Have you been "lapped"?

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Have you been "lapped"?
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 10:57am

A major national women's magazine wants to know...


Have you been "lapped" by a sibling or a close friend?


Has a college roommate beaten you to the punch in buying a house? Did your younger sister get married before you? Did your best friend have a baby before you? Did your dieting buddy hit her goal weight before you?




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Registered: 12-04-2003
Mon, 10-17-2005 - 11:26am

Ohmigosh!!!

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Registered: 02-19-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 2:19pm

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Thu, 10-27-2005 - 3:22pm

Don't know if this counts as being lapped or not.


I work with 2 men who constantly brag on how smart their children are and/or how athletically inclined they are. They, of course, take full credit for what great individuals there children are.


Now my kids aren't by any stretch of the imagination dumb or unathletic. However, they get As and Bs and yes one gets Fs. One is often and on in trouble at school but does great at his job. I don't force my kids to excel I do have expectations but want them to have their own drive for the things they love to do. One of my girls is strong willed and the other is a tantrum thrower. Despite consequences it's always a hassle for them to keep up on school work and chores around the house. However, they are fairly respectful of authority and are kind individuals with the exception of sibling rivalry that rears it's ugly head occasionally.


This makes me feel when listening to my co-workers that I some how missed the boat as a parent for having less than perfect children.


Funny thing is I rarely hear a woman brag about their children's perfection. Well one exception but her adult children still live with and she packs their lunch every day.

Gretchen


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Registered: 04-19-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 11:41am

I've been lapped so many times I'm dizzy.

There is about 20 people in my office, in the last year 3 have gotten married, 4 have had babies, ones wife is pregnant and 3 more are engaged. The remainder of the office is already married except for me and the lone girl that sits behind me.

I go to family parties and the cousins younger then me have boyfriends/girlfriends/babies/engaged/married. And here I am with neery a date once in a blue moon.

It's not too good on the old self esteem.

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Registered: 10-26-2004
Fri, 10-28-2005 - 3:07pm

My younger sister did indeed marry before I did, and I pretty much knew she would. She also has two kids, one boy and one girl, but that's OK because I don't want kids.


The annoying thing now though is that my best friend is getting married next June. She and I are just a few months apart in age. Her engagement and wedding plans are just perfect. SO now says he wants to marry next year too, however, we're not engaged, and I've told him I cannot plan a wedding, even a small one, until he asks and we set a date. BTW this same best friend, whom I do love dearly, beat me and was the valedictorian, making me the salutatorian, by something like .015ish difference in our GPAs.


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Registered: 12-04-2003
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 11:20am

Dee, I think once those little sisters/brother of our friends start getting married that's th worst.

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Mon, 10-31-2005 - 12:39pm

I know I can't complain, but I will. lol. During the time I was with K. I saw about 6 couples get married. Most of them had met AFTER we started dating, and got married BEFORE we did. That was downright depressing. However, after two marriages of my own, who am I really to complain?

However, one part I do feel lapped...is in my career. Because I don't know what I wanna do, and I'm trying to figure it out. And well, ppl who are 23 have careers. :( Heck, my friend's, younger sister. Has a great job, got 3 promotions already, and graduated college about a year before me. She's also 5 years younger than me. boo hoo hoo.

At least I'm okay with the kid thing...since I don't want any. However, it's hard to lose my friends to their babies.

ETA: I was thinking. For myself, it's not so much being lapped, as it is more of a "btdt now what?" feeling. I mean, I had the husband, house, dog, cars, etc. Then I got divorced. Hell, I got married twice and most of my firends weren't even married once. I feel like, now what? I've already done it all. lol




Edited 10/31/2005 1:43 pm ET by inkeddogmom