In fairness...

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In fairness...
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Thu, 02-26-2004 - 8:06am
Apparently this parental situation is still unwinding. Sorry to keep on about it, but after getting their letter and sharing what was in it, I think it's only fair to share this as well.

This morning my mother e-mailed me with arrival and departure flights and times for her visit in May - so at least that's a go. At the end of her e-mail she said that both of them would like to visit towards the end of this year - November or December. ... Would this have happened if I hadn't have brought it up? No way to tell. Is this just a one-time carrot (as my husband cautioned might happen before I confronted them), or will they be making more of an effort? Again, no way to tell, especially after the words of their letter making priorities clear. We still want to get out there again, though our visits are going to be tied to Allison's school schedule.






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C

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cussette
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 10:08am
Why second guess the motive or the future.

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Phyllis

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In reply to: cussette
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 10:16am
Enjoy their visits. You did what you needed to do and whether they're doing it as a result, or as a carrot, or whatever, you did the right thing. Good for you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cussette
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 2:01pm
Linda - I feel the same way as the others. Don't dwell on what inspired the decision to visit - just embrace it and make it the best visit for Allison that you can, knowing you did a pretty fine job bringing it about.

Donna

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cussette
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 4:33pm
It's hard to know if you're the catalyst that triggered the upcoming visit, but I'm sure you didn't hurt. For whatever reason, I'm glad they'll be making the trip. You know about absence making the heart grow fonder (of someone else!), and I think if they get to spend some time with you and Allison, it's going to be a wakeup call of just what they've been missing.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: cussette
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 5:04pm
Great news, Linda! I'm glad your dad is making plans to see you all this year.

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Katherine (Kat)
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In reply to: cussette
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 9:30am
Maybe your Moms visit will be a time you can get some answers to your concerns.I'm sure your parents will understand that you have to work around your DDs school schedule.In the meantime feel good that you expressed your concerns and keep positive thoughts that it will all work out.Good luck!

Miss P