Is it my turn to vent?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Is it my turn to vent?
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Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:49pm

We've lived here for over 3 years now and it's time to repaint the inside of the house.

Live With Passion!

Phyllis

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Registered: 04-21-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 5:39pm
I think something else that really helps is to schedule it in advance. And then give them a "warning shot". Once they've agreed to a particular time, they can wrap their minds around doing computer until X oclock, then come do this other thing.

I remember I used to really resent being asked to drop what I was doing to go help with something my parents or ex wanted - mostly because they never bothered asking or caring whether it was a convenient time for me - it came across like my interests or activities (including relaxation) just wasn't as important as whatever it was they wanted to do right then. I'd have been glad to help if given a chance to arrange it in my day. It was the sudden unexpected rearranging that bothered me.

I've made a point with Alex of making sure I've said OUT LOUD that "on Saturday, I want to do X and I'd like your help. What time would work for you?" That way, we've got it arranged, he can fit his schedule around it and not feel imposed upon, but I get my need for assistance met too.

Yeah - you'd think they'd offer, but they won't. So, learn to make ways for you both to win anyway.

Anna

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Registered: 10-15-2003
Fri, 02-20-2004 - 8:51pm

When reading this post I thought about how this would happen in our house.

“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” -Brian Tracy

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