That didn't go well

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Registered: 02-08-2001
That didn't go well
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Thu, 04-05-2007 - 8:02pm

I should have seen it coming a mile away. She quickly came over to tell me all about the conversation she had with coworker last night-she works quickly to cover her tracks-and how when boss man called in for messages she happened to mention coworker was coming in tomorrow and couldn't quite understand what his problem was. I confronted her that she had absolutely nothing to do with the whole conversation-who me? And why are you picking a fight with me and how I was "disrespecting her". Silence ensued until the screaming started and how I was a b***ch and we were all jealous of her-excuse me but not a bit of jealousy here.Then she went on about how we're all wierd and she's never worked anywhere with the likes of us and how everything was fine until coworker started. How convenient that she doesn't remember the other 2 women that she had shouting matches with and both of whom quit and at least one reason was her. I really thing that there is some kind of mental imbalance going on in that head of hers. She of course waited until boss was out of his meeting and went storming in and told him how I needed to be put into my place and how I was picking a fight with her. And then he started in on how he wasn't informed about the change of vacation plans and how there are two Gods in the office-him and his partner.I'm not sure how someone coming back 2 days early is inconveniencing anyone. DD called his reaction on this one. So why didn't he make the phone call yesterday instead of pushing it off on the associate? And so the shouting went on and on. Then I had to hear how she wasn't able to take this week of because the coworker had asked for this week off at the last minute-so not true since I was there when she was picking all her days for this and that and she asked me to take the week I usually like to take which goes into Labor Day and she told coworker to take the week since she wouldn't be able to take the week. The lies, half truths and convoluted thinking were quite amazing.

I really don't know what to do. DH wants me to look for something else and truthfully part of me does want to do that. The whole idea of starting over scares me. I'm not sure that I can start off fresh and make the money that I'm making and a paycut for me at the moment is not an option. I'm not even sure I would want to stay in the legal field but that's where all my experience lies. This whole thing has left a really bad taste in my mouth and really not sure whether I want to stay in this environment. I know there's always something or someone that can make the work environment not such a nice place. I know that I can't make a level headed decision at this point. I do think I have some serious thinking.

Definitely some stress eating going on. Entemann's cake for lunch and I have a Carvel ice cream up waiting for in the freezer! Tomorrow is another day and right now I'm going to drown my sorrows in a cup of vanilla soft serve!

susan

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Registered: 08-02-2005
Thu, 04-05-2007 - 9:38pm

Susan I was thinking about you and even talking about you (sorry) with the gals in my office. I gave them a run down about your Miss Sunshine and we all agreed she is missing some screws and needs attention. Unfortunatly she is getting the wrong kind. Sorry it did not go well. Was your boss there? The other partner did not come down on you did he? I know change is scarey but with your experience, manner, personality and the area you live in..........well something will open up. I would dust off the old resume, give it an update and start spreading the word. Things happen for a reason like Lori said and well maybe her reason was for you to find something better. (((((HUGS))))) to you and enjoy that ice cream!

cl-Deb

cl-Deb

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 5:39am
I'm sorry this didn't go well. There

Miss P




 

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Registered: 10-15-2003
Fri, 04-06-2007 - 11:15am
Hope things are better for you at work today.
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