*~* Finding Your Focus This Friday *~*

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*~* Finding Your Focus This Friday *~*
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 6:12am

Good morning everyone. Booty, wondering how your ankle is doing? Donna, how is your hip/leg?


What you focus on is what you will see,” says Druxman. “If you look for the bad, you will find it.” Too many women spend too much time pinching their back fat, eyeballing their despised body part every time they look in the mirror, or constantly stepping on the scale.


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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 8:20am

Good Friday morning.........no exercise for me this morning. Woke with a killer headache around 5:45, took some Excederine, called Aunt Lyn and went back to bed until 7:15. I feel much better now and I am just finishing my tea and waiting for my turn in the bathroom. Sounds like that should be the name of a TV show or book........."Waiting for my turn in the bathroom!" Around here we just never know how that will turn out! With our horrible water pressure we can only run water in one place, run the sink or flush a toilet and man it is not a pretty site. Lots of yelling and wall banging, lol. Just love this old house! Well I am into work today and we are celebrating a co-workers bday, the lady who retired is coming in to join us. I picked up the plates, utensils and the bday card last night. Trouble is they want Mexican take-out and I am so worried about what to order and stay in plan. I am taking some yogurt with me and I will eat that around 10:00 then I also have some homemade pureed vegtable soup. I can disappear into the back, nuke it and pour it into my tea cup and know one will know I am eatting early. This way I do not fill up on what we bring in. Rounded out with a healthly salad for dinner tonight! I already told the family this morning that I AM going to the gym tonight to make up for not walking tonight. Please everyone remind me and push me! I figure after I get back from Katie's riding lesson I will changed and head over there sometime around 6:00ish.


Patty your message again hits home like always. I wanted to tell you that Katie and I were watching taped What Not To Wear shows the other day and one show was about a young woman (early 30's) who was a mother and worked part time. She only had one child about 4 years priors, well she was very embarressed about getting picked. I could here by her tone of voice, her facial expressions that she had such low self esteem about her body it was not funny. I said it and then a few minutes later Stacy says it. Katie looks at me like........wow mom. I understood that young woman so well, it was me. I cried watching that show because she was doing exactly what I do each day.........what you described. It is so sad and we (I) need to really change things. I do believe that the first change needs to come from within and that is hard. I am getting better but it has taken me a very long time and yet there are days I go right back into those negative thoughts.


Well I am off to find the hot water and enjoy what little is left. We have a gloomy day here on LI and it looks like the temps are going to start to drop. Talk of going out east tomorrow to see Daniel, if the rain holds off for a couple of hours. Have a wonderful day ladies................and remember to be your own best friend.

Debbie

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 8:25am

Good Morning,

Yet another gray start to the day. I don't know how you ladies deal with the grayness on a prolonged basis. They say the sun is going to shine...we'll see. I will say when I left work at 5 the sun was a bright orange and I actually had to put my sunglasses on. That means the days are getting longer and spring can't be too far!

Therapy went well last night. Although DH seemed OK with me going I sensed an undercurrent that he was either nervous and/or unhappy with the idea. My session went over and I had turned my phone off and forget to turn it on when I came out and DD tried to call me to find out where I was since DH was a bit on the agitated side. She had some interesting thoughts for me and I'll definitely be going back in two weeks. I can see why DD likes her so much. It felt so good to get so much of what's been going on out in the open and get her perspective on the situation.

I got home later that I had anticipated and was a bit wound although I was tired. I ended up staying up later than usual and had a hard time getting to sleep and staying asleep. I'm glad that it was a non exercise day since I'm tired this morning. Now I just have to fight off the food demons. One of the bosses felt the need to go and buy cookies for the office and one of my favorite clients brought in bakery cookies plus it's Bagel Friday. Lots of temptations. Hopefully I'll keep in mind that the scale showed a decrease of .5 and will help me triumph over temptation.

We do have a date for the wedding-8/7/09 at the place that DD really wanted. It really is a beautiful location.

So very glad that it's Friday. Our new coworker has been out the past few days with a sick child. When my other coworker talked to her yesterday they were going to test her for meningitis. We've had several deaths from meningitis here on LI so everyone is a bit nervous when someone is showing any signs of it.

Anyway, it's Friday and a payday. It's been a long work week and really looking forward to the end of the day.

I got my dresses from Bluefly yesterday. I was so impressed with their shipping. It came in the usual shipping box but the dresses were in a shopping bag and wrapped in tissue paper. Very nice presentation! I'll have to have DD give me an opinion but I think the long sleeved wrap dress is more flattering. The other one is a bit too clingy and actually I think it's a bit too long and a little too clingy in the wrong spots if you get my drift! Even with spanx it's just a little too clingy but then again I'm not a very good judge and bit a critical. The one that I like the best is the cheaper of the two which would be a very good thing.

Karen-good job on the workouts. I have quite a few of the LS tapes and an assortment of others and have always enjoyed using them. That woman should open her mouth and change feet after the remark...really just can't believe what comes out of people's mouths! Hope your DS back is feeling better. That was a great story about your DH and certainly a reason to be very proud!

Peanuts-welcome to the board! Always nice to have new members join with us!

J-Deb-how are you feeling? Scary situation for you.

Li-Deb-your getaway sounds fantabulous!

Lori-how's the ankle doing?

Donna-miss you around here! Hope the hip/back are doing better.

Margie-missing you too. Hope things are going well with you.

The rest of my mind is mush so I'll wish you each a fantastic Friday!

Susan

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 9:05am

Good morning! Patty, I think I'm finally comprehending internally this morning's message. I feel a difference in myself, and I hope it lasts. This is something I want and need to do. I feel a determination I haven't felt in quite a while. Also, I saw something in our paper last week about a dance group each Friday at a restaurant we like on the river. I really want to go, but don't even plan to ask Tim. I already know how he feels about it. He'd probably say no and if he did go he'd act as though he had bamboo spikes under his fingernails all night, so I wouldn't enjoy it. I did ask Rob and he said he might go, then I saw that you have to be 21. He's only 19. Drat! Maybe we can order

       ~~Rhonda~~


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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 10:48am

Good Morning everyone!

Karen


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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 11:56am

Good Morning

a little frustrated this morning..scale moved one day and went right back:(

what I have been doing right
1. Good food Have been in ketosis 3 weeks
2.water pretty good
3.exercise STELLAR

Problem scale NOt Moving.I feel Like my "look" has been changing a little but the scale is not cooperating Last time I lost weight was the first week in January

Solutions
1. LOG food Maybe im missin something

2. change diets for a week?
3. drink more water

Possible reasons for non-movement
1.starvation mode
2. Hormones-no ttom for 5 months usually by month 6 it will come back and scale moves?
3. Maybe My Pills are causing no movement(muscle relaxers)

anybody have any comments or ideas?
thanks:)
erin

Erin
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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 12:20pm

I like this.

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 3:31pm

Hello everyone...


Princess,

 


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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:19pm

Hi, all!

Be like a postage stamp.  Stick to it until you get there.

Bob Proctor

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:38pm

That is so good that you like the therapist and you are looking forward to going again. I was so

Be like a postage stamp.  Stick to it until you get there.

Bob Proctor

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Fri, 02-08-2008 - 4:43pm

Wish I had some words of wisdom why the scale is not moving for you Erin. It could be that Atkins may not work for you this time. There are people it does not work for and they follow it to a T. I think I am one of those people.


Maybe up the liquids more? Eat more vegetables? I wish I knew. Maybe try South Beach Diet? At least you can eat some carbs...the good ones on that plan.


I have to commend you on sticking to it for 3 weeks. Maybe you are losing inches instead of lbs right now. That does happen. Also, you could be losing belly fat which is what happens on SBD.


Good luck!


Grace


Be like a postage stamp.

Be like a postage stamp.  Stick to it until you get there.

Bob Proctor

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