I think he's trying to drive me nuts!
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I think he's trying to drive me nuts!
| Fri, 04-04-2008 - 5:47pm |
OK, the phone rang a few minutes ago and it was my FDH calling to ask if I'd like to grab a bite to eat somewhere. Now, this is the man who has no energy or desire to eat a regular meal at home when he lived here, and now he wants to drive 12 miles to meet me to have dinner out. I should have done this a long time ago! Just have to clean up from planting flowers around the pool in the mud. More later...

Miss P
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Smart lady!
Donna
Miss P
~~Rhonda~~
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Just seems like sometimes there are men and women alike that seem to be so much better when they're out of the "marriage" setting. Seems like Tim still really enjoys time being with you but can't seem to hold it together in a marriage.
He's lucky that he has you and your list for his doctors visits. Hope you'll be able to accomplish your list today.
Susan
Rhonda we all know you can not stop loving, caring and worring about someone overnight. Lets face it, Tim is not a bad person he just needs to realize he has different priorities then you and know one expects you to wait for him to open his eyes and realize it. You have waited and tried a few times. But either way you do care about him and getting him to make those appointments with the doctors and keep them is wonderful. Sometimes men are like bigger babies then our children. I think going with him and writing stuff down is great. I think he appreciates it too or he would not want you along. Course this will probley change but change won't happen overnight. Meeting for dinner is a great thing, you both need to connect on some level because you have a family together. I think by getting together also gives you the chance to talk about what is going on. Just so you know, in case I did not tell you.........my inlaws were seperated and divorced. All this brought on by my MIL because my FIL was drinking heavy and became abusive. She left him and moved in with us. Later upon coming back to NY she divorced him and it remained that way for almost 6 years. In the beginning she would leave when Dad came to visit us but after a while she stayed and they began to talk, before I knew it we were able to have "family dinners" together. Then began going out for coffee then dinner occasionally. Then one year she announced they were going to get remarried. We were shocked to say the least but I understood he was the only man in her life for almost 40 something years. He is a different person today then he was then.........it was almost a 6 year journey for him. Not saying what they have now is perfect but they both changed during that seperation time and I think both changed for the better. Whether your relationship with Tim changes and you travel down seperate paths and you meet other people or those same paths cross again and you begin another new relationship with him, its alright to be confused. I think driving you nuts unfortunatly is going to part of that journey. Just know we are all here for you.......anytime!
Debbie
Debbie