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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:11pm

Sorry I've been absent.

Lori

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 4:27pm
Lori, I am so sorry to read this message.I'm glad you posted because you have been on my mind.Honestly, sometimes when I do a morning post I wonder does anyone pull it up and think if they hear one more positive word about exercise or anything they will scream!!!!

I'm sorry to hear your dh is struggling with depression but I'm more worried about you now.You've been taking care of everyone else for a long time now and you need to have someone take care of you for a change.At the very least you need to take care of yourself.

You know I'm here for you if you need anything.Wish there was something I could do to help.If there is please let me know.

Love ya,

Patty

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 6:27pm

Gigantic Hugs, Lori! I don't know what to say except I'm here for you and you can vent anytime. Email me anytime to "talk".


Take care of you now. Do the things you like. Don't skip the yoga...it IS good for you. You have to take care so you can stay healthy to deal with all that is going on. It

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 7:21pm

Lori, I noticed you hadn't posted earlier and was wondering if everything was OK. I'm really sorry to hear that everything seems to be hitting at once. You've had so much on you basically carrying the load at home and all. I hope you'll always feel that you can post no matter what. I know it helps me to know there's a place I can come and let it all out and know that people will understand and care and often have suggestions that will make me feel better. I think it makes you feel a lot worse if you think you have to keep it all inside and go through difficult times alone.


I used to have to write design specifications and kind of enjoyed it, but I'm not sure what kind of specs you're having to learn. They are technical. Are they giving you a reasonable amount of time to learn the process

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 8:39pm
Lori,

I really feel for you. I know the feeling of working hard, not making any headway. Hope your DH can get over his depression. Things can only get so bad and then they'll start looking up. Hang in there with those specs. You must be over qualified for that kind of job. I'll be thinking about you. Things will get better for you. How can they not with all these great gals pulling for you!

Donna L

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 9:05pm
Lori,

There are no words to express how badly I feel for you right now. Having everything descend on you at one time is so difficult. I'm worried for you that you're trying to manage your job, your worries about finances and concern for your husband and I know that it's easy to say to take of yourself first. It's not an easy thing to do. If there was something that I could say or do for you right now I would. I can only offer my heartfelt wishes that I hope things will get better for you. Please know that I'm thinking of you.

Hugs,

Susan

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 1:48am
Lori--you need your time and the yoga now more than ever.
“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.” -Brian Tracy
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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 7:01am
I'm so sorry Lori. Been there, done that. I know how it feels when the sky seems to be falling in on you. No great ideas, just lots of hugs and sympathy.

Anna

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 7:39am
Gosh, everything is hitting you at once, and that'll drag most anybody down. You could probably drop a medication or two if you weren't carrying the entire burden of income and family on yourself. No chance for counseling for DH, is there? Whatever the reason, he's not contributing much to your partnership. I just wonder what he'll do if you have a breakdown - and that's what I'm concerned about with you.

You're right that you can't continuously take of others. I echo what the others say - carve out a slot of time for yourself. The big wigs will be gone soon at work.












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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 9:02am
(((((hugs))))) Lori, I am so sorry you are going through such a tuff time. Several trouble things going on at the same time and all of it is falling upon you. Very unfair, yet many of us understand because we too have been there or close to it from time to time.

Your job is stressing you out, between the "big wigs", the meetings, and new projects. DH's being depressed and mad at you, while you carry the heavy load is unfair. The cigs are really something that is a luxury especially when the money is tight. I understand tight all too well, being self employed and a SAHM all these years. Its not easy especially when only one partner is carring the load. Why does hubby not work? Is it because of his depression? Is he on meds?

Your stress level is high and you sound like the type of lady who allows to be the one people dump on. You are nice and its hard to say no. Maybe that time is now. With your meds, you need to take care of Lori or Lori will explode. You will not be any good to anyone if you can not be good to you. Do YOUR yoga, take YOUR walks, work on YOUR Loricise, and cry if YOU want to. You are entitled to, we all give you permission. Just like everyone said, come here and vent, we all need a place.

Deb

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Thu, 06-24-2004 - 9:07am

Lori, I'm sorry that I'm so late with this thought....gone from home all day yesterday.

Nancy

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