Ladies I'm a mess this morning...

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Ladies I'm a mess this morning...
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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 8:34am
It was a very overwhelming day yesterday. First day back after vacation and was a bit overwhelmed by the amount of work accumulated on my desk and by 2PM I was ready to go home and take a nap.I had hot flashes so bad at work yesterday that I was sitting fanning myself to try to cool off, how embarrasing is that? FIL did indeed have a stroke and has considerable weakness on his left side. He got so ornery yesterday afternoon that they had to sedate him in order to be able to do a 2nd CAT scan. DH couldn't go up there as he hadn't been placed in a room as of yet.This whole situation is going to be a real difficult problem. But that's a whole other story. We ended up with take out for dinner that as I had to go pick up the new car and we didn't know whether we would be driving into the hospital last night. Poor Otto never got out for his walk and neither did I. I can see where trying to get in a workout after work will probably be impossible. Things are already turning into a mess around here. Everyone is at work and the mess just continues to build. I couldn't get to sleep last night and spent the time I did sleep tossing and turning. DH is going back into his phase that because we moved he has "abandoned" his family. We're only 1/2 hour away but we used to live 5 minutes away. He gets into these phases and gets very snappy, especially with the kids. Meanwhile younger DD is really down in the dumps. She can't find a job anywhere, not in NY, not in Massachusetts where she would like to relocate. She's either told she has no experience or the job has already been filled. There is a lot of friction between herself and her sister and that doesn't help the situation either. She went back to work at the camera store where she's worked since high school and absolutely hates it there. They have had a number of items stolen from the store and they're pretty sure that it's someone within the store that's stealing the items. She had to be questioned by a loss prevention person yesterday and I'm sure you can imagine it was not a very pleasant experience. Her boyfriend is 2 1/2 hours away in Massachusetts and although they try to see each other every 2 weeks it makes it difficult for them both. After what I thought was a relaxing weekend I feel like I'm falling apart-I'm feeling jittery this morning, hormonally challenged. Then to top off how I feel about myself I was rummaging through my closet looking for something different to wear and picked out a dress I haven't worn in some time. I took one look at myself and wondered what exactly I've done for myself this past year and it sure didn't look like much. Needless to say the dress came off and had to find something that didn't make me look like a stuffed sausage.

Phyllis had such a great upbeat post this morning but I'm feeling anything but upbeat this morning.

Thanks for bearing with me in my tale of woe. Hopefully the day will be better and my favorite person will stay out of my way at work!

Susan

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 10:27am
Many hugs this a.m. for you, Susan! I can relate to the situation with your dh! My ex always put me on a guilt trip about his family when I was married to him (I paid them more attention than he did, anyway!) and my family lives hundreds of miles away from me. Needless to say, it got very old! Living 30 minutes away is wonderful, I think. I hate that your fil & your dh's family are going thru this, but goodness your dh needs to put things in proper perspective. The best thing you all can do is stay healthy so you can help with fil as much as you can. Stressing out over how far away he lives from his folks doesn't help anyone. But you can't convince men of things like that . . . I feel for you and hope you can find some peace from this stress. Yes, workouts seem to get done for me in the a.m. on a more regular basis than waiting until evening to do. I hope you can make the a.m. "your time" again.

Hope things get better for you all and that dd gets a job soon - she deserves a good one after all of her hard work at school!

Hugs,

Kat

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 11:03am
Susan:

What a rough time you're having. I'm so sorry about your FIL. Sometimes it seems like everything is happening at once and there's nothing you can do about it. I know it's hard, but try to find even a few minutes in the melee for yourself. You and your family are in my thoughts today.

Lori

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 11:20am
Susan, I'm so sorry that you are having such a tough time with everything right now. I hope things turn around soon and that your FIL improves quickly. I wish I had some advice, but can't think of anything at the moment.

Shar

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 12:39pm
Hugs to you Susan. I understand your concerns and stress, sounds like a few hours alone are in order. I wish I could do something to help. Maybe lunch next week? I can drive into you for a lunch on Thursday of next week. Since the kids will be back in school. Or would you like dinner. Hubby needs to get a grip with how FAR away you are from family. He is crazy, 30 minutes is nothing. Gosh remind him of how many live across the country or in another continent. Just know you are in my thoughts and if you need to vent just call me.

(((((HUGS)))))

Deb

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 1:35pm
{{{{SUSAN}}}} Sending you many many hugs. Take care girl!

 

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 2:39pm
Susan, so sorry to hear of all you have going on.I hope things settle down and improve for you.I'm thinking of you.

Miss P




 

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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 5:52pm
Susan, I hope you're feeling better now. You've had a lot on you lately. Sure sorry your daughter is having a tough time finding a job. We have a shortage of teachers in Florida.

Hugs,

Rhonda

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Tue, 08-26-2003 - 6:07pm
Susan:

Thinking about you and your family. I think it's pretty normal for chlidren to have lots of guilt as their parents get older and develop medical problems.

Is DD living at home? If so, maybe she should sit back and reevaluate what she's doing and take some time to do some volunteer work or something. Not a long break...just a breather, a relook at what all is going on with jobs and what she is applying for, etc. If she's NOT living at home...I'll pray harder!

Hugs.

Sassy