Kat

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 4:53pm
I am so sorry for what Danny had to go thru at school.There is no excuse for that and they owe him an apology.Good for you on handling it.

How are you feeling?Is the cold/bug you had gone now.Kat, I worry to read you hadn't eaten after 1 pm yesterday.Take care of yourself or I'm heading your way to do so myself.

Sending you lots of love and hugs,

Patty

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 5:15pm
You're so sweet, Pattycakes! Thanks for the sweet post. Believe you me, I've eaten today (not alot, but enough) and I will never deprive myself of food! Actually, I did a bad thing - Danny spent the night with his dad & I was all keyed up. Went out and bought 3 books - spent $30. Yikes! I guess food for the brain is better, though. They are all fitness or WW books!! How funny, huh? I checked out some books at library, too, about fitness and a book by former WW spokesperson, Lynn Redgrave. She had a eating disorder before she lost her weight with WW. The other WW books I have are by Sarah Ferguson. One is about energy. I also bought one by Denise Austin about being fit in your forties. I buy second hand books, usually, so I feel a little better about owning scads of them.

Yes, cold is gone. How is your sister doing? I tell you what, these people just don't realize how upsetting it can be to be put off. Your poor sis has been thru the ringer! Call me anytime you feel like chatting - (800) 600-2865 8:30 - 5. We have a great deal on our toll free line, so don't hesitate.


Hugs,

Kat

Katherine (Kat)
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In reply to: pt40
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 5:26pm
Kat - I just saw your Thursday post. Poor Danny - and yeah, Danny, too! He handled that whole situation with uncommon grace for a young teen (Mom's training, no doubt). It sounds like the cop was almost trying to bait him into saying something incriminating or to trip him up. I do hope it ends here - I'd fear that those kinds of accusations could follow him around and could mark him as the troublemaker or worse the next time something happens, and as long as the kid who made the accusation is around, no doubt there will be a next time. Have Danny or you talk to his friend about it?

Don't you wish you could just follow them around all day to try to protect them?

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 5:42pm
Yes, I wish I could protect him from everything, including premarital sex! LOL! Anyway, I always picture him as that sweet, fat, bald headed baby (have the cutest picture of him at around 3 mo. on the wall near his bedroom door). It's hard for me to realize that he is growing up and I will have to deal with these kinds of problems. Danny told me that Jared (the other boy) and he have never had any unpleasant words. Jared does have the chemical imbalance and the policeman said that Jared has "had problems before" so I hope I can trust this to be so . . . My son is by no means a "goody goody" and in fact is a little too much on the "class clown" side. However, I would find it hard to believe that he would harrass someone. This Jared is not a friend of Danny's, just an acquaintance.

I documented my phone conversation with the policeman & got his full name. I WILL call the school to make sure nothing is on Danny's record & will demand a written letter of vindication if they do have any record of this. That school district has frustrated me on more than one occasion - just 2 mo. ago, they called my ex on his cell phone to inform him that Danny had leaned back in a classroom chair and said if there was any damage to the chair, he'd have to pay for it. They can call a parent on something that trivial & yet refuse to call a parent upon a child's request when he is being accused of horrible things? I know alot of parents would make a huge issue of this, but my ex doesn't want me to do that as he thinks that will cause Danny more problems.

Yeah, Danny is very cool in hot situations - unlike the mom, here. I usually simmer to boiling point & then combust!

Katherine (Kat)
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In reply to: pt40
Thu, 01-22-2004 - 5:49pm

I can't believe they put him through that.

Live With Passion!

Phyllis

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 7:47pm
Kat,

What an terrible experience for Danny and for you. I commend you for keeping your cool and your son acting is such a mature way in a terrible situation. Great example for the officer to set-bullying and intimidation! It would be nice if the school paid attention to the education of the students!

Hugs,

Susan

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Thu, 01-22-2004 - 8:51pm
I can't believe what happened to Danny.
Nancy

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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 7:48am
Me too. I don't know how you handled it with such a cool head. I'd have been down there first thing in the morning right in their face about it. I seems like they could have handled the situation with a little more tact.

Lori

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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 9:00am
That should have NEVER happened, Kat, and I wonder if that cop broke some rules by attempting to intimidate Danny. I think the school owes y'all a written letter of apology for the cop's actions - accusations, name calling, no calls to parents, not having a principal or teacher or counselor there. "Grain of salt?" The cop sure didn't act that way towards Danny. What if the cop was less than honorable and made threats or worse?

I don't know if I would've been so collected about it. Bravo for Danny. The truth is golden.





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Fri, 01-23-2004 - 11:39am
Thanks for all of your kind comments. I hate to post it, but it is par for Pine Tree School's course. Keeping teachers around that write "doofus" on children's papers and coaches laughing at adolescent boys who are shy about changing in the locker room to name a few disgusting trends of that school - I doubt I can change them. If I was married to an attorney who was interested in education reform, perhaps . . . Sometimes I wonder if it is the geography - E. Texas people (especially the men) seem to be a whole breed unto themselves. That good ole' boy mentality is here to stay, I'm afraid.
Katherine (Kat)