Diet sabotage? Please help.

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Registered: 04-03-2003
Diet sabotage? Please help.
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Sat, 02-04-2006 - 11:39am
My younger sister and I have been trying to get fit for the past few months. I finally dropped 10 pounds, but it was a slow and steady loss brought about by careful portion control and daily jogs. My sister has stayed the same weight (although she looks wonderful as she is). The problem is, whenever we go out to eat, she complains that we don't "pig out" like we used to. At least once a week she asks when we can sit down again with a pint of ice cream each and a large pizza to share between the two of us. At the grocery store yesterday she tried to put a box of Oreos in my cart, saying that we could split it while watching TV that night. I dont understand why she is doing this. I tell her I dont mind if she eats cookies or pizza in front of me, but she says she is trying to lose weight too so wold feel guilty eating junk food if I'm eating healthy. How do I get her to stop tempting me? This morning she asked me to give her a set date on which we can go to the Indian buffet and pig out "like the good old days." Honestly, I don't ever want to go back to the good old days because constantly stuffing myself made me feel sluggish and bad about myself. I am trying to stay strong, but it is hard when my sister acts like I am no longer as much fun to hang out with. What should I do, if anything?
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Registered: 04-09-2003
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 12:31pm

Stick to your guns for starters! Sounds like you are doing a great job so far. However, if your like me there will be a weak moment whether it's a bad day or whatever it is that makes you want to turn to food and you might give in.


Think you really need to sit down and talk to her and tell her that is not a part of your life style any more. Ask her she'd be willing to find away to spend time together that doesn't involve eating. Go to a movie instead, go bowling, or take a class together ethier at the gym or just something you both might be interested in.


It's so hard when it's family. You don't want to hurt their feelings or risk the relationship.


Good luck to you I'm sure you will be able to work something out that is great for both of you!


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 02-04-2006 - 4:57pm

What a shame that she is doing this to you....I would tend to agree with Gretchen here:


BE STRONG!
STICK TO YOUR GUNS!


Definitely a sit-down conversation is needed with her. And you know you can still go out, and have fun, just like the good old days, but with some differences! If it's hanging out she wants to do, food doesn't necessarily have to play a big part in it. Let her know your true feelings....good luck!


~IslandGirl





You can't reach your dreams lying down!




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Registered: 12-04-2003
Mon, 02-06-2006 - 11:58am

First of all, congratulations on losing those 10 pounds!

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Mon, 02-06-2006 - 1:18pm

My thought to add is.........

If your sister is relentless and you don't want to be mean to her or anything, then GO ahead to that Indian food place, or eat pizza and ice cream, just don't eat AS MUCH as you used to.

I RARELY see an overweight Indian person (who eats mostly Indian food). So, just don't overdo it. As for pizza and ice cream. Limit yourself to two slices of pizza and a very small portion of ice cream. And put it in a small bowl. You CAN participate, and hey, if your sister still gets upset about you not "pigging out" with her, even if you're eating the food, just say, "y'know sis, my stomach doesn't expand that way, and when I eat too much, I feel sick".

I know when I was eating healthy, almost ANY greasy, fattening food would make me sick. And even a happy meal would fill me up to the point of "stuffed". Lie if you have to. I only suggest this route, if you feel uncomfy being upfront with her. :)

Hugs. And good luck.