Bad day, I need chocolate!

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Bad day, I need chocolate!
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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:14pm
Hey there everyone. I have an entire day worth of posts to read and catch up from this morning. Went off to work with a smile and came home crying. My boss, Steve told me this morning he and his family are going to sell their house and relocate to an area right outside Richmond, Virginia. He goes to to tell me that he and his wife have been talking about moving for several months and in Feb he actually started sending out resumes. Remember 2 weeks ago I ran the office while he was "out of town"? Well he was down there, I guess interviewing. They must have offered him the job on Monday. So it looks like my perfecjob is going to be over before it really began. He told me he will be starting his new job on August 2nd and I was welcome to work right through July for him. I have such mixed feelings. Part of me is upset and angry.......someone forgot to tell this man its all about "ME". The other part of me understands and wishes him and his family well. Bill and I discussed the situation and more then likely I will work through July, take off August to be home for the rest of the summer with the kids and then look for work again in August to hopefully start something in Sept. Bill is very optimistic about how things will work out. But its still upsetting. So that is my news.......my tummy hurts, I did not exercise, nor do I feel like it. I want some chocolate and that last Easter bunny is calling my name. But do not worry I do not want that 1.4 pounds back that I lost from last week. Thanks for listening to my whining!

Deb

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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:20pm
Sending big hugs your way Deb! But, step away from the chocolate or I'll have to hurt you!! LOL

Look on the bright side hon...you've got some great experience in and I'm sure your boss will give you a great reference. See it through and I'll just bet there's something better waiting at the end!!

Have a nice cup of tea, a hot bath and relax!!

Love ya my friend,

Shar

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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:28pm

I'm so sorry to hear about developments with your job. If I were you, I'd take it easy and give yourself some soothing time, then jump back on the wagon.


Hugs,

Rhonda


Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time disapproving of others.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 9:51pm
The sad part Rhonda is I feel like I am always just stepping on the band wagon, and I never get to stay on the ride for very long. Which is part of the anger coming out in me now. He painted a different picture 8 weeks ago when he hired me about long term and the things he wanted to do. Argh!!!!!!! Its just not fair, and I am sick and tired of complaining all the time. I just want to be happy and have it last a while, is that too much to ask?

Deb

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Wed, 05-05-2004 - 10:32pm

It's not unreasonable at all. You were pretty much misled by someone you trusted, which makes it all that much more painful. I often feel I'm just getting on the band wagon only to fall off again, and it's extremely frustrating. It looks as though I may need to go back to work to help boost Tim's co. (long story), and I'm not looking forward to it at all. I'm a bit nervous about it after being off 3 1/2 years and have no desire to go back to a high stress, major responsibility, game playing atmosphere. I'll be looking for something lower paying, but much more emotionally friendly.


Hang in there and hugs to you!

Rhonda


Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time disapproving of others.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 6:17am
Deb, so sorry about this news. I can certainly see where you would be upset since you were given no reason to think this job would end so soon.Keeping you in my thoughts.

Miss P




 

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:39am
I know it's disappointing


 








 
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 7:42am

How disappointing!

Lori

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 8:16am
The guy should've been honest with you up front... or he shouldn't have filled the position. Then again, he might not have expected things to unfold as they did. I can see why you're upset, but turn it around and use it to build grace as Phyllis suggested. As much as we want it otherwise, it turns out that the world is not "about me", whether it's you, me or anybody else on this board.

Bill seems to be upbeat, and he was there for you. Lean on him during this, give him a hug and a "thanks for listening, hon". It'll make you feel better, too.












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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 9:13am
Deb - I'm sure this news stunned and disappointed you, but you've get several solid months of experience under your belt, it sounds like you'd get a very positive reference from him, and you get a whole month off in the summer to have fun with the kids and find something better and hopefully permanent. You did it with no experience, and you'll do it again with even more to offer. Be confident, don't burn that bridge as Phyllis said....and don't take it out on the bunny!!! After the great week you've had, that'll just make you feel a lot worse.

Sounds like a good journaling opportunity - an emotional reaction, a stressful situation, your first reaction was to demolish the bunny, but you didn't. Think about why you didn't, and put it on paper to read the next time you hit a bump in your professional road.

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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 9:35am
Thanks ladies for your hugs and support. I knew I could vent and lean on you. Bill is super with this. He is encouraging me to just take the month of August off and look after the kids go back to school. As you all said take it as a learning experience and grow from here. I just need to be less emotional about things. I will ask him to talk with Tom (the attorney who we share the office with) and see if Tom is interested. If not then work through July, take off August and be home with the kids and in the meantime start putting the resumes and word back out. This job opened up, so something else will. Heck I had 3 leads, 3 weeks into this job which I turned down. I guess I just wish Steve had been honest and upfront when he asked me to work for him. I can not let this drag me down either, its just a job, not my life. Thanks again and hugs back to all of you!

Deb

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