Things are just NOT going my way!!!

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Things are just NOT going my way!!!
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Wed, 07-14-2004 - 11:15am

So, last night, I had my softball game. It was the playoffs. We lost the first one, so we played a double header for 5th place. Lost that game, so we came in dead last. Now, THAT does not bother me.


The shortstop threw a low stinger at me (I play first), and it bounced on the HARD infield ground RIGHT INTO my lower leg. Thankfully, it didn't hit directly on my shin, it would've broke it probably, but it hit the side into the shin. Lemme put it this way, EVERYONE said they could hear the WHUMP noise it made. OUCH!!! That didn't bother me either.


What BOTHERS me is the fact that I totally was planning on running tonight. BUT, I can't. I mean, I could, but most likely, it'd just aggravate the 5inx3in bump and bruise I have...and make it worse. Besides, walking on it hurts. I think it's the muscle surrounding the bone that is sore.


I'm all bummed. I mean. I have 14 weeks left. I'm having an outpatient surgury in late August that'll put me out of commission for 2 weeks (no exercise). So, that means, I need this leg to heal by Monday (possibly), so I'll have 5 weeks to start running, have surgury, then out for two weeks, and then have 5 more weeks again to get to that 5k. Honestly, I'm thinking I'll wait for registration until the first 5 weeks are up.


10 weeks with a 2 week break? They say, as much time as you take off from running, it takes double the time to get back up to speed.


AUGH! I don't think I'll be making my Oct 19th deadline.


I'm bummed. But maybe this is incentive for me to work HARDER before my surgury and work hard AFTER it.


Just in a bleah mood today.

~Cher




my pet!

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 6:14pm

Hahahahahahaha!!!!


Now all we need is some friends, a few more drinks (froufrou ones too), and a great locale. say....the bahamas?

~Cher

Ouch Hospital Bed




my pet!

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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:03am
I know we talked about this last night. After which I fell asleep on the couch watching 6 feet under. LOL

Anyhow, Having dealt with friends for a long time similar to this. This "friend" of yours and I say that loosely has never respected your friendship, she's always late, she cancels plans without calling, she leaves you hanging. She always considers you last in the decisions she makes, if she has plans with you and something "better" in her mind comes up she has always blown you off and done the other. To me, this wasn't a great friendship worth saving.

The mere fact that not once in a year did she ever pick up the phone and say "I miss you" says a lot. You have gone above and beyond and extended the olive branch and yet again she has proven that you never ranked high on her list. She is no friend. She has just proved it again.

Listen to the messages that the universe is sending you, you are a wonderful, caring, and fun person, you are nobody's doormat and your friendship is one to be enjoyed and relished in, not to be abandoned at whim. Recognize that you are better than this, recognize that you are not someone to just toss around and recognize that this is a very lonely and "ME" person that doesn't see her actions on anyone but what she wants and sees at that given moment. Some place in time she's going to find herself alone, when she's burned all her bridges with friends and she needs someone...there will be nobody to turn too, and ya know what she'll call you...and you'll be there for her during her time of need because you are a kind person...but never get sucked back into this person's life, she is not worth the time or energy.

After my divorce, I realized too many people took advantage of my kind nature, I always just let things roll off my back so as to not cause waves, but I've learned a lot, I'm a GREAT friend, if you called me at 2 am and was needing to talk or you were stranded, I would be there for you, and I don't want friends that don't have my back in the same manner.

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Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:55am

Does it ever get worse? OMG Cheryl, what's going on here? You poor thing!


OK....the BF- passive is one thing, but not to tell you about plans etc...just seems insensitive. I would agree with the others a little chatty-poo is needed. See what's going on in that head of his....


The friend....the what? No- don't think I'd be classifying her as one, and believe me I've had one just like what you describe in the past. Not worth it!! Yea it's painful to see it disappear- I know when myself and my friend 'split' it wasn't easy, for me at least. But as time went on I began to understand how important it was for me to let it go. I would get so disappointed when we had made plans and then if something 'better' came along she would ditch me....Now my friends are there- no matter what, and I for them too! Much better!!


The cell phone...I must be about the only person w/out one, so all I can offer is condolences on those roaming fees!


The leg...well I'm joining you on that one, so don't feel alone there!
We'll ice them together ;-)

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:02am
Hope you are better now.

My 2 cents. Men are odd - roll with it.

your ex BF - you made the effort the ball is in her court. Do something you have been wanting to do Saturday since you plans have changed.

Robyn

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:40am
I so agree with everything about the friend. I rekindled a friendship with someone I knew in elementary school needless to say I matured and she did not. The friendship lasted a year.

Robyn - not a door mat

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Mon, 07-19-2004 - 2:03pm

Thanks SS. And I agree. I gave her a HUGE chance, and she blew it. I was willing to be patient too, but this was a huge eye opener. I hope she's had her "fun" this past weekend, because I AM moving on with my life....without her.


I just wish some of you lived closer to me. It's so hard to make really great close friends....women friends. Well, it is for me.


Thanks again. What you said is all so very true. And I too learned that after my divorce. And yup, I don't put up with this. I didnt' just extend the olive branch, I handed it to her. Oh well. At least I see the "real" her 100% now.





my pet!

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Mon, 07-19-2004 - 2:07pm

IG,


What did you do to your leg?





my pet!

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 2:13pm

Thanks everyone for you support.




my pet!

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 3:14pm

Hey Cher, glad to hear that your leg is feeling somewhat better, and that you and your BoyF sorted things out.

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Registered: 08-18-2003
Mon, 07-19-2004 - 3:31pm

Hey there, Cher!

~~ Steffy ~~