Sick and tired of being sick and tired

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Registered: 03-28-2007
Sick and tired of being sick and tired
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Wed, 03-28-2007 - 11:26am
Ok here goes my story...I am looking for online support. My past experience has led me to believe it works. I quit smoking using an online support group in 1999. I am the mother of three, 18,16, and 11. I am caretaker to my parents (no they do not live with me but depend on me). I quit my job thinking it would make life a little easier for me and my loved ones this past fall. I miss who I felt like I was while workiing. I have been married for 22 years and my husband works overseas. This past summer while moving my parents to an assisted living home I began to overeat trying to deal with the stress. I have never been one to take anxiety meds. I have just always "tried" to deal with it. I am now 225lbs. and 5'4 feeling like I dont have a life anymore. My husband cannot sleep with me because I snore, I have no clothes that fit me, and I feel horrible about myself. Yes, the weight has caused many changes in my life. I feel desperate for support with women my age who are also trying to take back their lives. Loosing the weight I put on would be a start for me. I just do not know how to. What worked at 25 and 30 does not seem to work anymore. HELP!
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Registered: 02-27-2001
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 2:12pm

Hello, tansymom, and welcome to the Fit over 40 board.

Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty


 


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Registered: 01-03-2001
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 2:18pm
Hi and welcome to the board. I am so sorry for all you're dealing with now. I have to agree that what works at 25 and 30 doesn't always work in our 40s. It's easier to put weight on and harder

Miss P




 

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Registered: 08-02-2005
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 7:52pm
Hi there Tansymom and welcome to the FOF board. Well you found a great place for that online motivation you mentioned. This is a great place of wonderful ladies who know many of the areas you described. You are carring alot on your shoulders but you need to reconize you need to start working on and helping yourself or you won't be of any help to your love ones. Sounds like Nancy's post covered alot of territory. Like she said, please jump right in and feel free to ask any and all questions. We love new people and welcome you with open arms. Good luck, remember this is a journey that will take a while, but do not give up.......it will happen.

cl-Deb

cl-Deb

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Registered: 02-08-2001
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 10:09pm

Welcome to the board! I really can't add much as Nancy's post pretty much covered my thoughts. You certainly have a lot of responsibilities riding on you right now but we all need that time to take care of ourselves as well.

Hope you will post with us often. It's a great board with great women!

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-28-2007 - 11:30pm

Welcome! I can certainly identify with a number of the issues you have. Weight most definitely doesn't come off in our 40's and 50's like it did in our 20's or 30's. I remember the good old days of cutting back on calories for 3 or 4 days and dropping 5 lbs. (when I didn't really need to).

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Registered: 04-12-2003
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 4:32pm

Hi Tansy,

I know exactly how you feel! 3 months ago I was completely fed up with my weight, my lifestyle and just like you I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired"! My weight gain was due to being diagnosed with Cervical Spondylosis a couple years ago and I sat idle for 2 yrs, hoping that my back would improve while I became heavier than I have ever been before in my LIFE! What scared me the most was that I literally could feel myself slipping into depression. I didn't want to get out of bed in the morning (some days I wouldn't get up until 1 or 2 pm). When I finally crawled out of bed I was still so tired that I would fall asleep on the couch. The medications I was on made me crave everything that was bad for me so I was eating everything from fried foods, chips and donuts to just about anything I could put into my mouth. I just didn't care anymore! Like you, one day I got up and said to myself that it was time to get ahold of my life again and even though I knew I had back problems, I decided that I would at least try and see if getting back into a healthy lifestyle of working out and eating right again might help pull me out of the state of mind that I was in and THANK GOD it has!!! Trust me, if I could pull myself out of the state I had fallen into and get back on track, so can you. It's all about attitude!

You have taken the most important step towards finding yourself again. You've reached out for help. Everyone who has posted has given you some great advice. The rest is up to you. I'm not going to say that every day is going to be easy because in the beginning it's pretty tough. I still find myself not really wanting to get up and get going in the morning and there are times where I truly push myself to get my workout in. Every single time I force myself to "get moving", I am so thankful that I did because my entire attitude changes. After you've started seeing results, you'll be on your way. Losing weight is a pretty simple thing: Just burn more calories than you consume and you will lose weight. If you are like I was, you've probably been eating whatever you want so cutting the bad stuff out will be an adjustment at first. Everyone here has said "get moving" and that is probably the biggest aspect to starting to see the lbs shed. Plus, once you start walking or getting any form of excersize regularly, you will feel so good that you won't want to eat "the bad stuff". You will be sore at first but as the saying goes "no pain no gain".

Feel free to email me personally if you have any questions or just need some support. Congrats on making the decision to start getting healthy again. It's the best decision one can make in their life! You will be so happy you did a year from now when you're feeling like a million bucks!

J