Approaching a different set of numbers..

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Approaching a different set of numbers..
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 11:00am
on the scale that is. I started in the 80's now I am hitting the 40's. I try to do the baby steps thing, so each set of numbers is an increment that I have accomplished. I am going on Friday morning to get my body fat tested. I do believe my home Tanita scale is all messed up. I keep it in the bathroom, the weight part is consistent, but the bf% is screwey. It just can't be right, seriously.

I am wearing a pair of my 31x32s that I have been eyeing for some time. I actually weigh less now than I did when I got prego with Ray. She was #4. Strange enough, I was really happy back then and felt sexy. Now I am just riding myself to the very last pound, wondering if that will make me feel "sexier" or if it from somewhere else I need to draw that conclusion. Dh adn i have been fighting like cats and dogs. We actually spent several nights apart over the last week and I am in the midst of doing alot of soul searching right now.

Hmmm...sorry, maybe TMI, but my bf in the world is in France (bad timing :-() and I am rambling....

So.....almost in teh 40's. I am going to be optimistic!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 11:46am

I'd love the option of putting two emoticons here ;-)


First off-


~~CONGRATULATIONS~~
Michelle that's terrific about the numbers on the scales,
and good luck on Friday with calculating your BF%!


Second of all-


{{HUGS}}
Sorry to hear you and dh are going through a rough patch.
Here's hoping that things smooth out soon for you both!

Moderation IS Key!

cl-vi_islandgirl
Getting Fit in Your 30's

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 11:53am

Hey Michelle, I'm sending you some big hugs right now!!!

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Registered: 04-14-2004
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 12:12pm
Thanks, IG adn Miranda! that really makes me think that it is just a slump. You're words were kind and hit the spot. Here's to hoping the 40's are better than the 50's. I am really proud of myself as well. Sometimes I think dh is threatened by the weightloss. Tamara, my dbf, says "duh!!". He does this every time I lose weight. Only this time, I won't get pregnant again...phew..LOL! I really do love him, but on the sex kitten note, there has to be a board for that, 'cuz that is a real issue right now. Through all teh anger and hurt, things ain't happenin' 'round this ol' house. All my calories are burned the hard way!
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Registered: 08-18-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 12:44pm

Hugs, Michelle...I don't have a lot of advice, I'm just letting you know that like you were told...there is no such thing as TMI here!

~~ Steffy ~~
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:38pm
Thanks, Steffy! That is the route I am going. I really want to do this for me. I finally have a healthy hobby! I just got out of the swing of things for a while. When we first met, prior to even dating, I was always at the gym! Not overdoing it, just taking care of business. It isn't that I have changed too much, just seems like ever since we got together all we've done is have babies...KWIM?
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Registered: 12-04-2003
Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:44pm

Hey Michelle, if you were a gym bunny when you were "single" and he sees a renewed committment to your fitness routine, he may be thinking that you are looking to recapture that part of your life, including the single part.

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 2:42pm
Good point, Miranda!
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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 3:09pm
I just wanted to tell you that I think your weight loss is awesome! I have 3 kids, so I know what an amazing job you've done.

As for DH, both of you will find your way back to each other again. Men need reassurance that they're #1 in their wive's lives.

I think he should be proud of you rather than insecure about your feelings toward him. Is he overweight? If so, maybe he feels that he isn't going to be worthy of your affections and that you'll think less of him because he isn't making an effort to get fit.

Shannon

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Wed, 11-10-2004 - 3:20pm
Hi, Shannon! Welcome (kinda late, I know). He is not at all heavy, as a matter of fact, I long for his metabolism. Dh has known me for a really, really long time. I don't know if that is good or bad. he has known me through a couple of really, really close boyfriends and practically knows nearly everyone I have ever dated. He just was a friend back then, but he knows who I am, ya know? He is not the same type of guy I would date, build, age, etc. I think everyone here is really on to something, and I think the last few weeks of no emotion and no hanky-panky are weighing heavy on our minds. Yes, Ihave wondered if this was going to work out. I hope it does!

Ladies, thanks so much! I have seen other points of view that I may have been upset hearing from dh, thinking he was just being insecure.
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Registered: 08-18-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:10am

Michelle, I'm glad you saw another couple viewpoints.... maybe you'll be better armed to air things out and smooth over them!


I'll play devil's advocate on this one...him being insecure is a bit natural.

~~ Steffy ~~

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