What's in Ashville?

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What's in Ashville?
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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 2:46am
Hi I am just curious about your trip. How did it come about, is it only people from this board going? Do you all live near NC which is a beautiful state btw. I guess since I am a newbi I am feeling a bit like an outsider. Anway just curious it sounds like fun. Have a good day Mo

Maureen/Mo

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 5:49am

Hi Mo.The trip to Asheville is an idea started up by board members, a chance for everyone to get to meet face to face.I'm not sure how we decided on NC but no everyone doesn't live near there.WE have board members from all over.


Check out the website and read more about it.Any chance you could join the group for the trip?

Miss P




 

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 12:19pm
Hi PT, Thanks for the info. I am interested in the trip and even emailed Booty about it. I wasn't going to post this but decided nothing ventured nothing gained. You all sound so together and know each other and have lives and stuff. I suffer from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and am trying to regain my life after years of depression and anxiety. I live a very isolated boring life. I can't work right now and I am afraid since we don't have a lot of money I wouldn't fit in. I came to this board to try and find out how to get fit in my forties and meet people. Part of PTSD is anxiety problems so as soon as I started thinking about making the trip I started worrying about how I would get to the hotel and around. If anyone would want to share a room or if I could handle being alone Etc. I am baring myself here folks. This is really embarrassing. I haven't mentioned this to dh yet as I am not sure if anyone here would want to be a buddy to someone with panic attacks and no life. Even if I don't go I will love hearing about it from you all. Thanks for listening. Mo

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 1:09pm
Hi everybody, please ignore my previous post. I don't know what I was thinking. I hope you all have a great time in Asheville and I will lurk about and look forward to reading about your trip. Have a great week. Mo

Maureen/Mo

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 3:18pm
HI, MO...thank you for sharing with us what you are going through. Don't feel ashamed...we are not a judgemental group and everyone is welcome. IF you think you can make the trip, let us know. There are a number of us that would share our room. We also are a varied lot at all economic levels. I have been saving up for this for awhile.

I am going to be honest here too and tell you I live with 2 people who suffer from anxiety/depression. It is not easy, but I know sometimes they do feel better when they do something different once they get past the anxious planning stage. Truthfully...I am already getting butterflies thinking about traveling, but I know it will be worth it to go and meet some of the girls. It is going to be a relaxing girl time for all of us.

I say I really don't have a life either...my kids are grown up and DH really doesn't want me to work since it would put us in a higher tax bracket and end up having less income, and I don't feel like I have any real purpose in life anymore. (Empty nest syndrome?) I used to work two jobs and now I only sub exercise classes. I am afraid of living my life through my kids. I keep saying I need a life too but don't get off my butt to do something. I keep saying I would do volunteer work, but then I get that I don't want to tie myself down and be stuck and not able to visit my out of state children and their families when I want to. I guess there are all different levels of feeling this way.

So...you have more in common with us than you think.

Good luck with getting fit and healthy and I hope we can be here to help you feel better physically and emotionally.

Grace

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 6:50pm

Hi Mo,


Some of us have been wanting to meet for probably 3 years or more, but started planning this actual trip a little over a year ago. I've been putting $20. a week aside for it, but must admit I've dipped into my Asheville Fund more than once.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:15pm
Hi Mo! Glad to have you aboard. Personally I think that all females (especially those of us over 40) go through some type of stress, anxiety, and depression. I feel like it's all part of the hormonal changes we have. I know that there are different levels and as previously posted by some of the other members PTSD is more widely known and accepted that it was 20 yrs ago.

About the trip I would really like to go but can't afford it this year. I think I'm going to try to put a little up each payday and hopefully make it next year. I know if you search on the internet you can find some good deals on hotels and plain tickets but they usually need to be done in advance. Maybe I can get the kids to pitch in a little as an early Christmas gift to help pay for the trip (LOL). If they did it would probably get spent on them anyways. When DH and I went on our honeymoon last year we didn't realize how much stuff we bought the kids until after we got back home and started sorting all the suveniours & gifts out.

You mentioned that you don't have a life, I like not having much of a life. It took a few years for my oldest DD to understand that staying home on a Friday night and watching a video is what I like to do on a Friday night. She wanted me to keep her 4 kids so she could go out and I explained that it was what DH & I did for a date and it didn't include small children running around the house. Don't get me wrong I do keep the kids and enjoy them very much, but when I want to and not everytime she wants to go out to a club. That is the advantage of being Grandma.

Well I rattled on, hope I didn't bore you too much. I am really glad you are here and hope to hear from you more. By the way I'm from TX, where are you from?

Alice - The Betty Boop

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 7:49pm
Hey Mo,

Hope you don't intend to just be a lurker here. Please don't ever feel that you can't post about things that you're dealing with. No judgments about anyone here no matter what situation they may be facing. I can understand your anxiety/depression issue one of my children has been dealing with it for a number of years. I can't say that there's much of a life going on here either! I work full time, have 3 kids still living home, a husband and a crazy yet lovable dog! So work before work, work at work and work after work basically fills my day and weekends! That's one of the things that's so great about this board is that it's a place where I can come and share in the daily trials and tribulations and know that I'm not alone! So even if you can't make it to Asheville I do hope that you'll become a regular here!

Susan

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Tue, 09-28-2004 - 9:55pm

Mo, do not be embarassed about what you posted here.

Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty