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Is it my turn to vent?
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:49pm |
We've lived here for over 3 years now and it's time to repaint the inside of the house.
| Thu, 02-19-2004 - 6:49pm |
We've lived here for over 3 years now and it's time to repaint the inside of the house.
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I remember I used to really resent being asked to drop what I was doing to go help with something my parents or ex wanted - mostly because they never bothered asking or caring whether it was a convenient time for me - it came across like my interests or activities (including relaxation) just wasn't as important as whatever it was they wanted to do right then. I'd have been glad to help if given a chance to arrange it in my day. It was the sudden unexpected rearranging that bothered me.
I've made a point with Alex of making sure I've said OUT LOUD that "on Saturday, I want to do X and I'd like your help. What time would work for you?" That way, we've got it arranged, he can fit his schedule around it and not feel imposed upon, but I get my need for assistance met too.
Yeah - you'd think they'd offer, but they won't. So, learn to make ways for you both to win anyway.
Anna
When reading this post I thought about how this would happen in our house.
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