Fustration and confusion
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Fustration and confusion
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 5:45pm |
Hey there, these last few days have been a little bit odd. Which would you rather hear about first my confusion or fustration? The confusion is of coarse about the job. I thought about it all weekend and decided to speak with Tom first before I made my mind up. So yesterday around 4:30 once everyone was out of the office I told Tom I had a question. Basicly asked him if he has any thoughts of wanting to keep me on around there once my job with Steve ends next week. He goes, well yes I do. So we lead into asking what I am most interested in and I tell him part-time work for another couple of years, how I really do not want to be in the office everyday and would rather do 3 to 4 days a week, how I want to be home when Katie gets off the bus. His response was that it should be fine and do-able. He is going to move the file cabinets into the other back room and put in a forth desk and I could share it with Nina, who comes in 3 afternoons a week. He will speak with the other ladies and figure out what they need help with the most and that will become my job/responsibilities. We did not discuss salary and I told him we could discuss it in more depth over the next week before I leave for vacation to TN. He was fine with this. In my heart I want to stay where I am, I know I an not adventurous. I enjoy working with these ladies so much and Tom is pretty good, once you get to know him. My confusion is of coarse is the money and am I letting something good pass me by. But time will tell.
The fustration part is my family. My best friends from Florida are here. Maria's dad passed away on Saturday and her and her hubby are up. Our other friend came in and is staying with me. I feel my family is making me feel guilty for wanting to be with them, when I know Maria needs me to be there. If I get too into details I will start crying and that is not good. I need to fix dinner for them and get redressed so that I can go back to the funeral palor tonight at 7.
So that is my life for the moment.
Deb

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So sorry for your friends loss.Yes, our families have a tendency to forget they aren't they only ones who need us sometimes.They also have a tendency to forget we need our time too.
Miss P
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I agree with Patty that being happy is very important. I say that because I know how miserable I became when I stayed somewhere I wasn't happy. I don't know how much help this is, but I think you have good instincts and suggest following them.
Hugs,
Rhonda
Time invested in improving ourselves cuts down on time disapproving of others.
~~Rhonda~~
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I can certainly understand your frustration and confusion. A number of years ago I was becoming a bit disgruntled with my job and thinking that maybe it was time to make a change. Out of the blue came a job offer at a community college in the nursing department office. It was totally different from what I had been doing and prospect seemed great. The job fell through until several months later when the job offer came up again. Again the prospect seemed like a good one and I began to think that even though the distance from home was greater and the pay was less but the benefits were better I really thought it was time. Well I needed to take and pass a Civil Service test before the job could become mine. I had to travel to Long Island City to take the test and I left super early to get there and get parking. Needless to say traffic was terrible and with minutes to spare there was nowhere to park. I at that point knew where I needed to be, turned the car around and came home. I've grown into new job responsibilites, gone from part time to full time and have a great relationship with my bosses. Go with your instincts. Extra money is nice but you need to be happy and comfortable with your coworkers and the job.
As far as your family is concerned. You know where you need to be and your family needs to understand that. Your friend needs your love and support right now and your family can fend for themselves while you do what you need to do. They'll get over it!
Good luck with your decision and your family.
Hugs,
Susan
Hey Deb:
What a tough spot to be in.
Lori
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