I'm so confused!!!

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I'm so confused!!!
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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 4:41pm
I told you all that my sister had the sonogram done to rule out anything.Then the dr wanted a ct scan done.Now he wants to do another procedure.I think it's a laproscopy.Not completely sure because I talked to Dad , not my sister yet.What is he looking for?And why haven't the other tests ruled it out?I'm so worried about my sister.Plus I know she doesn't deal well with these things.I would rather go thru this myself than have her go thru it. She says when the dr calls she is confused and can't keep what he says straight and doesn't think of questions til later.Plus she hates to bother anyone!!!!!Ok, I just had to come and talk with people that would understand.Thanks guys.

Miss P




 

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:01pm

When I go to the dr. I take a written list of questions I've made up at home when I've had time to sit and think about it calmly. Maybe if she could do that it would help when she talks to her dr. in person or on the phone. Also, if it's something important, I take paper and take notes about what he says. I used to go along with my Mom and Dad to his appts. to take notes for them while they talked to the dr. It's so complex and can be an emotional time, so things you think you'll remember are forgotten or mixed up.


I sure hope she gets things squared away soon for her sake and yours. Keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers.


Hugs,

Rhonda


Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time disapproving of others.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:07pm
What was the initial problem?

 

                        

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:37pm
Hugs & sympathy, Patty! Doctors can worry us half to death sometimes with series of tests that they fail to explain, and then other times they are so nonchalant and evasive -some of mine make me want to scream!! I am considering changing my OB/GYN to a female. Male doctors don't understand what we women need from our doctors! Rhonda's suggestion is a good one!

I hope your sister gets some stress relief soon. I also hope it turns out nothing is wrong! Will keep her in my thoughts and prayers.

Katherine (Kat)
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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:38pm
Patty,

I agree with what Rhonda told you and maybe it would be time to sit down with the Dr face to face with a list of questions. A few moments of his time face to face rather than the phone. If she's getting confused and doesn't handle these things well she needs someone there to listen with her. My DD's daughter did that with her when she underwent the tests to determine whether she needed surgery. They had me come in, she showed me the results of test on the screen and what needed to be done and the reasons why. I think she had the insight to know that my daughter wasn't going to hear or understand anything more than the word surgery. I would definitely want to know the reasons for all the tests and procedures and don't think I'd go through anything more invasive until I had a good solid reason why and have my mind fully understanding what's going on and before anything invasive-a 2nd opinion.

Thoughts and prayers for your sister and for you and the family.

Hugs,

Susan

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 5:59pm
Altho being new here, I don't know what the initial problem was either, I agree with Rhonda about that list of questions. Also, if the doctor puts things into terms she doesn't understand she needs to know that it is perfectly ok to tell him to speak to her in laymens terms, not medical mumbo. Some doctors are good about that, and some aren't.

I really hope your sister is ok. I will be keeping you and her in my thoughts and prayers!

Hugs!

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Thu, 01-29-2004 - 6:24pm
Thanks so much guys!I talked to her earlier and suggested she make a list of questions.I can tell she is very worried and scared.Initally she went in for her pap test and they found a mass.They did a sonogram to find out what it was, then they did a ct to test further.Apparently the dr feels it is a fibroid but not 100% sure.He feels the lastest test needs to be done to absolutely rule out ovarian cancer.Hopefully they will get her in soon and we'll know something for sure.

I appreciate all your prayers, good thoughts and being here for me.It helps so much and gives me the strength to be be strong and positive for my family.This is an incredibly wonderful group of women!!!!!

Miss P




 

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Thu, 01-29-2004 - 10:08pm
Patty, your poor sister must be going through a wringer. She really does need that list of questions, or someone good in stressful situations to be with her when she sees the dr again. My heart goes out to her right now - and to you and the rest of the family going through this with her.

Donna

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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 7:53am
Oh Patty! I thought you were done with this. Guess I missed something.

It seems to me that maybe her doctor is trying to be very careful and make sure things are ok. I'm not an expert, but I think he just wants to have a look for himself with the laproscope. I'm glad he's being so careful, but he could be better with his communication skills. Ovarian cancer is very very scary and nothing to be toyed with.

As far as sis is concerned, please give her our best and tell her to write down her questions when she thinks of them and then call the office and ask them. Just because the doc is a busy person doesn't mean her questions and concerns aren't important. She is why that doc is in business in the first place. If she can't get satisfactory answers on the phone, I'd take her down there and get them in person. She might do better if someone else is there with her when she talks to the doc.

I'm hoping it all comes out ok. Hugs to you and your sis.

Lori


Edited 1/30/2004 7:55:44 AM ET by bootywhompus

Lori

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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 8:06am
Patty I am so sorry that your sister is going through this. I am sure its just as hard on you being her sister. I guess the best thing is to let the docs do as much testing as needed to make sure they know what the real problem is so that they can fix her. Its a scarey thing and I am sure she appreciated having you there as her sister and friend. It hard thing to go through to begin with but knowing she has you in her corner helps. Hugs to you and your sister. I pray that everything turns out fine.

Deb

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Fri, 01-30-2004 - 8:29am

Hugs and prayers for your sister.

C