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I'm going to say it and then maybe
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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 7:26am
it will get out of my system and I'll be able to deal better. To put it best, life stinks around here lately. Daily headaches that have no rhyme nor reason to them except that they are a daily part of my day. Sometimes all day, sometimes only a portion of the day but nevertheless there. Coping 9 to 5 and trying to stay focused on the details of my job have become a daily struggle. I will say that my boss has been wonderful and has overlooked some of my bigger blunders and is constantly asking if I'm OK. Weekly, bi-weekly visits to various drs/tests etc with no answers and/or solutions, constantly changing medications that have all kinds of different effects on me but none of them seeming to be able to control my bp. I have 2 kids that aren't speaking at the moment and with the words exchanged between them I'm not sure their issues will ever be resolved. The oldest is getting ready to undergo surgery and while trying to keep her calm my insides are in a knot and at one point she viewed me as not caring. DH is still constantly worried with the auto industry being very quiet at the moment that the ax may not be far off. I have found no "aha" moments in all this. I always want to feel that there is plenty of good things in life but for right now I'm having a bit of trouble finding it.

I've been slowing incorporating exercise back into my routine and better foods have more of an appeal to me as the headache situation is not as constant this week and don't seem to be lasting as long. Hopefully that will continue to improve and/or the neurologist will have some suggestions although DD's surgery may have to take place on that day and that appointment will have to be canceled.

With that said I'm hoping for good things to become more of a focus and finding better ways of dealing with the bad.

Susan

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 8:55am

Susan,


You certainly are under a lot of stress lately.

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 8:56am
{{{{{Susan}}}}} Here's a big cyber hug for you. I know things look rough right now but it will get better. I wish there were something I could do about your headaches and bp. As if that weren't enough to deal with, your kids are adding pressure too. Well, they will make up on their own or they won't. You don't have much control over that and yes, it is sad, but it's their decision. Maybe you need to sit down with your oldest and have a chat about what you're going through and help her to understand that you do care, it's just hard to show it 24/7.

Keep on with the exercise. It will release tension and relieve stress. Eating better will make you feel better about yourself even if your headaches don't go away. Keep up with your doc and try to keep your chin up. I know how hard this has been for you but it will get better. Take care.

Lori

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 9:26am
Wish I could show up at your door with hugs and pie!!!I hope the headaches get resolved soon and that you don't have to postpone the appt.So sorry to hear your DD needs surgery,I'll keep her in my thoughts.Just know I'm here anytime for anything!!!

Lots of love,

Patty

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 9:45am
Susan - Sometimes life stinking is just the way it has to be for a while. You don't have to like it, and you can whine if you need to - and boy, you have needed to do that lately. Sending hugs your way and hopes that there's good news or a happy turn around a nearby corner soon.

Donna

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 10:50am
I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers, Susan. Feeling physically ill is something that is so hard to cope with - I don't know how you ladies with constant headaches function! I couldn't! Anyway, anytime you wish to post how you feel is alright with me. That's why I'm here - to listen to my friends and offer any comfort I can & sure wish I could make it so you wouldn't suffer from your headaches.

Hugs,

Kat

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 11:46am

Here are some more cyber hugs, Susan. What a full plate you have right now. I wish I could take some of that stress off you.


I missed what kind of surgery you DD is having. I hope it isn't anything too serious. I will keep her in my prayers, as well as, you. There has to be some relief in sight for you soon.


Hang in there with the good eating and exercise. You need it for you and it is good that it gives you some relief.


I may not be here often, but always know I think of you constantly. If a dinner out will help, we could meet.


HUGS again.


Grace

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 1:53pm
Sorry to hear about all the trials in your life.

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Phyllis

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 10:00pm
Susan,

I hope that things start getting better. I do understand the stress and stuff affecting your job. Thank goodness you have a good boss.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

Little

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Fri, 10-31-2003 - 11:16pm

I remember this time last year being hit with everything from all sides and how difficult it was. I wondered if things would ever get better.

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Sat, 11-01-2003 - 10:45am
Susan, you have certainly had a lot of stress in your life lately.
Nancy

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