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| Fri, 06-17-2005 - 7:07pm |
Hey everybody,
I have vowed to lose weight so many times. Usually right after a good meal, or indulgence. But I never carry it through. I am at work right now, and I don't have a scale handy, but I weigh about 145-150 lbs, and am only 5'2". It is a lot for my frame. I wear a size 12 jeans, or occaisionally 14, depending on who makes them, and can usually get a medium or large top. My doctor puts my ideal weight at around 115.
I know I have some major work to do. I get very discouraged, and I lose my motivation easily. I dislike the gym, I don't have one very close to my house, and I don't have a car, so a trip to the gym is at least a three hour ordeal. Also, I live in Vancouver, BC, Canada, and it rains a ton here. When it is sunny, I like to rollerblade or bike ride or walk, but I am not a big fan of the rain. I am not making excuses, I am trying to see the truth of my patterns for once. I get picked on by my mother. She hates how I look and insults me a lot. I have asked her repeately to back off, but it doesn't work. I have a very sedentary job, I sit at a desk most of the day. I suffer greatly from depression. I have been separated from my husband for a year, but the relationship was bad for a lot longer due to his cheating. I know deep down part of me blames my weight for it. I hope it isn't true, but I will probably never know. He also used to complain about my weight, insult me and try to force me to go to the gym.
I am very scared about trying this, but I would like to be healthier, get out of breath less quickly, and have more energy. I am tired all the time. I don't have great circulation (a family condition) so my fingers and toes are usually cold, and I think if I lost some weight it would relieve some of the strain on my system.
I will lurk for a while, and try to get some tips and inspiration. And I will come back and post my real weight once I have it pinned down. I have been posting on the Surviving Divorce board for about a year now, and it has helped immensly, so maybe I can get the same help here.
Thanks, everyone. Take care. I have a profile, take a look. Message me if you want, or visit my homepage.
L

I am 31 years old, take Effexor for depression (300mg daily) and am on the pill, tho I think with the state of my love life I can go off that at the end of this month! LOL! No kids.
Hey there L, and welcome to the 30's board! Starting off on a weight-loss program can be overwhelming...thinking of so many things to change, etc... One piece of advice I'd like to offer is to start off slowly. Choose one aspect to work on for a week, then the following week add something else to it.
Here are some tips and reminders to keep in mind:
EXERCISE is vital to any weight loss plan. Exercise will help you reach your goals quicker, and enable you to begin living a healthier lifestyle. Your energy level will improve drastically and you'll feel better!
WATER is another key element. It helps you feel full, and it also causes the fat to break down easier in your body (and leave!). Thirst often disguises itself as hunger, so when you feel hungry, try drinking a glass of water first. Wait 10-15 mins and if you are still hungry, THEN have something to eat. The standard daily recommendation is 64 oz, OR one-half your body weight in ounces.
JOURNALLING can be a major help in determining what changes need to be made in your food plan, as well as in your mindset. By journalling your food, your moods, and your reactions to different situations, you can easily see patterns that need to be broken, and begin the steps to do so. A good journal on line can be found at http://www.fitday.com
MODERATION is a huge component. And becoming our board motto! There
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Welcome. Visit us often. there are a lot of positive people here.
I know it is hard but try not to let you mom's comments get you down. She may not know how to properly communicate with you.
I too have a sitting down job and exercise can be hard. But you will figure it out - stay positive.
R
Welcome Browngirlie!
Welcome L! I am kinda a newbie to this board tho I have been a lurker for more than a year. There is alot of motivation and sound information here.
With that said, I also want to say that I have been where you are....what you need to keep in mind is that life is a journey and getting healthier is something you do on this journey. When you are on a journey you will start and stop along the way and that's ok...it wouldn't be a journey if you didn't. Allow yourself whatever it takes...your worth it. You mentioned that your mother and ex treat(ed) you badly. That's their mistake but don't join them. My family too is very negative and think they are helping. The biggest thing I did to work on my problem with that was stopped joining in. I work very hard not to join in and beat myself up about my health, my weight, my parenting skills etc...and it works...they have noticed that I am not putting up with it and thus are doing it alot less. I also tell them I need you to support me in this(definte something specific) and then allow them to try. In my opinion, and it is just my opinion (I know we all have em!) You should start by accepting yourself and all that makes you the human being that you are. Each day find one thing about yourself that you like and tell us about it. Telling others is the hard part but I know it will help you to build the strength and endurance you will need to keep traveling your journey but in a healthier light.
Looking forward to sharing more with you...
Mel