Sent parents e-mail....

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 8:32am
Well, I finally answered my parents' e-mail about them coming out for a visit among other things - replied this morning. I decided to do it through e-mail since there were a few other chatty things to talk about (family friend becoming a great-grandmother, Dad's selling his stamps, Superbowl - they had a party where they all were cheering for the Panthers, Allison's school next year, updates from a college friend of mine who my folks knew, upcoming hockey game), and that's how they contacted me to find out dates for a potential visit anyway. I didn't go on ad nauseum - managed to express my feelings in two paragraphs. I concluded the e-mail back to them with "We'd love to have you out, here's the only things we have planned, here's some great times for you to make it."

It's good that I waited and smoked it all over. My response shrunk considerably, keeping to the main points without trying to get revenge or hurt them. I could see God's answers to my prayers in the time that I'd allowed to pass. Sunday's sermon at church, even though it didn't seem related, clarified it all. I believe He allowed this to come up yet again so that I may refocus my own priorities, seeking Him first and trusting Him. Even though I thought I'd turned my hurt over to Him, I hadn't, because I hadn't dealt with it on a personal level like I finally am. It's funny how He crafts these things to speak to us. I'm forgiving my parents, myself, and have sought forgiveness from Him for stubbornly clinging to the bitterness that's not grounded in Him.

It's not yet concluded, for I know I'll hear back from them, but I think I'll be able to let this go once and for all no matter what future e-mails or phone calls bring.






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C

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 9:26am
Thinking about you and hope you get a very positive reply.

Miss P




 

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 11:07am
I'm so glad you prayed over this and got an answer, and you shared your story.
“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” -Brian Tracy
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 11:46am

So happy to see you're dealing with this so well and seem to have found some peace of mind about it. Hopefully, it will all work out in the end.


I agree with Deb about not being able to see children. It's driving me nuts that I haven't been able to see Claudea yet and haven't seen Andie in ages.

Rhonda


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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 1:45pm
Congratulations. I'm glad you let them know how you feel, but I'm very glad you were able to reach a place of forgiveness and acceptance before expressing it.

I'm sure that Allison will be better off for your loving example.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 2:36pm
It's good to wait until some of the emotional part of the issue has cleared.

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Phyllis

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:41pm

It drives me crazy not seeing my grandkids more than 3 times a year. With both families living out of state, it is hard to go visit. They grow up so fast and I miss so much.

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 3:44pm

Looks like you found the right way to handle the situation with your parents, Cussette. Hoping you get a favorable answer from parents and they come to visit soon.


Thinking of you


Grace

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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 5:37pm
I hope you get to see your grandkids soon.
“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” -Brian Tracy
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Wed, 02-18-2004 - 10:13pm
It sounds like you did the right thing.
Nancy

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