I need to vent

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I need to vent
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Fri, 11-21-2003 - 8:11pm
Heck , I need to rant and rave!!!!!I feel like every button I have has been pushed today.I was trying to get out the door to pick up my sister when the service guy called.It was so frustrating!!!!He wanted me to go down to CL to get some numbers for him and save him some time.Any other time I wouldn't have minded but I was clean and did not want to go down there.Plus I was on my way out.I spent another 30 mins dealing with that.Also looks like the birds are going to do even worse than expected, which was a real bu**er.It's frustrating time right now for poultry growers as we're having lots of problems.And he choose that time to go over some things which only added to my frustration.Just as I was wrapping that up some in law things came up which pushed a few more buttons.I may have to be heavily sedated to get thru the Thanksgiving meal without speaking my mind.MY BIL has a house that has set empty for years that he now wants to sell.It needs major work and adjoins our property. My MIL is hoping we will buy it and save the BIL some work.I said very empathically, but nicely, I did not want it because we did not have the time to do the work.Today she again asked DH if he was going to buy the house.Am I being overly sensitive in feeling like my opinions were just pushed aside?Ok, so at that point it was just family and co workers pushing buttons.But then it became a

game even strangers got involved in!!!I went to the bookstore to get gift certificates. I asked for 2 thirty dollar gift certificates. The clerk looked at me for a minute and said"So, you mean you want like 2 fifteen dollar ones?" HELLO??????It just kept going downhill from there.Thankfully I have a warped sense of humor and decided all I could do was laugh about it as the day went on.I did however almost lose it when i got home and there was 1)yet one more message from the service guy(scream!!!!!) and 2)an email from afriend wanting sympathy because "her life has just been crazy since she got back from her trip to Jamica".Still struggling to get a "Oh, you poor thing!!!" out.....

Miss P




 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pt40
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 8:28pm

If it was me...the biggest thing would be the in-laws wedging in between you and dh.

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Phyllis

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Registered: 10-15-2003
In reply to: pt40
Fri, 11-21-2003 - 11:00pm

Do all of these people, including inlaws AND strangers NOT know what a special day today is for you????? What happened to respect on one's birthday!

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Registered: 04-04-2003
In reply to: pt40
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 7:26am
I feel your pain! Hope you're back on track this morning. I'm with Deb and wondering if you're in the right field...at least be supplementing with your writing! Maybe the supplier is feeling the pressure from his higher ups because they're using the crappier birds and everyone is having less results. And he decided to take it out on our Princess.

The in-laws, however, are another story. I'm sure you'll make it clear to DH that you're part of the package deal. My in-laws now like to try to force ME to make decisions about things...where to go to dinner, what to buy the kids and others for gifts, and then complain about the choices I make to DH and everyone else. So I decided to NOT make a choice about dinner the other night and put it off on DH and guess what? They immediately called DH to complain that I was supposed to be making the decision and why was this so difficult, blah blah blah. Who immediately started in on me the minute he walked in the door until I gave him "the icy stare" and DARED him to continue that conversation. In-laws, can't live with them, can't bury them in the back yard.

I'm sorry I didn't leave a message when I called yesterday now that I hear about your day. And I never made it back to the phone to call you again...but I was thinking about you and when you weren't home, I assumed you were out partying...wish I had been right!

Hugs.

Sassy

 

                        

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In reply to: pt40
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 8:52am
The cup in the icon has a shot of Irish Whiskey in it. Can't add to what's already been said, so I'll sit at the table, shake my head in disbelief, and roll my eyes with you.




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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pt40
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 11:29am
Poor Patty. What a day. I thought the chickens were gone for this round...

It might make for a few tense moments at home but if she were to ask my DH about that house again after I'd told her that WE decided not to buy it, I'd have to remind her in front of everyone that I'd already declined the offer. She doesn't bother to worry about how you feel when she ignores what you say...but then I'm a witchy old bat. I don't take any crap off anyone anymore.

Jamaica huh? Must be rough to come home to the real world after that. Heck, I have trouble coming home from a week in Colorado with my Mom back to the reality of yes, you do have to wash the clothes and go back to work. But with the way your day was going, I can see why you wouldn't be so sympathetic.

Hang on to that sense of humor. It may be the only thing that saves you in the end. And as for making it through Thanksgiving without blowing up, maybe you shouldn't try so hard. I used to bend over backwards for the in-laws trying to keep peace in the family and it got me nowhere. So I don't do it anymore. I rarely see them unless Bob's on the floor and can't get up.

So have a glass of wine and relax. Light your candles. Put on your navel ring. You'll feel better.

Lori

Lori

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pt40
Sat, 11-22-2003 - 5:09pm

OH, poor dear! Here are some hugs! Everyone has said it better than I can. I pray that DH and you can stay united in your decision about the house. That is the most important thing. You can pick your DH, but the inlaws just come with the territory. I am glad I didn't live too close to mine, so things went smoothly here most times.


I hope you feel better after the vent. It is so good to have friends who listen!!


Grace