Get this one and see if it makes

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Get this one and see if it makes
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 6:50pm
your blood boil as much as mine is. I've already described the thrusting of the rehab centers into my SIL's face. Her first choice was a hospital and rehab center here on LI and a place where DH does volunteer work. His first thought was to speak to volunteer services and see who he could speak to. The woman was very nice and got him right in touch with the proper person. Now mind you all the paperwork was supposed to be faxed over yesterday. After talking to DH she said she hadn't received any paperwork from them but to get in touch with them and make sure that the PRI (as they call it) included his name and years of service. DH made a phone call and left a message as did my sil. At the same time SIL spoke to someone in social work (everyone they've been dealing with has conveniently disappeared for the day). When she asked that the paperwork (using the correct terminology) be faxed over to the facility and explaining about her brother) and they became rather pale and state that he had already being placed in one of the other facilities. So the fact of the matter was they never faxed over the material until after the fact, because our facility had never even received the material until late this afternoon. So something is smelling a bit fishy. DH called the woman back at our facility and she didn't like the smell of it either and has promised to make some phone calls on our behalf to try to get some straight answers for us.

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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 4:30pm
Typical NE cynic here cutting to the (perceived on my part) chase. Sounds like payola at work - I have to wonder if someone at the hospital has a deal with the facility your FIL ended up being assigned to rather than the one your DH volunteers at. Or maybe someone just plain screwed up and won't own up to it.

Can your FIL be moved easily, or does that affect health insurance coverage, etc?

Susan, you (and now your family) really need a positive break, and soon. I hope some good/positive comes your way.

Not so cynical that I can't send you a couple of cyber-huggsss,

Donna

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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 5:26pm
I hope this situation improved today.I can't believe what you all are having to go thru.Keeping you all in my thoughts.

Miss P




 

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Thu, 09-04-2003 - 11:57pm
That's a real bad deal. How have you turned out today. Were you able to get your FIL moved? Or is the paperwork going to be too horrendous? Hope today turned out better for you.
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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 7:35am
Susan just checking in to see how things are going. They have a saying "if you want the job done right you have to do it yoursel". Its a shame others do not complete or follow through with their jobs. What hospital was/is your father in law in? What rehab place did you decide on and how far from your home is it? How about your MIL whats her opinion and take on the situation. (((hugs)))

Deb

Debbie

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Fri, 09-05-2003 - 8:34am
He was in North Shore Hospital at Forest Hills-formerly Laguardia Hospital. North Shore should be ashamed that it has it's name on it and speaking to a nurse that does quality control at NS Manhasset her feeling is the same! Plus the fact that he is a HIP patient which in my mind has the worst insurance and doctors affiliated with it. His regular doctor is not allowed privileges in the hospital because they feel he should be in his office attending to patients at the HIP center. So his care was attended to by house drs. When my SIL asked the dr if he could repeat his information (the one and only opportunity the had to speak to this guy) to her sister he informed her that he didn't have time.

FIl was transferred to Forest Hills Care Center yesterday. His paperwork was never faxed over to North Shore Manhasset until DH had made phone calls and SIL paid a visit to the social work dept. It was done after their inquires but he had already been placed in the other facility. NS Manhasset did do some inquires and did get back to DH and told him his dad was really in to a weakened condition to participate in their program since it's a pretty intensive program. Whether they had sent the information to the other facilities or whether they made a determination on their own as to where he was going is still questionable in my mind. But there is definetly no thought to a family's questions or concerns especially at a time like this.

Neither of DH's sister got a good impression of this facility. They didn't care for the atmosphere of the place. We'll see how the care goes and there are going to have to be a lot of questions asked as to what kind of therapy he should be getting. I hope DH talks to a friend of ours that is a nurse and get her take on what she thinks he should be receiving in the condition that he's in.

I will say although for as long as I've known my FIL I've never known him to come out with funny things. But my SIL asked him yesterday if he knew how old he was and he replied I'm OB. She was looking at him funny and asked him what that meant. And with a smile on his face he said OB is "Old B***ard! And he told a rather large nurse yesterday that he would eat for her that yes he would eat for her because she "scared" him.he would come up with these kind of remarks! That's apparently how he was when DH was growing up-always with a wise crack!

So we'll wait and see what happens. My feeling is he's not going to cooperate. He's gotten very frail over the years and with not having bathroom facilities on the first floor of their house and my MIL not being in the best of health I really don't see him coming home. I'm not sure what my MIL's whole thought of this thing is. DH has been talking mostly to his sister as his mom doesn't hear very well and I'm sure she's pretty much in agreement with what's going on or his sister would have said something.

So that's the story! Thanks for asking

Susan