a great 31 years. Some years have been harder than others but I would marry him again in a second!!

Nancy

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