Kerstin, Bravo!! I have always flourished in groups that introduce me to others facing the same dilemna. Good luck to you and keep me posted. I have a girlfriend that is severely overweight and given this some thought herself. I would love to see her healthy.
Good for you Kerstin in taking that big step! Sometimes some outer help is really just what is needed- to see and hear things from another perspective. I know for me I like to do things alone too, and very rarely reach out and ask for help...but when I do it makes the world of difference in handling things.
Good luck with everything you're going through at the moment. You're in my thoughts honey! ~IG
Wow, that's a big step. Be very proud of yourself for taking it!! I went through a period in my life about ten years ago of overwhelming stress which caused me to have a bad relationship with food, poor self image, etc. I was successful in dealing with those issues through counselling. I can relate to how hard it is to admit to yourself that you cannot do this on your own. Don't look at yourself as a failure for needing support and advice from an outside source! You should see yourself as incredibly successful just for making this decision and taking this step! I hope you find the support, advice and peace that you are looking for. Keep us posted on your progress. Good luck.
They say the first step to finding a solution is to admit you have a problem. You've come close to it, so hey, that's the first step. =)
Also, I am/was like you. So stubborn, if I couldn't fix it, I was some failure. I didn't believe in shrinks either and thought they were for ppl with BIG issues. And over the years, do you realize I have learned now to change myself overnight? How scary is that?
I also went to see a shrink because, I finally admitted I had some HUGE problem in my life. Hey, I was married and divorced TWICE within 4 years, I had issues obviously. The scary part, I quit going once my shrink told me I had abandonment issues. I should go back and face up to them.
To be honest. I think ppl like you and me, we're not stubborn and pigheaded. I think we're just too scared to face the truth of the situation and we sure as heck don't wanna hear some person tell us our worst fears.
That's what I've LEARNED about ppl like me who refuse to try therapy and put all responsibility on yourself. We're just too scared to face the real truth, so we avoid it.
Think about it. Not saying go to a shrink, but think about your fears, more than being stubborn. I realized I feared being thin. Because I didn't want that attention. I feared I'd turn into my old self. So, I sabotaged all my weight loss. Fear of being thin and facing the truths that came with it, so I remained "fat".
Fear drives a lot more than what we'd like to admit to.
(I meant to say, think about this when you are up to it, as I nkow you've notably faced a lot already and have done a lot for yourself. =) I'm so proud. I am. Cuz I know how hard it is to face up to something and take action).
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I applaud you, Kerstin!
Well, as you may already know, it follows the 12 step theory, so we'll see if that is something I can cope with.
Thanks for the encouragement.
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Good for you Kerstin in taking that big step! Sometimes some outer help is really just what is needed- to see and hear things from another perspective. I know for me I like to do things alone too, and very rarely reach out and ask for help...but when I do it makes the world of difference in handling things.
Good luck with everything you're going through at the moment.
You're in my thoughts honey!
~IG
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Congrats on your hard decision.
They say the first step to finding a solution is to admit you have a problem. You've come close to it, so hey, that's the first step. =)
Also, I am/was like you. So stubborn, if I couldn't fix it, I was some failure. I didn't believe in shrinks either and thought they were for ppl with BIG issues. And over the years, do you realize I have learned now to change myself overnight? How scary is that?
I also went to see a shrink because, I finally admitted I had some HUGE problem in my life. Hey, I was married and divorced TWICE within 4 years, I had issues obviously. The scary part, I quit going once my shrink told me I had abandonment issues. I should go back and face up to them.
To be honest. I think ppl like you and me, we're not stubborn and pigheaded. I think we're just too scared to face the truth of the situation and we sure as heck don't wanna hear some person tell us our worst fears.
That's what I've LEARNED about ppl like me who refuse to try therapy and put all responsibility on yourself. We're just too scared to face the real truth, so we avoid it.
Think about it. Not saying go to a shrink, but think about your fears, more than being stubborn. I realized I feared being thin. Because I didn't want that attention. I feared I'd turn into my old self. So, I sabotaged all my weight loss. Fear of being thin and facing the truths that came with it, so I remained "fat".
Fear drives a lot more than what we'd like to admit to.
(I meant to say, think about this when you are up to it, as I nkow you've notably faced a lot already and have done a lot for yourself. =) I'm so proud. I am. Cuz I know how hard it is to face up to something and take action).
~Cher
Edited 8/19/2004 1:13 pm ET ET by cherbear017
Cher...how wise of you, and I'm glad that you've made such progress on your own!
Congratulations on taking a big step.
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