Is it my turn to vent?
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Is it my turn to vent?
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:49pm |
We've lived here for over 3 years now and it's time to repaint the inside of the house.
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:49pm |
We've lived here for over 3 years now and it's time to repaint the inside of the house.
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Oh, Phyllis...you poor woman...I feel your pain! I hope you say something so you don't implode! Do you really have to paint everything? I am sure your place is in good shape that you don't have to. Most people want to paint their own colors when they move in.
I do hope DH decides to help you with the rest of the rooms. No he will not offer because you are doing such a good job. You will have to tell him to help you. You almost have to hit men over the head with it. It is his house too. It is a lot of work to do yourself. I hope you can find some peace with all of this.
All I can say is you are not alone. I think we have all been where you are now with DH. Paybacks are a b*tch. DH is getting a taste of it now that I am out of commission.
Grace
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I feel for you. I'm sure you'll get your point across.
Hugs.
Sassy
Men, can't live with them. Can't bury them in the backyard.
Miss P
Good luck & don't you dare do all of that work yourself!
Hugs,
Kat
I'm really sorry you're having to go through this, and you sure have a right to vent. I would have to say something to him. It's just my nature. I don't suffer in silence well, and it's better for me to talk it out sooner than later before it grows out of proportion. It may be that he does need a brick wall to fall on him. Men are pretty clueless (sometimes out of convenience). Tim is a wonderful, incredibly intelligent person, yet take him out of the office and he's like the absent-minded professor.
Hugs,
Rhonda
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~~Rhonda~~
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You're right - he probably won't offer to help - he's probably figuring that you're quite capable and will ask for help when you want it, and be quite willing. Further, I'll bet he'd be *VERY* surprised to hear that you expected him to know you wanted help... He's a guy. Don't expect him to figure it out. Guys need a clue-by-four.
So, save yourself some bad feelings and let him know when you're going to do the rest that you would like help and what specifically you would like help. He may even think he's being good by staying out of your way! (Guys are like that...)
In the meantime, feel free to vent all you need to. I understand. Alex is the complete slob from hell.... It would never ever dawn on him to offer to help. But he's always quite willing to help whenever I ask...
Men. Sometimes I wonder what we see in them... ;-)
Anna
Thanks everyone for lettting me vent and your advice.
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Phyllis
I totally get where you're coming from.
Lori
Lori
I think, too, those of us who don't have a regular 8-5 job tend to overlook what our fellas put into their days. The Cus gets up at 6:15am, hits the road by 7:10am, and often doesn't get back until 6:00pm for nearly a 12-hour day. If we don't have that kind of schedule we get to do some of those relaxing things a little at a time during the week, and sometimes they just don't want to get involved in anything on their days off. Having said that, though... computer games, movies and TV *all* day is excessive for a day, and I *know* I'd object too.
(As an aside, in my case whenever I start a decorating project, The Cus has made it clear I'm on my own! There's a difference, though - I'm not doing it out of need. After 12, almost 13 years, I'm ready to add color and pizazz to various rooms in the house. But that's quite different as to what you're doing and why - though a guy who's perfectly happy with white walls, blinds without curtains and mismatched furniture might not see it that way.)
Cussette
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I think you're right - I don't think it would ever dawn on most men to respond to a comment like "I'm tired" with an offer to help. They might suggest you sit down for a while, or not work so hard or some other "fixit" suggestion, but offering to help would never occur to them....
You just gotta remember:
never hit a man with glasses (or hints)
hit him with a baseball bat.
Anna
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