What a week it's been...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
What a week it's been...
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Thu, 07-15-2004 - 12:38pm
At least 2 major weights have kind of been lifted: we got confirmation that my boss got the promotion and the bankruptcy proceedings yesterday were so easy, so that is all done!

So here's the weirdness about it all. Since my boss got promoted, she will be bringing someone new in to replace herself (it's not a position I could be promoted into at this stage, nor would I want to). Of course, this is a new source of stress because now we have to prove ourselves all over again to someone new. Yes, our old boss will be our new boss's boss - and she loves us all - but it's still that unknown that makes your stomach turn. Maybe it will be an awesome woman who supports women working from home if they have kids. But maybe it will be a slave-driving micromanager. Only time will tell. In the meantime, I do need to pick up a lot of slack around here until the position is filled, so it's going to be a little hairy.

The really good thing about all of this, though, is that it helped me see where my priorities are right now in terms of my career and my life as a mother. I want to have another baby (who knows, I may even be pregnant right now...stay tuned on that...) Having another baby means that once the baby is born, I'd be limited for about 2 years (assuming baby #2 is anything like Sam) as far as travel goes because of nursing and the way I choose to lead my life as a mommy. I won't be able to do overnights. Even day trips will be a pain while I am pumping. With Sam I pumped till he was 15 months old. I spent my first night away from Sam about a month before he turned two. So taking on a job right now that is so much more senior is just not an option. However, I do see a path that I'd like to get on, and hopefully this new boss will be supportive and helpme grow into it so that I don't stay in middle-management purgatory forever.

So then, finally - the bankruptcy is done. It all started when DH's business failed, because we had had to sign for things. Since we live in NY and rent our apartment and don't own a car, it really wasn't a big deal for us. Sure, about 10 years on our credit record, but we can get a new credit card now and we'll be able to buy something if we need to. Our lawyer was an idiot, though. They way we ended up with him is a long, silly story, but suffice to say he didn't even show up for the hearing! Can you believe it? He was totally late. So we jsut did it without him, and I frankly think that made it better because he probably would have messed it all up if he had been there! So then we went out for beers, and that was nice.

Of course all of this chaos totally screwed up my eating over the last few days, so I'm just going to try to get back on track now. No idea if I'll be able to make it to the gym today or not but I'll hopefully be able to get there a little later and pick up a new pair of sneakers first.

One day out of the office and I must have had close to 100 emails to get through and so many fires to put out. It's just madness.

Have a good afternoon, everyone!

--Erica

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 2:47pm

WOW, Erika, you've certainly been through the ringer!!

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Registered: 08-18-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 4:00pm

Whew... I got a little tried and stressed out for you, just reading your post.

~~ Steffy ~~
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 4:09pm
I don't know yet if there is another one on the way! I won't know for about 2 weeks, when AF should show up!

We've been doing a sort of quasi natural family planning (since Sam was born I am like clockwork and pretty plugged in to my body's signals), and without being too descriptive, what's going on down there seems like a woman who is still ovulating, not a woman who successfully fertilized an egg. So we shall see! But trying has sure been fun!

If it doesn't happen this month, then we'll see if we feel like trying next month or if we feel like waiting again.

We kind of wanted to wait until winter, because then by the time #2 would be coming, Sam would be starting pre-K. But no matter how you slice it, it's going to rock Sam's world, so I'm not super concerned about that right now. We had a really easy time getting pregnant with Sam, but I have no idea if this one will be easy or hard or what.

Either way is cool with me right now, but it would be fun!

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Registered: 05-17-2004
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 4:31pm

Wow girl, you have had quite an eventful week!

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Fear

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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 07-15-2004 - 5:30pm
I'm glad to hear at least your week was good. Or at least the outcomes are mostly good. =) Much more positive than mine. =) Good luck on the pregnancy.........

~Cher

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my pet!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 07-16-2004 - 8:53am

That is some week you have going on for yourself Erica-- glad to see the that bankruptcy proceedings ended well. As for your lawyer....argh!!! Does he work for a firm, or independent? ie. is there someone to complain to? I hope he didn't charge you an arm and a leg like most of them do. If they do their job well, their hourly rates can seem reasonable enough, but for someone who doesn't even show up on time....argh, once again!!


As for the new *boss* coming in, as you say- it could go either way. Hang in there and do what you can in the meantime, and feel the vibes when they show up for work. I'll be hoping for a great non-micromanager for you guys!


The maybe-baby.....keep us posted. You're in my thoughts ;-)

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