I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends. Do you share everything with them? Not everything with everyone. There are certain people at home that when you share they're quick to put in well you should have done this or that. There's only friend here on the homefront that I can share anything and everything with as she can with me.
Do you share things that your husband asked you to not share? No, if he asks me not to share it stays with me.
Do you think it is being a 'bad friend' if you share something here with the board and not with a friend that you have at home? Absolutely not. I've found everyone here to be completely non judgmental as opposed to some people at home.
Do you think you can tell a friend that you don't agree with them and still expect that they will be your friend? Sort of depends of what the subject matter is. Sometimes I find it's just easier to sit and listen and not voice my opinion and other times I feel that I can voice my opinion as not sit in judgment of what they think.
Can you tell a friend that you are disappointed in the way they handled something and still expect that they will continue the relationship? Again, it might depend on the subject matter and how it affected the person or situation that they were handling.
Sorry you are saddened by this Nancy especially at this time of year. But, you did make an effort to salvage the friendship and she is not interested. I hope you can get over the sadness (that awful gnawing in your gut) so you can enjoy the holidays. I have learned that this happens with some friendships and it IS hard but it is possible to move on. Try to
Nancy, I'm so sorry about your friend and her actions.As kind and caring as you are I can't imagine you doing anything to cause her reaction. I hope she rethinks it all and contacts you.
The woman who does my hair said she had been friends for 20 yrs with another woman. The woman was dieting drastically and lost alot of weight. J. voiced her concern, told her friend she cared about her and worried about her. The friend responded back that J was simply jealous because she couldn't lose weight. J had made several attempts to contact her friend
So sorry that you're dealing with this. My very good friend had a lifelong friendship with a woman and when my friend was going through a divorce which she fully understood and stood by here and then when a church annulment became necessary for her to remarry her friend had written a letter that helped tremendously in obtaining her annulment. When my friend remarried this friend was very cold at the wedding to my friend and made a remark to her new husband about having taken care of the first husband and she could do it to him too. Despite my friend trying to contact her, inviting her to her new home there was always an excuse. My friend never understood what caused the change in their friendship and despite her efforts the friendship ended completely unresolved as to what had happened. Obviously my friend was very sad and bewildered about what had happened. As a last result she had written her a letter asking what she had said or what had happened to end a friendship that had gone back to childhood. To this day she has never had a response. Very sad and a very strange ending to a lifelong friendship.
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Miss P
I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends.
Deb/MN
Well, right now I am beginning to wonder if Deb/MN and I were separated at birth ...
Karen
I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends. Do you share everything with them? Not everything with everyone. There are certain people at home that when you share they're quick to put in well you should have done this or that. There's only friend here on the homefront that I can share anything and everything with as she can with me.
Do you share things that your husband asked you to not share? No, if he asks me not to share it stays with me.
Do you think it is being a 'bad friend' if you share something here with the board and not with a friend that you have at home? Absolutely not. I've found everyone here to be completely non judgmental as opposed to some people at home.
Do you think you can tell a friend that you don't agree with them and still expect that they will be your friend? Sort of depends of what the subject matter is. Sometimes I find it's just easier to sit and listen and not voice my opinion and other times I feel that I can voice my opinion as not sit in judgment of what they think.
Can you tell a friend that you are disappointed in the way they handled something and still expect that they will continue the relationship? Again, it might depend on the subject matter and how it affected the person or situation that they were handling.
Susan
"Make Choices that bring you joy" cl-Patty
Sorry you are saddened by this Nancy especially at this time of year. But, you did make an effort to salvage the friendship and she is not interested. I hope you can get over the sadness (that awful gnawing in your gut) so you can enjoy the holidays. I have learned that this happens with some friendships and it IS hard but it is possible to move on. Try to
Be like a postage stamp. Stick to it until you get there.
Bob Proctor
Nancy, I'm so sorry about your friend and her actions.As kind and caring as you are I can't imagine you doing anything to cause her reaction. I hope she rethinks it all and contacts you.
The woman who does my hair said she had been friends for 20 yrs with another woman. The woman was dieting drastically and lost alot of weight. J. voiced her concern, told her friend she cared about her and worried about her. The friend responded back that J was simply jealous because she couldn't lose weight. J had made several attempts to contact her friend
Miss P
Nancy,
So sorry that you're dealing with this. My very good friend had a lifelong friendship with a woman and when my friend was going through a divorce which she fully understood and stood by here and then when a church annulment became necessary for her to remarry her friend had written a letter that helped tremendously in obtaining her annulment. When my friend remarried this friend was very cold at the wedding to my friend and made a remark to her new husband about having taken care of the first husband and she could do it to him too. Despite my friend trying to contact her, inviting her to her new home there was always an excuse. My friend never understood what caused the change in their friendship and despite her efforts the friendship ended completely unresolved as to what had happened. Obviously my friend was very sad and bewildered about what had happened. As a last result she had written her a letter asking what she had said or what had happened to end a friendship that had gone back to childhood. To this day she has never had a response. Very sad and a very strange ending to a lifelong friendship.
Susan
I'm wondering what kinds of things you share with your friends.
~~Rhonda~~
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"Make Choices that bring you joy" cl-Patty
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