skinny friends, gotta love em

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Registered: 03-21-2006
skinny friends, gotta love em
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Tue, 03-21-2006 - 2:30pm

My four closest girl friends, the 4 I see constantly and keep in close touch with are tiny little things. I was once tiny too. Until about 4 years ago when I slowly started putting on weight.

My skinny friends will sit there and dog themselves about "how fat they are getting" when they are a size 2!! I really would like to know what are they thinking when I'm sitting there at 175 lbz size 13/14?????

They don't think b4 they speak and I know they mean no harm but it is hard enough now being the "fat friend" which is exactly how I feel.

I have a vain side too. I've taken very good care of myself with the exception of this weight gain. My friends are also very vain. One of these girlfriend's of mine even replied to me after saying how I was finally back at the gym "oh good Jen because you have such a pretty face.." why didn't she just stick the knife all the way in and continue saying "too bad your such a whale."

I would never allow them to know that they get to me. I just want to know how you other gals cope with the "skinny" friends and co-workers in your life. How do you keep your self esteem up when around them knowing that your close to 2x's there size??

It is getting to the point where I'm hardly going around them right now til a lot of the weight is off. No good huh?

I love my girlfriends and I love spending time with them, I totally recognize that this comes from within and that they should have no bearing on my confidence and how beautiful I feel but IT DOES!! I am human afterall.

BTW the girl who commented on "my pretty face" her husband is even worse and I think she barely eats cuz if she does he comments!! GRRRR this makes me so mad!! He always comments about her gaining weight and makes it perfectly clear that it would be unacceptable.

My ranting is done lol.

Reply pleaseeee!!!!

Everythang is Everythang
-Jen

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Registered: 12-04-2003
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 10:53pm

Jen, I'm so sorry you felt some of the posts were harsh.

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Registered: 09-15-2005
Tue, 03-21-2006 - 11:05pm

Jen,


I wanted to say I'm sorry if I was one of those people. You need to understand where I'm coming from. Here is a woman posting, talking about how her friends are criticizing her and being kinda mean. A woman who then said she's going to lose weight so she can "belong" again, to here size 0/2 group of friends. A woman whose weight is from something deeper and all her friends can say is, "good because you have a pretty face".


To me, I see friends who are being unsupportive and a woman who's choosing ot lose weight for the wrong reasons. And well, I would hate for you to walk down that path, of being someone you're not, for other people.


With that said, if you are losing the weight for yourself, because you are unhappy with what has happened, great. If the weight gain is a symptom of something deeper, may I suggest therapy (I am a big proponent of therapy).


Trust me when I say, everyone is looking out for you, your peace of mind, and choosing to lose for healthy good reasons. That's all we want for you.


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