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| Sun, 02-01-2004 - 9:30pm |
Saturday is the wake, church and then chapel at the crematory. Long morning and now I am coming down with hubby's sore throat and chills. Get through the morning and we come home. I am not as angry especially after this funeral. Makes me realize what I really do have and besides hubby is being sweet and he did say he was sorry. He is gone all afternoon with shop left over work and I do the mommy stuff, take Katie to her riding lessons, and back home. I did not cook so we got our Chinese food for dinner. Got the kids to bed and fell asleep on the couch until 11. Went upstairs and I tossed and turned until around 3. Fell back asleep from 3 till 7 and then began to feel real yucky and was coughing. So I went down stairs and fixed myself some tea and then fell back asleep until 10 in the recliner.
Bill had things to do this morning so he disappears. Katie has a friend come over for the afternoon. The boys are out doing thier thing. I clean (which lately I feel like that is all I do), I do some laundry, I make homemade lasagna, and set the dinning room table. At 5:45 I realize the guys are no where to be found and I am getting a little upset. Heck its Sunday and they should be around, especailly since they know I am making dinner. They stroll in around 6:15 when the lasagna is out of the oven and ready and just sit. I was like fix your own drinks this mom is not the maid and she is done. After dinner they did help clean up but then they disappear. Katie watches TV, Rob is upstairs doing the teenage thing, Billy goes out with his friend, and Bill is on the couch watching the Super Bowl. Bill just asked me to make him coffee and fix him a peice of cake. I was like I am sick now do you think maybe someone might fix me some tea. Oh no! Nothing. I was dying for some tea so I made tea and yes him some coffee. He asked for some cake at that point too, the nerve right? I handed it to him, told him I was taking my tea inside, had my cough medicine and then I was going to bed. He was like OK. I do not get my family they just keep taking and taking and like a jerk I keep giving. I wish I was ballsy enough to walk out on them. But I am not. I think they are part of my problem with sticking to anything and doing stuff for me. I need to start doind for me. Do any of you deal with this? Or am I the only jerk?
Deb

My ex found it impossible to be nice to me when I was sick - I didn't want him to wait on me, I just wanted to be by myself & not to wait on him. He made sure I waited on him no matter what. He was so excited when I got a management job, but yet threw fits when I had to put in comp time, as all managers do. That high salary didn't mean a thing after he figured out I had to put in more than 40 hours & he had to take care of little ds some. Now that I'm divorced, I still have to put up with a male attitude at my job when I'm sick. I come in no matter if I'm sick or not. I won't elaborate on the injustice of the perks men in the workplace receive, but it just tickles me to no end when I hear a man brag about how he doesn't expect his wife to come home from work and cook - I feel like telling him that thought should never enter his mind in the first place! These attitudes are sick! I hope my ds does not treat his wife in such manners as the men do their wives out here. I'd rather him remain single than unfair to his wife.
I wish I had some good advice on how to get the peace & respect you deserve! Maybe we should just be big b's!!! Now that my ds is older, I do make sure he fends after himself when I am under the weather. He WILL get used to the real world in my home! He will understand that women have a right to rest and spend money, too!
Hugs and I hope that your family gives you a break soon,
Kat
~~Rhonda~~
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I think what makes me angry is that he was pissed at me when he climbed into bed. See I usually keep quiet and they usually do not realize. I passed the comments before dinner when they all came home. I then said something at 8:30 while he sat on the couch as I made tea, and coffee, and finished cleaning up the kitchen. Yeah I was angry. I felt like crap. He finally came to bed around midnight and never said a word, he usually touches me somehow even if he thinks I am asleep, nothing last night. This morning I woke him and he got up and that was it. He left here at 7:30 and did not say have a good day, how do you feel, nothing. This hurts me, and I do not feel I deserve this.
I guess my best bet it just to remain extremly low. My middle son is home sick complaining his stomach really hurts. I have erronds to run and stuff to keep my busy. I usually stop there during the day or call I will not do either. After I take Katie to school I will go to Curves and do my workout. Come home and hop a shower and then do my things. Maybe my silience will get his attention but the kids are going to know to knock it off. As a matter of fact Miss Katie just came down and passed a comment about Rob being home sick and I told her to mind her own business. Argh! Kids and husbands they can drive us crazy. Well time to finish my tea and get the day going. Thanks for listening and responding.
Deb
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Deb
Heading to Curves to work off this anger
Debbie
Good for you for heading to Curves!
You're right! You did send that email. Sorry. I was going down the list looking for titles and didn't even see who'd sent it to me, and with my short term memory... Well, it was a good one I wanted to share with everyone anyway. Maybe you should post a printout of it on the fridge. ;-)
~~Rhonda~~
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Deb, I've just read all your posts in this thread.
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