Needing a shoulder..........
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Needing a shoulder..........
| Thu, 10-23-2003 - 6:58pm |
I had this huge and I mean huge fight with my sister about 2 hours ago. So huge that in my anger I hung up the phone on her. I know I owe her an apoligy on this, but not now, tempers and feelings are still to raw. We hardly agrue, maybe a small tiff now or then but my sisters are my best friends. I am crying yet again as I type this. My sister got upset and mad at me because I (my family and I) could not make it to my neice's birthday this past Sunday. I explained that this weekend was a big race for my kids and I needed to be in NJ with them. She definatly had an attitude with me. I just could here it in her voice. Mind you I have gone to "everything" for her children (ages 6 and 8) since they were born. I have not got with Bill when it was just the boys, when it was their bdays in the past. Gave up an entire family racing weekend because it was my nephew's communion. Which I felt was more important, my kids were disappointed but I felt I made the right decision. Goodness, I was the one who went with her to her son's baptizmal class because her stupid husband was to busy to take off. Anyway we did not speak last week at all. She was upset and now I was upset plus we are both so busy with our families, and our scheduals (her with work/mine with school). On Monday I called my neice and sand Happy Birthday to her on the answering machine, about 3/4 into the call my mom (who babysits for my sister)picked up and then handed the phone to her (Sam, my niece). Well I attempted to talk to her, ask her how her day was and so on, but my niece was too busy to speak with me. She gave me short, one word answers and hung up on me. Oh well she is only 6 and she was too busy playing. On Tuesday I stopped at my sisters home to delivers Sam's birthday gift. I was inbetween picking Katie up and heading home for my evening of fun homework for both Katie and I. Plus dinner and so on. Well my niece calls me to thank me and hangs up again. I call back and my sister gave me the bums rush. I let it go. Well she calls my about 4 on her way home and we have a regular conversation. My other sister then calls me and surprised by the fact that "D" and I talked. "S" then goes on to say that "D" was upset with me because she felt I ignored the dd bday, and only dropped a gift off because it was a chore. Well I lost it then. I called her up and we had it out. I tried to explain that my dropping a gift off was never ment to be a way of saying I did not care nor was it a "chore". I am the first person who drops off things to help her. She then went on to say I did not call on Monday. I did call, but mom only told her on Tuesday. Is it my fault she does not look and listen to her own machine and relies on mom? I was livid. Now mind you I was not the only family member who did not attend this bday party on Sunday. Her own mother-in-law was not there. She was in Manhatten with one of her other grandkids taking in a broadway play. And my sisters both brother-in-laws were not there because they needed to work. But did they get treated like that, or did they make sure a gift got there within a reasonable time....nope! Well now I have no clue where or how to pick up these pieces. I do not think this can be fixed to easily, and this bothers me to no end. HELP! Your advise is welcome.
Deb

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Oh my..are you the middle child by any chance?????
You two need a cooling off period, and you need to ignore everyone else on this subject. You weren't off seeing a show (like the child's own grandmother was - I can't believe that she couldn't do that another day), you were with your family. I think your sister's a little out of line with you. But you both have to reach out, and soon.
Many hugggsss to you. You're got so much stress going on - this is the last thing you need....
Donna
"Make Choices that bring you joy" cl-Patty
I realize how presumptuous I sound saying you need to ignore everyone else on this subject. I meant to just decline to talk about any of it with anyone in your family except your sister, not to ignore any advice from your friends here. You two and how you settle your differences are the only parties that matter in this situation.
Sheesh, did I sound nervy...
And I'm still sending hugs your way, Deb.
Miss P
I think your sister expects way too much of you.
Live With Passion!
Phyllis
Hugs,
Kat
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