Anyone else finding that

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Anyone else finding that
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Mon, 01-26-2004 - 5:57am
That the pitter patter post from Phyllis and all the replies are keeping baby thoughts on your mind?I keep thinking about when DS was little.Also keep thinking about what kind of Mom would I be at this age and stage of life.Last year this time DS was still in high school and since we had snow would have the day off. Now he works at a job that does snow removal and was up at 4:30.He also got rid of his sporty mustang and got a truck.That means he drove on the snow covered roads for the first time on his own which worried me some.Also made me think about how fast they grow up and how things change.Anyway a thousand thoughts going thru my head about babies, kids and being a mom.Just wondered if anyone else was doing the same thing.

Miss P




 

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Mon, 01-26-2004 - 6:26am
Go to church and spend an hour in the baby nursery. That will cure you REAL quick! I did that yesterday. It was funny to see how the 49 yo mom of two adult children was handling it (she wasn't) and so I had to step up to the plate and be the calm, cool, collected one (scary). But seriously, my youngest turns 8 this week (Friday) and I guess what I miss the most about him (and the others) being little is the way they would snuggle up to you in their warm footie jammies. The 8 yo is still a momma's boy and I get lots of hugs and kisses and I love you's, just because. The older two use those things as bribes and suck-ups and it just irks me! I think it was all actually easier when they were younger. DH likes it now that they can talk intelligently (relatively so, anyway ;), play ball, go places (without a huge suitcase lovingly referred to as "the diaper bag"), and be left alone without forking out $10 an hour for babysitters. I miss the snuggles and quiet time in the rocker and the pitter patter of little feet searching me out. And it was also nice to be able to put them down for a nap and have some quiet time myself! Now I have a 13 yo challenging my authority at every turn, a 12 yo with a smart mouth and an 8 yo growing up too quickly. Thanks, Patty, for the memories... I'm really feeling sorry for myself now!

Sassy

 

                        

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Mon, 01-26-2004 - 8:22am
Patty,

Actually as I was running Sunday AM errands I had the same thoughts pass through my head about what type of Mom I would be now as opposed to when I had my kids in my late 20's and early 30's.

I'm always nostaglic about my kids as I now see them as young adults. I look at my "wall" as I call it which has their pictures from various school years up through high school and beyond. The whole cleaning out of the house also found me finding things like DS' first baseball glove and other bits of pieces of who they were and who they have become. It does make me a little sad that those years passed so quickly and the cute little kids that they were are now adults with opinions and ideas of their own. But I've also grown to really enjoy sharing their thoughts and opinions and although there are issues that we don't agree on it's always interesting to hear their viewpoint. I see my oldest who knew from the time she was in 8th grade exactly what she wanted to do and by the time she was ready for college exactly where she wanted to go and how she has accomplished that. I see with my middle one how her creativity as a small child evolved into an elective course in photography that shaped her for her major in college. And of course my youngest who had the toughest time in school but yet how he knew from the time he was 5 that he wanted a Mustang and how he worked so hard through high school to accomplish that goal and how he was given the gift of working with his hands and how I see that in the beautiful shelf he made that now hangs in our bathroom and my absolutely most favorite Adirondack chair that he made for me and the pride in his voice when he showed me how he put it together. Have there been difficult times and bumps in the road-absolutely. Would I do it differently? Hard to tell because I'm definitely not the same person that I was then. Would I do it again if I were put in that position? Again hard to say but probably yes if that were the circumstances.

Well I've now gotten all mushy but yes hearing about the pitter patter of little feet does evoke some thoughts.

Susan

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Mon, 01-26-2004 - 10:44am

Most of y'all are ahead of me on raising kids, since we started later by choice.

C

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Registered: 02-27-2001
Mon, 01-26-2004 - 9:29pm

Yes Patty, the discussion did make me think a lot about my kids and when they were home.

Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty