Bad at lunch; good at dinner (long)
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Bad at lunch; good at dinner (long)
| Fri, 08-27-2004 - 7:09pm |
Our company picnic was this afternoon.
| Fri, 08-27-2004 - 7:09pm |
Our company picnic was this afternoon.
It's okay to experience negative feelings! And it's probably better for you than the food you'd otherwise eat in the place of feelings. As for you "choosing" to be happy, it's not about choosing an emotion. I don't know anybody who can pick an emotion and stick with it, LOL! Rather, it's choosing what you focus on for your emotional building blocks. You can choose to focus on Walter and the fact that you'll never have your feelings returned (depressing), or choose to focus on the 23 pounds you've lost so far and the fact that you now weigh less than you have in 20 years (upbeat) - and you're doing it with some delicious recipes (yummy)! You've got a wonderful self-image in your mind of you doing Riverdance. It's tough to keep it always in front, but it's always there for you to fall back on. I wish I had an image like that to keep focused on, but I don't.
I almost shared that blurb from Prevention as a general post two weeks ago, but for whatever reason, I decided not to. After reading your post, it's probably something we all need to read. I really want to see you beat all this Mary, and I'm trying to think of anything I've read to offer support and encouragement. If I'm saying the wrong things, just tell me to shut up and I will!
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About choosing to be sad or happy, well like Cussette said we really can't control our emotions. We can control how we react to them. Prayer helps me more than anything. Sometimes it is just a simple "God please help me!". If I focus on praying or meditation then it helps take my mind off of what ever is bothering me. Depression is hard to deal with but there is hope.
Hope you get to feeling better.
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I'l just add my "ditto" to the other two.