And then a bad day...

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And then a bad day...
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 9:23am
OK, this is how I know that if God takes a human form, God is not a women. First, if God were a woman, you wouldn't get a pimple the same time you started getting wrinkles, and second, there would be no such thing as the type of mirrors found in store dressing rooms with unyielding floresant lights above them.

After having four really good days, I stumble across a bad day and my reaction is the same: eat. In one day, I have my three year old ask me if I'm having a baby because "your tummy is big" and then I have to go to a pool-party (already it's in the upper 80s and low 90s here and it's only May) where I am the heaviest woman there - or at least that's how it feels. Does anyone else ever feel like they are the only one who's not in shape? I heard on the news that right now 60% of Americans are overweight but I feel like none of them live nearby. (Yes, sometimes misery loves company...)

Finally, if those two events weren't enough, I then have to find something to wear to my brother-in-law's upcoming wedding. "Show off you're best parts" the experts say but what happens when you've lost your best parts? Literally, I feel like I don't have a best part any longer. It was so painful trying dress after dress. The sales clerk bravely bringing the next one, saying "I'm sure this will look nice" only to find it doesn't go over my hips or I look like a piece of chintz furniture...And who needs to see what you like from behind? Really, I could do without that...Soooo depressing....I finally bought a dress - black of course - but I feel like I'm at the point where black doesn't even help.

I sound so pitiful. I'm sorry. I don't mean to but right now I feel like I'm so far away from my former self that I'll never get there again (and so I turn to the thing that has helped me to get to this position - food, and the cycle starts again. Now I'm thinking, "well June is only a couple days away. Maybe I'll start my diet on June 1st".)

Venting helps...

Thanks for listening

peg

PS: - cl vi_islandgirl: my friend said you can get free samples of True Lemon at www.truelemon.com. As I said, I think it's a good substitution for Crystal light because it's just powdered lemon without artifical sweeteners but it still has 0 calories and 0 carbs. Also, I don't know if you have any of them around you but you can buy Go Lean Cruch at Traders Joe's much cheaper then in regular grocery stores.

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 9:47am

Awww...Peg, I want to rush over and give you a big hug ~ because YES, I've felt all those things you're feeling too.

~~ Steffy ~~
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 10:05am
Steffy couldn't have said it any better!! We all know exactly what you are going through. I still feel that way even though I have lost a pile of weight I still have a pile to go and I still feel that way, but I just try to be content with my body because I know it will only be for a little while. Stay on the wagon Peg, you can do this. Don't think diet just think healthy eating. Don't let yourself feel deprived because you are eating healthy, instead feel proud that you are eating healthy.

Thay with it Peg, you are doing great!!! 4days of healthy living and eating is wonderful. Don't be discouraged it definately gets easier. I promise.

KIM
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 10:31am
It can and has been done... so NEVER say never... I went from 186 to 138 over a 2 year peroid... I still have a few to lose, and there was nothing easy about it... but as the other two said, don't "diet".. but change your ways, and the slower you do it, the more likely you are going to stick to it. Drastic changes during these times aren't helpful!! Your body will hate you for it...lol. Try changing one habbit for a couple weeks, then the next, and so on. Like, if you drink beverages with lots of sugar in it (doubt you do) then switch that first and try different low sugar or sugar free things... and see if you find one you like.. then, if you tend to eat more carbs for dinner than healthy protein or veggies, try slowly to change the portions... baby steps!! I totally believe in baby steps!! And for some reason, when someone has a terrible time getting started, I find that you are needing to set your goals way back. Go to half pound increments (or half pound goals) Make it your goal to lose a half pound each week. Only "diet" (if you must call it that) one week at a time. If you lost a half pound.. YEAH!! OR, if you lose a half pound at some point and the next week, you don't go back up, that's a YEAH too!! Any advice you need? Want to know some of my "stick-to-it" tricks (that's what Steffy calls them...lol) feel free to ask! And remember, when you are ready, you are ready!! Just recognizing and admiting you have a problem is a step in the right direction.. and often the biggest step to take!! There is hope! Don't give up hope!! {{{{{ BIG HUGS}}}}}

I'll throw some prayers in there too... they help!

~Pam

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:03am
You got wonderful advise already, so I will just say they are on the mark. Take it one day at a time. We will all reach our goals.

Just so you know I am usually the heaviest in the crowd so I know exactly how you feel. but get in that pool, go to the wedding and have a great time. Celebrate the good things in your life - like have parties to go to. You are surounded by people that love and accept you for you and not your size.

Have a great day. And remember every day is a great day to start eating healthy.

Robyn

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 11:17am
Steffy really hit the nail on the head. I just wanted to chime in my support for you. I, too, know how that feels. I have been reduced to tears with my children's innocent questions. They don't mean to be hurtful. I have finally got my mind set to do this. It has been long enough. I am down 30# in all and would love to see another 30 go away.

You are on the right track and with focus and hard work that track will take you to anywhere. Keep your chin up. You are doing something about it and that is what you have to do. Small baby steps. Take care!
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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:45pm

Isn't this board just *SUPER* and full of *SUPPORT*? The ladies have ALL given your great advice, and I know that it's coming from experience. Just yesterday I went swimming, with a few others, and usually I go alone, so I too went through- I felt like I was the biggest there- heck my boobs seemed to be just floating, lol- I was SO embarrassed! BUT I kept telling myself, you know 'they' (ppl I was with) are probably not even noticing them (boobs)!! I got over it, and did my best at enjoying my time there! (I also did the inconspicuous exercise of treading!)


We all have off days, the trick is to see it,

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:45pm
Peg - you definitely got good advice from everyone. Just want to say hang in there - I hope today is a better day!

--Erica

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:48pm
Right there with ya, Peg! I am having the same sort of day, only my main stress revolves around my 15 month old who has just learned how to have a tantrum! It's been very trying, and all I want to do is eat my way through the afternoon. But we can't go back to that old self! WE CAN'T!!!!! Just know that there are others just like you having the same struggles; you are not alone in this and we all have these trials! I hope you have a better tomorrow - sometimes a good day of feeling nasty is what it takes to re-focus the ol' healthy-body mentality. YOU CAN DO IT!!! YOU CAN!!! YOU CAN!!!

Linda

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:02pm

Peg, what a sucky day.

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Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:37pm

Okay. I admit I was laughing when I read this.


Why? Because. This morning, I see a nice red zit on my nose. Bleah. Then since I'm going to Hawaii, I AM trying to lose weight to fit into this really cute bathing suit, and since I live in LA, can they MAKE a larger suit? Noooooo..... Talk about living where all the beautiful ppl are. At LEAST, I admit this is mean, in Hawaii, there are so many Hawaiian, and Samoan women, I look tiny compared to them (makes me feel good y'know).


I also have a wedding to go to when I'm there. My cousin's friend. I'm my cousin's date. lol. She's a stick btw. A size 4. So, I'm trying to find something cute, dressy, but something I wont' sweat like a pig in. Pants are out, cuz it'll be too hot for me. So I'm looking for a nice skirt. I bought one, it'll fit if I don't have to sit, eat, or breathe. So, I need to lose weight.


And since I'm not feeling good about myself since I haven't kept up to my workout schedule, guess what's starting next week. Yup, you guessed it. AF. So, I'm hoping I'm just bloated and not fat.


My point. I hear ya loud and clear. And you GOT company in me....lol.


Hugs. I know how those days can just SUCK!

~Cher




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