Can you help me find a direction

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Can you help me find a direction
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Tue, 03-29-2005 - 7:06pm
Hi all
I'm starting to feel discouraged and need some help sorting out my next steps.
I know what I am supposed to do, and I know how to do it, but I feel like I need some real support in day to day stuff. I need to be accountable to someone for what I eat and what I do. Here's the problem, I live in a very remote area. The closest Weight Watchers is over an hour away, at 7pm and I have small children so it's really not practical to be away at dinner and bed time. The closest OA is a few towns over, but it's the same night as my son's cub scouts (I'm his den mom, so I really need to be there and I committed to it before finding out what night OA met.) There is another meeting on Sunday nights, but again, it's over an hour away and I'd be getting home after 10pm, which is really tough.
I have gym equipment at home and I"m pretty good at using it, so I can't really justify the expense of joining a gym.
My husband is very supportive, once I tell him what I need. I'm not sure what to tell him, but I am starting to feel out of control. I've talked to other moms about making a support group, but so far it hasn't really happened and I'm not sure I'm comfortable weighing in in front of friends.
So, I guess my question is, what has worked for you guys? I'm in essentially the same crunch as everyone else. Time is valuable and my schedule and finances limit what I can do. I have tried using the board for support, but it is really easy to avoid the computer when I know I've screwed up. Sometimes I lurk, reading other posts but not sure what to post about my day. I enjoy reading everything, but it's hard to 'fess up when I've messed up.
Any suggestions would be great!
Karen
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 03-29-2005 - 7:40pm

Hi Karen-- glad you decided to delurk and come out to join us! You know it is hard to be completely honest with others sometimes, especially when you are disappointed with yourself but, as I'm sure you've seen, the ladies here are full of support, and never judge.


I can see where you don't want to go to WW or OA, or even join a gym. A support group with the ladies in your local area would be wonderful; but as you say it just hasn't materialized yet. So, join us! Start a journal in our journal folder-- the busiest part of our board at the moment. There's just so much these ladies have to give and offer to each other.


Hope to see you join us for the encouragement you're looking for-

~IslandGirl


*** Moderation Is Key ***

Getting Fit In Your 30's
cl-vi_islandgirl


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Registered: 12-04-2003
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 10:38am

Karen, fessing up to a bad day is something that most of us find tough.

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Registered: 03-29-2005
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 5:08pm

Hey Karen,


Good for you for posting! I also am working on my tendency to disappear when things aren't going well, so I hear you. The journals look

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Wed, 03-30-2005 - 6:48pm
I'm going to try the journaling. I loved fitday in theroy, but in reality I tended to log breakfast then get busy with life and not get back up to my office until after dinner, then I had to go back and try to remember what I ate. (I always seemed to remember what I wanted to eat, which wasn't always reality.)
Thanks for your help.
Karen
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Registered: 12-04-2003
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 10:10am

Karen I agree about not remembering everything I ate, which is why I try to write things down in a notebook or on a piece of paper when I eat it, and then just transfer it to Fitday when I can!


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Registered: 08-18-2003
Thu, 03-31-2005 - 12:19pm

Hi Karen...and welcome to you, from another mostly lurker.

~~ Steffy ~~