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Registered: 02-27-2001
I need your opinion here.....
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Sun, 12-09-2007 - 9:00am

I'm curious about something.

Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty


 


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Registered: 01-03-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 11:20am

Miss P




 

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Registered: 07-16-2003
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 12:17pm

I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends.

 


Deb/MN



 

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Registered: 06-07-2005
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 12:56pm

Well, right now I am beginning to wonder if Deb/MN and I were separated at birth ...

Karen


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Registered: 02-08-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 2:04pm

I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends. Do you share everything with them? Not everything with everyone. There are certain people at home that when you share they're quick to put in well you should have done this or that. There's only friend here on the homefront that I can share anything and everything with as she can with me.

Do you share things that your husband asked you to not share? No, if he asks me not to share it stays with me.

Do you think it is being a 'bad friend' if you share something here with the board and not with a friend that you have at home? Absolutely not. I've found everyone here to be completely non judgmental as opposed to some people at home.

Do you think you can tell a friend that you don't agree with them and still expect that they will be your friend? Sort of depends of what the subject matter is. Sometimes I find it's just easier to sit and listen and not voice my opinion and other times I feel that I can voice my opinion as not sit in judgment of what they think.

Can you tell a friend that you are disappointed in the way they handled something and still expect that they will continue the relationship? Again, it might depend on the subject matter and how it affected the person or situation that they were handling.

Susan

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Registered: 02-27-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 2:21pm
Thank you ladies for your input.
Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty


 


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Registered: 11-15-2007
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 2:29pm

Sorry you are saddened by this Nancy especially at this time of year. But, you did make an effort to salvage the friendship and she is not interested. I hope you can get over the sadness (that awful gnawing in your gut) so you can enjoy the holidays. I have learned that this happens with some friendships and it IS hard but it is possible to move on. Try to

Be like a postage stamp.  Stick to it until you get there.

Bob Proctor

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 2:30pm

Nancy, I'm so sorry about your friend and her actions.As kind and caring as you are I can't imagine you doing anything to cause her reaction. I hope she rethinks it all and contacts you.


The woman who does my hair said she had been friends for 20 yrs with another woman. The woman was dieting drastically and lost alot of weight. J. voiced her concern, told her friend she cared about her and worried about her. The friend responded back that J was simply jealous because she couldn't lose weight. J had made several attempts to contact her friend

Miss P




 

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Registered: 02-08-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 2:48pm

Nancy,

So sorry that you're dealing with this. My very good friend had a lifelong friendship with a woman and when my friend was going through a divorce which she fully understood and stood by here and then when a church annulment became necessary for her to remarry her friend had written a letter that helped tremendously in obtaining her annulment. When my friend remarried this friend was very cold at the wedding to my friend and made a remark to her new husband about having taken care of the first husband and she could do it to him too. Despite my friend trying to contact her, inviting her to her new home there was always an excuse. My friend never understood what caused the change in their friendship and despite her efforts the friendship ended completely unresolved as to what had happened. Obviously my friend was very sad and bewildered about what had happened. As a last result she had written her a letter asking what she had said or what had happened to end a friendship that had gone back to childhood. To this day she has never had a response. Very sad and a very strange ending to a lifelong friendship.

Susan

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 4:54pm

I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends.

       ~~Rhonda~~


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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2001
Sun, 12-09-2007 - 5:49pm
Thank you for the input on this question.
Nancy

"Make Choices that bring you joy"  cl-Patty


 


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