What do you wish for?

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 3:06pm
Just a question for you all..........do you ever wish for something? I do not mean like peace on earth or to end world hunger. I know these are really important things and I do not want you to think I do not care. That is not the reason behind this post. I just want to know do you ever think about you? I keep wishing to myself to be happy with my body and myself. I am not, but I guess not enough to keep making those positive changes and stick with them. I am looking everyday at a two pictures of me stuffed into that dress we ordered for my sisters wedding in Sept. I had to order a size 16, very depressing for me. I want to be able to tuck my shirt into my jeans, and to not squeeze into my jeans. I feel hungry and I wish I knew what to do to control it. I had a nice healthy salad around 1:30 with turkey and a hard boiled egg on top. I should not be hungry but I am. I look like my grandmother this afternoon, dressed in my jeans. Sad, very sad. Tomorrow we are going racing and those Sunday's just kill me. My inlaws stop and bring those darn Dunkin Munchins........I asked them not to, but they are anyway. Because the kids like them, and they said I was being unfair to them. Am I? Hubby looked at me and said......well just do not eat them. I know, I need to work on my will power and focus on that. It just seems like I do not have any. Sorry for the pitty party, but I was just looking for some way to vent. Thanks for listening.

Deb

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 3:33pm
It's really hard when the ones who are supposed to be your support system aren't supportive. It feels sometimes like they're trying to sabotage you, doesn't it? Sometimes I would go out of my way to eat a good breakfast and more than I normally would of fruits in order to fill up and avoid the treats... And sometimes, I just say - okay, on Sunday (or whatever) I'm going to expect to eat more than normal. If I expect it, then I could account for it and not feel like I was being weak.

As for being hungry, I eat about every 2 hours - and make sure there's protein in each snack or meal. It's easier on my system. And whenever I get hungry I try to drink a bunch of water or tea also.

I think we all wish for things for ourselves. I think that's perfectly okay. As long as we remember to *act* as well and not just wish...

Hugs! Good luck dealing with the inlaws and everything....

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 3:52pm

I just say ditto on top of Revanna's post.


 








 
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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 7:08pm
You're asking the Princess if she ever thinks about herself????Seriously???:)Yes!!!!!I know exactly how you feel, especially on the tucking the shirt in deal.Just today I was trying on a skirt , a size up from my usual,and it was tight.Is it discouraging?Yes, some days it really is.I work out pretty consistently and I have a very physical job.I also really love food, especially the fattening kind.I have been telling myself for the past week that I have to stop giving into my cravings if I really truly want to get back down to my weight I'm happiest with.Right now I'm trying to focus on cardio, weights and drinking enough water.Gradually I'm hoping to get my eating back to where it should be.I'm trying to make positive changes like adding an apple each day, a salad with meals.Little things do add up and it doesn't have to be an all or nothing deal.One thing that I keep reminding myself of is a post from Phyllis sometime ago.She mentioned how quickly a free day of food or a food filled weekend could undo 5 really good days of eating.I'm finding that is so true.With any goal you have to have discipline and balance and patience.

Any chance you could have the in laws pick up a low fat treat for you on Sunday or plan something yourself?Yes, it's annoying when people sabbotage our efforts.And maybe this is unfair, but I think a man telling a woman to just not eat it over simplifies it.More women struggle with weight and food issues than men.And alot of that comes from society and the pressure it puts on women.Not making excuses but it is a part of things.

Deb, you have shown that you can do whatever you set your mind to.You've done that with school and work.You've also had really great workouts.I believe people have to get to the right place mentally to make the diet changes needed to lose weight.I also think there may be a point where they have to let it go enough not to be overstressed about it.Does that make any sense?

I'm glad you vented because we are here for you just like you are for us.And I really believe you can do this!!!

Miss P




 

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 7:49pm

Yes Deb, I do wish for things for me.

Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty


 


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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 8:07pm
Dear Deb, I truly understand when you say you wish that for yourself (and also the part about the donuts!). I have wishes along those lines for myself, too. I wish that I would never gain weight at the end of the year after all of the festivities! I love the sweets and fatty foods during that time of year & every year I pay with added weight. This year it wasn't as much as last year to lose, but I haven't lost it all yet. This past week, I have been more dedicated and if I keep it up for the next few months, the lbs. will be shed I know. But my question to myself is WHY do I do this every year??? I know in my heart of hearts that not only will I not lose this weight unless I have a couple of months of 100% good eating days, I will be unable to maintain the weight unless I monitor my goodies alot better than I have! I may be one of those that have to eat right 90% of the time and keep the goodies down to 10%.

I think you have received good advice from everyone so I will just add my best wishes and I know you can do it!!! You are so good about your snacks and meals during the week - your pepper slices and veggies, etc. Like Patty posted, you have achieved some remarkable goals recently in your college work and career.

I'm cheering for you!

Hugs,

Kat

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Sat, 04-24-2004 - 10:24pm

Deb, I could have written a lot of your post. That's why recently I went for the hypnosis session, and so far, it is helping me. Everyone is different and each of us has to do what is right for her. I had just gotten to the point where I was so unmotivated and disgusted with my lack of motivation that I had to do something, anything, to get headed in the right direction.


I've mentioned before that I'm a carb craver and a chocoholic. The hypnosis has really helped me be able to say no to those things, but I'm still very hungry pretty often. I've just been eating a lot of healthier food. I haven't really lost any more weight since the first few days, but that's OK, because my stomach is less bloated and I know I'm making better choices. I think I've also not eaten enough or often enough during the day, which is what leads me to want to eat more at night. I've also done a good bit of manual labor lately, which makes me need to eat more.


Everyone has made good suggestions about the Munchkin situation (I adore those chocolate cake ones!!), so I'd try to eat a filling, healthy breakfast, take a big thing of water, and take some healhy munchies or your own along with you. That should help attack the problem from all angles.


Good luck and know that we probably all feel as you are feeling

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 11:56am

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 12:38pm
Deb, your post made me think of a conversation I had with a young(21) girl the other day.She was going to have a yard sale and had pants ranging from size 0 to size 14.She has gone up , not down.But she said she is very happy with her body and likes the way she looks.In the past 4 yrs she has gotten married and had 2 babies.She is very happy with her size and shape which was such a refreshing thing to hear.Loved her whole attitude.On the other hand, a relative of hers has had gastric bypass and lost alot of weight.So much that her dr has told her she has to stop losing.This woman , however, still sees herself as large.How she ever qualified for the surgery I don't know because she was never that big.She is also struggling with alot of sagging skin,even around her ankles. So here she is , smaller than she ever dreamed she would be but still struggling with an image of a large woman.How sad.

Miss P




 

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 1:00pm

Just don't eat them!?!?

Lori

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Sun, 04-25-2004 - 5:48pm
A barkless dog --- I can only dare to dream...

Rhonda


Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time disapproving of others.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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