Self Doubt

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Self Doubt
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Sun, 09-28-2003 - 7:32pm
Hi all - I have been having a couple of rough days - full of self doubt and second-guessing myself. I am tired of trying to sell myself applying for jobs right and left. Deep down, I know I am good and capable and likeable and loveable, but right now, I sure don't feel it. I get nothing back but thank you for applying, you would be an enormous asset to or organization, but you are not eligible for this job, or your qualifications are not quite what we are looking for, or simply you must be in the area in order to be considered for this job....well, how the heck can I be there, unless I totally up and quit - and move with no place to live and no job. I am beginning to wonder if I am totaly insane, trying to do this. My mom and sisters have all been out enjoying themselves and aren't home when I call, a couple of good friends who know my whole situation also aren't around to talk to...... boy, am I down today. Even working out extra hard didn't help. Little

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 7:52pm
I'm so sorry to hear you're feeling down. It's so frustrating when you know you're capable, but no one's willing to give you a chance. I can remember when I was first job hunting, and people kept saying I needed to have experience. I finally looked at one man and said, "How am I supposed to get experience if no one is willing to give me a start?" He had to admit it was a good question. And,unfortunately, a lot of times it's who you know not what you know that counts.

I wish you lived close by so we could hang out some and talk. It always seems helpful to have someone be a sounding board while you vent. I know it does for me. Please feel free to use us as your sounding board.

Many hugs,

Rhonda

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Registered: 01-03-2001
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 8:19pm
I'm so sorry you're having a rough time.I can't begin to imagine all you're dealing with now.I think of you often and think what a strong woman you must be.Hope it helps in some way to know we care about you and believe in you.

Patty

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Registered: 02-08-2001
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 8:25pm
Little,

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. My daughter is going through a similar situation. She graduated from Parsons in May and has her resume out and about and would love to relocate but keeps getting the same thing-no experience, your resume looks good but.... I can certainly understand how frustrating and disheartening this is to you.

I wish I could give you some great words of advise but can only offer you comfort and many hugs.

Hugs,

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 8:49pm
Hugs, Little! I understand what you're going thru. I hope you find something you really enjoy soon. Put the word out with as many people as you can . . . and asking for divine help is certainly in order. You certainly deserve a position you enjoy and one where you are compensated well.

I've had many years of running an office, supervisory experience, marketing and public relations, etc. etc. I do put my resume out there alot, but have just now begun to network with people I know about moving up in the workplace (position-wise and $-wise). I hate to say it, but I really think Rhonda is correct about who one knows. I enjoy where I work, but would really like to move up - it's time! I work hard and I deserve it, I think.

I'll keep you in my prayers,

Kat

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Registered: 03-25-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 8:56pm
Hi Littlemom,

I am sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now. Something will turn up, just keep the faith. It is a tough economy as we all know, but it is sure to turn around soon. You are a strong woman and you will be ok. Sending you super cyber hugs!

Sharon

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 9:16pm

I'm sorry to hear that you are having a tough time.

Live With Passion!

Phyllis

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 10:09pm
Little,

Please don't allow self doubt to creep up on you. I think your difficulty has more to do with the crummy economy rather than you or your skills. It may be later rather than sooner but I'm sure you will find the right position for yourself. Do not let yourself get discouraged. Find a way to see the silver lining in this grey cloud.

Margie

You Were Born An Original...   Don't Die A Copy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 10:22pm
Little - No matter what, please don't doubt yourself. Look at what you've accomplished in your life and know that you will find the opportunity to accomplish even more. The right conversation with the right person could happen tomorrow. Put the word out to as many people as you know that you are looking for a new situation; sometimes the resume and nice cover letter aren't the keys, no matter what we've been led to believe, and especially after many years in the work world. And do not discount your "life experience" outside of work - it matters, and you need to find a way to frame that as something that relates to your work accomplishments. You're not 22 and starting out - you have much more to offer.

You can do it, Little; when you need a sounding board, you have many "ears" here to listen. Even if we can't provide the exact solution, we CAN provide support and a little shot in the arm when you feel the need for one. Hang in there - when the economy improves, I'm sure something wonderful will surface for you.

Donna

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: littlemom1983
Sun, 09-28-2003 - 10:22pm
I was happy to see two articles in business journals or columns this last week that said the economy actually is starting to rebound! Now, if we can just hang tough...

Rhonda

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