Pity party blues .. *m

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Pity party blues .. *m
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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 5:30pm

I am feeling very "ungrateful" ..


I taught my classes yesterday and came home.


CeeCee

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 5:38pm
Bless your heart!!!Here's a tissue for you and a big hug!!Sounds like you've had a rough weekend.I understand exactly what you're saying about making an impact!Many days I long for something that is just about me!!Not sure what to say to help but just know we're here to listen and care.

Miss P




 

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 6:42pm
Sounds as though you need some time for yourself with some peace and quiet and no demands on you for a bit. I know it's a ways away, but are you planning to come to the Fit Over Forty get-together next year. I think that would be just what the dr. ordered!!

I still am searching for what I'm meant to do to make a mark somehow. I understand about not just being someone's daughter, wife, or mother, even though those things are what's most important to me. I need an identity of my own too. Maybe I am moving in the right direction with my political activities and working on the newsletter. It's a step toward writing, which I've wanted to do for a long time.

Is there any way you could treat yourself to a manicure, a pedicure, or a massage, or even just lunch out with some friends? I love my family dearly, but sometimes I need some independent time or time just to think my own thoughts.

Hormones may have something to do with the way you feel, but I think it's also just a normal feeling to want time and activities for yourself. Hope you're able to get some relief soon. Here's a hankie and a hug!

Rhonda

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 8:38pm
Cee,

Here's a tissue from me along with a big old hug. So much of the day is spent being the mom, the wife, the worker, the caretaker that the "you" gets lost in the shuffle. Words of wisdom for you? I wish I knew some. Just know that I understand exactly what you're saying and have so many of the same feelings and only wish I could give you a tissue in person along with that hug!

Hugs to you,

Susan

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 9:04pm
Hi CeeCee

I am sorry for what you are going through right now. You have a very caring heart and it seems as though someone should be looking after you. Families, what can I say. At least we have this board to come and share our troubles. I hope that things get better for you very soon!

Hugs

Sharon

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 9:22pm

It's tough to be a "giver" all the time.

Live With Passion!

Phyllis

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 9:56pm
Cee,

First let me send you a great big ((((HUG))))! It sounds like the 40 something hormones are kicking in. Whenever you are feeling down please keep in mind that "this too shall pass". You are a wonderful woman who I have found much inspiration from. Come on lady lioness let me here you purrrr.

Margie

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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 10:37pm
(((((Cee))))) - Sounds like someone's been doing a lot of nuturing and is losing her wonderful self in the process. You so obviously love doing for your family, but maybe somewhere you have to just draw the line and say "enough" and do whatever it is that brings you satisfaction, peace of mind, calm, or whatever it is you label it.

I don't know how you get there. Maybe it is just 40-ish hormones playing with you, or maybe it's just mid-cycle monthly blues, and you know you have to just ride those out. There's a part of you that's feeling lost amid everyone else's expectations of you. That's what life's journey is all about - balancing. Sometimes it's easy, most times it's not, and you just have to find your fulcrum point.

I don't think you're ungrateful or selfish, and I don't see your throwin' a pity party - I just see you trying to figure out what you want to do when you grow up. Like me, and like a lot of us here. Life's a trip, ain't it?!

Cyber hugs and a big old cyber hankie coming your way,

Donna

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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 7:34am
You're a good woman, Cee. There's not enough of you to go around that's for sure! I'm sure your family loves and appreciates the love and care you give them, however, you have to give yourself that same love and care. I wish we would never feel overwhelmed, but that is asking too much I guess. When you have time to yourself (as I hope you do!), make sure you do some "me" things that make you feel good spiritually and emotionally. Do you find time in the day to write? I know you love to write. If you make time each day for something that you really enjoy, I bet you will feel more at peace.

Hugs,

Kat

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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 8:54am
{{{{{{{{{{{Cee}}}}}}}}}}}

Honey, I've been there and done that too. The whole world gets used to you taking care of them and when you want a break, it's like the world is coming to an end. It's hard, but maybe it's time to back down a little and let your family know how you feel. There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting a little time to yourself or taking that time for yourself. Go to a movie, take a walk, go window shopping or just go and sit and have a solitary cup of coffee.

You've worked hard all your life. So get yourself dolled up and go to church with your sisters. I'm pretty sure the men in your life can handle themselves alone for a couple hours. If they can't, maybe it's time they learned how.

You are a strong, vibrant and wonderful person, Cee. You are making a difference and making a mark in the world whether you know it or not.

Lori

Lori